2006-09-21 01:06:47 · 40 answers · asked by Nicola L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Weel, I have recently met a guy who I really like and claims to really like me. He has no problem with me being a mum at all, but I still have my doubts. he hasnt met my son yet, gonna leave that for a few months yet.
2006-09-21 01:21:06 · update #1
think all u need is a guy with a big heart, someone who has enough love to share with u and bundles for your little one too........ur child is most important, and the guy has to win her heart too while he busy sweeping u off ur feet...........believe me there are guys out there that will love u and take on ur kid, if they love u enough they will love being part of both of u xxx
2006-09-21 01:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by ho2asme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say definitely, because it depends on how old your children are, some men don't want a women with small children as appose to women who have much older children...some men find it easier to be with a woman the older the child is...but it depends on the man, and what he is looking for...never ever rule out your chances in finding love just because you're a single mum there are many successful relationships out there, where a single mum has met the partner of her dreams, and good role model for her kids...there is hope always believe that.
2006-09-21 01:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course but for both sides, when a guy comes into you life we have our children emotions to deal with, the worry weather he is interested in you or your children( sick as it sounds it is a common issue) the time you are able to spend with the guy in the beginning and the commitment issue having a child limits your able to drop everything and go out and have fun. For the guy coming in you have children that do not make it easy, a mother who does not like leaving her child with babysitter all the time the fact that you can not spend nights away at his and vice verse and it is a possible lifestyle change for him.
I have a daughter and i have been single since she was born 8yrs ago, i had a couple of brief fling five yrs back but nothing much else since, i always say we are fine the way we are and so does she, i know i may meet someone who does not call her baggage but i might not, you have to be able to except both possibilities for it to not be a problem for you.
2006-09-21 01:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess it all depends on the age of you children. the youger the better they can adapt to changes fairly smoothly. As they get older they have a tendancie to push men away if it's not the father. Another thing to take into consideration is the man himself. Is he the type of man you really would want around your child if it makes a difference as to there being a child in the picture in the first place?? Make sure to take your time and really get to know someone before you introduce them to your children.
2006-09-21 01:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by queenonymphs 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You may be excluded from some peoples shopping list if the guy is single and prefer to have is own kids. But you may be more attractive to a single father looking for a second chance. You never know who is out there until you start looking. There are websites for single parent dating.
2006-09-21 01:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by Daddybear 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It might take a little longer to find the right guy, although I know a few guys who want to settle down with a woman who already has a kid or two.
2006-09-21 02:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by advent m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no why should it..i guess its harder but hey single mums shouldn't put there self's on the selves bless,just because your bringing a child up on your own it does not make you an out cast if you meet some one and you tell them that you have a child and they don't want too know lol that's there lost.there is some one for every one but its only time that can tell after all every body deserves too be loved ...........
2006-09-21 01:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my mate has FINALLY got himself a girl after many years, and she`s got a kid. I think young mums may have a problem though. By young I mean under 30. I am 33 now, and if I was single & liked the girl, it wouldnt be a problem. 10 years ago, I wouldnt have gone there.
2006-09-21 01:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by Richo Fev 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
very wise my dear...you get to know him first before he meets your son....that's exactly what i did after my marriage failed, i guess i was looking for comfort because i felt so alone, i was at home most of the time with my kids, no social life, until a friend dragged me out of my house and took me partying, i met this nice guy, we hit it off straight away, we had a great evening, and he was not bothered that i had kids, so the next day he called and we arranged to meet, his treat for me and my kids were to go out to a theme park...i had told the kids what we were doing and they were very excited, the time came for us to leave, but he did not turn up and i never saw him again...i guess he just said that to get out of the situation, my kids were so upset, so yes wait a little longer then introduce him to your son, if you want to be with this guy, there has to be a bond with him and your son too....so just make sure this is he right thing, you have to get to know him first and if you feel that this guy is ok, then introduce him, good luck
2006-09-21 01:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I doont think so. A friend of mines had a child and she still went out on dates and all. I do believe it does scare some guys off but then their are guys who wont care and date her anyway.. It all depends on the guy. But she did have to be a little more choosy on the guys she dated.
But she still went out, still looked hot and still got guys . So its only your perception that will push you forward or hold you back on this issue
2006-09-21 01:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋