later from out of town you call no where to be found. all is forgiven,but i told her i did cheat. she keep throwing the fact i cheated in my face, bet she want edmit that she did. she said he was not there come to find out he was there. what should i do if i think they had sex but don't know, but little clues she still talks to him the baby is all most 2 he seen the baby 2 time. she says he calls her to speck with the baby what shoud i do?
2006-09-21 01:36:11 · 9 answers · asked by carl w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are a lot of problems already into your relationship with this gal and if you don't get a handle on them all, you and she could be going in different directions sooner then you think....
Talk to her and have controlled arguments if you must argue at all, be mature about the isues and in life, you both made mistakes yet it is not too late to forgive and go on making the future better! Remember there is a child involved here as well and you both need to get your shi_ toegther for the child's sake, sounds like you are the only father figure the child will have. I can see why it would be important for her to keep in contact with him, he is her babbies daddy but limits can be set! She may feel as though it is the only way she is going to get him to be more of a father and see his daughter, can't say as I blame her although it is wrong to have to have s_x to get him to be the way he should, yet in her mind it might make sence but trust me she'll will eventually figure that out, if she is having s_x with him changes are she isn't!! You can't be revengfull b/c of your hurt feelings over this or anyother things that may happen! You both have to work on being honest with yourselves and with eachother, work on being faithful and have some trust, you also have to work on communication skills, all will be well and hope is there you both haven't moved out or split so far so work hard for your future you are already a family, make it a good one b/c it is what you make it- Good Luck!
2006-09-21 01:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not YOUR girl; she is her own person. It sounds like neither one of you is ready to have a relationship, sex, children,; all the things you are wondering about here. You don't seem to know what you want, so how are you going to figure out what she wants? It seems she did spend some time with her "babydaddy"
sheesh; what an expression, it is her child's father, not her babydaddy, thinking in these terms just reinforces the fact that you aren't ready for this. the term babydaddy insults men, and denies children their fathers. It is a holdout from slavery days and it is high time folk stopped using the term.
What you should do is to leave this girl and spend some time getting to know yourself; what you want from life, from a WOMAN (you don't want a girl, do you?). You need to picture yourself twenty and forty years from now, and then plan on how to get there. Otherwise, you will be like most of the middle aged men you see out there. Take a look around, pay attention. You think when they were young men they thought they'd end up like that?!
What you need to do is to keep yourself to yourself. And when you are ready to be with a woman, make sure she doesn't have any kids. Step parents are poison to most families, simply because most people cannot deal with each other and then they try to bring a new person into the mix and wonder what goes wrong.
leave her now. pay attention. make plans. succeed.
2006-09-21 01:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by soobee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her baby daddy, See how society is degrading all around us? I for one will be glad when comments and statements like this fade into the back ground.....more like the father of her unwanted child that will be a drain on the system that's being MISUSED by a large portion of society!
2006-09-21 01:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this be a lesson to you that there are certain things you should never confess even on your death bed.
2006-09-21 01:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your both cheaters, you deserve each other. Can she not spell as well?
2006-09-21 01:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by buldawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow the **** up...........either man up and deal with the issue or beak up move on.
2006-09-21 01:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by answering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both you cheaters deserve each other.
2006-09-21 01:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...you both cheated..deal with it or move on
2006-09-21 01:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her
2006-09-21 01:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋