i had a gf and our relationship is 3yrs old.. we had a lot of fights.. almost every fortnight.. and i saw her suffering coz of it everytime.. its not tat it was always my fault but ya i agree most of the time.. i tried not to repeat those mistakes n not make other mistakes.. but i did.. n i saw her in real pain..
she said she is not happy wid me... but i know she loves me a lot n i love her a lot too..
but today i couldn't see her sad anymore and i find myself guilty for that.. so i told her tat i dont love her and we should end the relationship right here.. she cried a lot.. but i feel tat is a one time pain... after she recovers from it she will be very happy without me..
2006-09-21 01:31:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I think that if you wanted to make her happy then maybe you should have worked a little harder at keeping her happy.... I know (Me being a girl and all) that sometimes its hard to make us happy....
And this one time pain isnt what you think it is...If she REALLY loves you as much as you say she dose then this is gonna hurt her a lot more then a little fight. Over the summer me and my boyfriend broke up for like a week. and I was heart broken for like EVER. Well for that week......Sometimes when a person loves someone they make do something stupied to make that pain of loseing that person go away...So just make sure that you keep on eye on her, if theres even a SLIM chance she might do something like that....also let her know that it wasnt her, and that maybe you two just need a little brake....But thats just what I think...I hoped it helped...
2006-09-21 01:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by bnrl_shell88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What r the fights about. Its natural to fight she just needs to get very angry too.
Not just b all taking it from u and imploding.
It was wrong to lie to her.
I c your point though. Maybe just tell her the truth and then u say u know it seems stupid but it is really over coz its not fair and u cant take hurting her anymore.
Maybe u guys just need a break. Take some time off of the relationship.
If neither of u guys is happier in say a month or two get back together. Dont say that to her. That will only give her false hope.
Do u both know what u want in a relationship, maybe write it down and give it to eachother. Like couples therapy just without paying someone else to listen to u whine.
Write on the paper all your problems with the relationship and with eachother. Take eachothers papers and leave. Read it without judging and just accept. If u fight a lot both of u should sit down and think of ways to improve the things on the list.
Get together..discuss...if it doesnt help then give up.
2006-09-21 01:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by chanD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if yoy guys fight all the time you probably did the right thing in the long run its going to save all the hurt of arguments etc im sure that was something very hard for you to do ... but she will be okay eventually it takes a few months to get over something like that... unless you guys can find a way of stopping all the fighting then there isnt alot of hope.. if you can come up with some good ideas go for it but the very best of luck to you i hope the two of you are okay and i know what your goin through it is a very difficult situation
2006-09-21 01:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by kazza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you actually took notice of her pain, you mention this quite a bit so i know you don't want to continue hurting her. I think to let her go is the most selfless thing anyone can do for another person, the saying comes to mind, "If you love someone set them free", and if they come back to you, you know it's real love, i believe you really love her. Have you actually recognized the real reason why you keep hurting...i mean whats making you unhappy, angry behaving badly towards her?...once you have established that maybe you can deal with it, because you don't want to carry this baggage into another relationship do you?...Good Luck.
2006-09-21 01:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did the wrong thing.
i can't understand, if you both love each other too much as you say, then why do you keep repeating your mistakes.
love is not all about sex and hanging out together.
love is about sharing good and bad times together. love is about one part stop doing things that hurt the other part.
if you really care about her, you should applogize to her and say the truth about your love, and start a new page by promising you would do the things that would make her happy.
2006-09-21 01:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Persian Male 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow
i'd say u did do the right thing, u certainly r a diff kind of guy to see that the relationship wasn't working out
Maybe when the both of u mature you'll get back together
2006-09-21 01:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you see, the sweetness of love is some times in fighting. wen u quarrel and then make out, actually ur love for that person increases. im sure u hav felt ur love becoming stronger to her each time u solve ur fyt. she forgived you each and everytime. doesnt tht prove tht she loved u inspite of these quarrels ?? today u broke her heart by saying tht. wat u did today was really wrong. i wud advice you go back today itself or tomorrow and talk to her and say this " i am sorry for tht. but i dint want u sad being with me. i love u a lot "
jus say tht
2006-09-21 01:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by raju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not nice you dont know what she suffers from and you dont know how she feels maybe she has past issues or something like bi polar why give up on her now dont be mean why dont you try to be a stronger person and deal with it
2006-09-21 01:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by pineapple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. She will be much happier without you.
2006-09-21 01:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have told her that you didn't love her, but still i think you did the right thing
2006-09-21 01:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋