Just out of curiosity really, as I've heard many stories of "1 or 2 month's salary", jsut wondered if there is a 'standard' amount that people tend to spend?
2006-09-21 01:47:43 · 50 answers · asked by Andy F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Unless you want to spend the rest of your life in misery, my advice to men is to look at what her friends are wearing. She is going to compare or be compared by her friends, like it or not, fair or not, that's the way its going to be.
Spend some time with her and her g/f's particularly the married or engages one's. Look at what they are wearing "smile big, say "oh that is such a beautiful ring, may I see it closer", then take a good look" Tell them how wonderful it looks on their hand, how nice the sparkle is, whatever you have to. What you are looking for its the style of ring. Small diamonds? Diamonds and gemstones? Rocks that could be doorstops? Get her something that looks like what they have, but is unique to her.
What I mean is that is all her friends have 1 carat stones and your get her a 1/2 carat or 2 carat, she is going to be the victim of talk. "oh that poor thing, he must not think much of her or who is she trying to show off too, does she think she's better than us?" Stupid as it sound, you should pay attention to what I'm saying.
Look at her other jewelry. Women usually prefer either silver or gold. You would want to get a plantinum ring if she prefers silver.
So in answer to your question, find out what she wants, what is worn by her peers and then match that to the amount of money it will cost to get it. Don't let a jeweler talk you into anything else, remember they work on commission and they aren't going to be there the first time she gets mad at you and brings up the ring. And she will.
Good luck.
2006-09-21 02:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get so annoyed by girls that say it has to be a certain size or price etc, sure if you can afford a month's salary then good for you. Most men can't and I would not expect my b/f to spend that much, after all, he still has rent and bills to pay and he has a life to live, i don't think a month's salary is realistic for most people. I would not honestly put a price, but I would hope he would be sensible and remember that a ring is just a physical symbol, and to be honest a proposal without a ring would suit me, the proposal itself is the important thing to me, not the ring.
2006-09-21 23:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the accepted standard is between 1 and 3 months salary. So propose when you are a student and have no salary, thus allowing you to be cheap. Alternatively find a girl who doesn't want an expensive ring.
2006-09-21 01:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Steve-Bob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important to spend what you can afford. Don't go overboard, the wedding will be expensive enough and at the end of the day you want a marriage not just a big ring.
My fiance asked me to marry him but wanted me to pick my own ring, i chose a beautiful white gold and diamond ring for just £100!
It was perfect for what i wanted. I even managed to find a beautiful wedding dress for £240 and got the price on that down to £150. We have actually saved £6000 for our wedding but if we can still have our perfect day for less money it means we can save some for when we have children.
2006-09-21 02:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Dancing Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It Used to be a months salary, but you'd get a pretty nice one for 300 quid. Don't go for a big diamond, too expand doesn't suit everyone. Try and find out what her favourite gem is and get one in a cluster like for example a sapphire and diamond cluster - nice, and less expensive, or three to five smaller diamonds in a line would be bout 450-700 quid.
Also bear in mind the type of gold it's made of - when you get married if the wedding ring is a harder gold (or vice versa) one will wear away the other. so make sure they are both 9ct (harder but cheapest) or both 18ct gold (softer but more expensive)
2006-09-21 02:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by MrsMac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a ring that both you and she like, and feel is worth the asking amount, would love a ring with history, rather that a brand new one, r even just a handed down through the family! my mom has her mothers rings, i like to think that one day i can too pass whatever ring i have on through my family.
one of the best places of a ring of any price that i know of it the birmingham Jewlerry Quater, full of individual jewlers that will make a new ring, or adjust one they have to the design you wish, also they have many old rings for sale.
as for the snandard price, my brother recently got married, and my best friend is getting married this weekend, and as for what the spent on rings, it wasnt the month's salary, it was the amount they felt they could afford, and wha both women were comfortable wearing! i know i wouldnt like to wear a £1000 ring, i would be too scared of loosing it, but a £50 would be too cheap, just spend what you are happy spending and what she is happy wearing.
Jess.x
2006-09-21 02:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by Little brew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest when you see what you can afford you'll really like one about £500.00 more!
Just look at what you are getting for the money.
I went into my local high street jewelers and came out none the wiser!
I Learned though that diamonds is not about the size but also about the quality of the diamond just take advise!
The one I bought for my wife is internally flawless and best colour white you can get mounted in platinum and is .49 of a carrat... For the same price I could have bought a 2.49 lesser quality diamond but would have looked too big for finger and will not be worth as much should she ned to sell it...
As they a diamond is forever if you save well it needn't take quite that long to pay for it!
Good luck !
And Congratulations!
2006-09-21 02:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by coulditbemanilow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the type of girl that you are going out with. If shes the kind of girl that likes really expensive things then you'll need to get yourself another job. But if she is the kind of girl that doesn't just want you for what she can get then about £300-£1000 would be enough (as long as the ring looks nice remember she'll have to wear it).
2006-09-21 01:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by NJAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just spend what you can afford to spend, its a ring that will have sentimental value, its not an insurance policy that will pay out the proceeds in 10 years time, if you love each other what does it matter what the ring costs.
2006-09-24 12:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how much you can afford, bling seems to be the only important thing in life now so push the boat out however don't be surprised when you can't afford a new fridge freezer even when it starts making a horrible buzzing noise that keeps you awake in a couple of years time.
2006-09-21 02:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋