Just split with fiancee-living together etc... but she went home for time and old flame of hers has shown up.He proposed b4 but was turned down.Now the issue is he bombards with txts,emails,gifts etc. I dunno if she is welcoming this or not cos she is goin thru a rough time..but have told her its inappropriate...we're still living togethr but moving out...he wants to get her back...FULL STOP.She insists she doesnt want to re-enter that, saying she's annoyed with his persistence and she loves him as person, and we have been quite hot and heavy at the moment to add to all the confusion. There is a shade in both of us that wants to work this out but my trust in her and foolishness in past messed things up, hence the break.SO... she wanted to keep contact...felt like i was bein lead along-she insisted i wasn't- was turning up to my work unannounced etc.-i have asked for no contact for a bit,see what happens what do you think folks??? Give it time, work at it, our friendship and see or go?
2006-09-21 01:04:26 · 8 answers · asked by ppd81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to work it out. If nothing comes to fruitation, then move on.
2006-09-21 01:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her. It sounds like she's covering all her bets. Trust your instincts. She's keeping you on the line in case she decides (again) she really doesn't want him. On the other hand, if you tell her to take a hike, she'll have him.
I'm 50 years old, married three times. My first left me for her boyfriend, then got upset when I moved on, and has told me she regrets her decision. Tough.
My second started to call me when she and her boyfriend had problems, then divorced me and went back to him. They'd been talking on the phone the whole time she was married to me. Now they're split and she's with someone else.
One thing I learned was to trust my feelings about what's going on, even if I can't exactly tell why I feel it. Something, maybe her choice of words or her body language, is telling your subconscious that something's fishy.
Of course, if you haven't suffered enough at her hands, you can always stick around and wait till the stakes are higher, but all you'll get is experience. Plus you'll remember my advice.
2006-09-21 08:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by barbertono 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if you don't trust the woman and she's in contact with an ex, you don't HAVE the woman and she's not dedicated to you without exception. She's dedicated to getting her way. If you want to play her game (and she is playing you bigtime, buddy) continue. If you want to clear the air and start over, kick her and her ex and his flowers to the curb. There is something she is not being honest about and you know it. I'd leave her, if I were you. Why would you want 1/2 of a relationship? No negotiations, just let it go. Godloveya!
2006-09-21 08:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work it out. Asking for space now may not be a good idea. It could lead her straight into his arms for comfort.
2006-09-21 08:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by Cinderella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are making this way too complex.
You split up.
I assume you split up because one or both of you wanted out or wanted something different.
having split up, her email , etc. is not your concern.
If she likes his attentions, or not, it is her business, not yours.
She shouldn't be discussing it with you - unless her goal is to make you jealous, which it appears you are.
2006-09-21 08:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what she wants. I'd move on.
2006-09-21 08:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time
2006-09-21 08:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by JUST_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk
2006-09-21 08:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋