He is a muslim Iman and is so sweet & respectful I really admire him....However I'm looking at long term, I'm very independent and strongly opinionated I like him alot but what type of problems can I encounter and how can I effectively deal with it. what should I do ?
2006-09-21 01:48:27 · 14 answers · asked by Blaque Inque 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was with one once and at first i was taken by all the nice qualities.. but ultimately, you realise you're betraying what you really believe in your heart of hearts (i'm assuming you have another God you worship).
Issues like how to bring up your kids will be one of the potential points of contention if you are in this for the long run.
My personal take is, don't.
I loved him, but it just wouldn't work. So save yourself the heartache now.
2006-09-21 01:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remain friends only. His sweet & loveable attitude will change if you two get married. He will inisist that you become muslim. In the muslim religion women are regarded as property and are to be seen but not heard. ...and he will break you of being very independent and strongly opinionated because those two things are forbidden to women. You will also be expected to change your wardrobe as well. Traditionally married muslim women can't wear anything that exposes their arms/shoulders, torso, and leg above the ankle. He might also expect you to have your nose pierced right behind the crease on the left side with small stud jewelry.
I worked with a woman whose parents were missionaries. She grew up in the Phillipines and married a muslim man. Before she was married she was much like you...indepedent and opinionated. He forced her to become muslim and broke her of her independence and being opinionated. When she spoke of her husband you could see the fear in her eyes. It was obvious that she was afraid of him even if she didn't act like it. She also had to trade in her jeans, t-shirt, and sneakers for traditional muslim women's clothing and sandals or flip flops. She also had to get her nose pierced on the left side in the crease and was not allowed outside of the house without it.
2006-09-21 02:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by ModelFlyerChick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no problem
(if for u is ok that woman have no the same rights of the man, if for u is ok have others co-wifes, if for u is ok to say that at the end all the world will be muslim and all the ppl tht is not have no rights)
(life is long)
2006-09-21 03:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure they do, yet you incredibly, incredibly, incredibly, could paintings at it. You did no longer say what your faith is. without that info, this is going to be difficult to respond to. in case you think of can paintings, pay attention for while or in case you have young ones. once you have young ones pay attention for combating over which faith you get tear the relatives aside. permit the youngster choose what they're going to have faith in! That way you will no longer combat over the youngster & the relatives can nonetheless stay a relatives. wish it works out.
2016-10-01 05:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a non-religious person and its scenarios like this that piss me off. You should be able to date whomever you want without having to worry about his religion and whether or not its acceptable to / with yours. Damnit - so long as he is a human heterosexual is MY first and most important requirement.
2006-09-21 01:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes they do. You have to work through the differences and be understanding of each other's different religeous viewpoints, and not let it interfere with the relationship.
2006-09-21 01:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends if you are tolerant people. I f you respect each other neither one of you will try to I'm guessing in the future he might try to "convert" you
2006-09-21 01:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by enigma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now, once he "has" you, he'll want to convert you and use guilt tactics so you see things his way. He's not going to show you that part of himself just yet.
2006-09-21 01:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babe, find your self a nice Baptist, muslim marriages are very hard and women are considered property in that religion......don't sell yourself short. trust me he is nice now..........if you marry him.IT WILL Change
2006-09-21 01:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by answering 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They DO NOT work. Find someone with your same beliefs.
2006-09-21 02:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋