I'm thinking of changing my surname. Do you think that its wrong to change one's family name?
I'm thinking of changing it for 2 reasons mainly.
The 1st reason is that I have never really liked my surname, probably because it sounds very funny, and many people find it hard to pronounce. It was also the source of a lot of teasing and buyllying from other kids during my school days.
The 2nd reason is because for a long time now I have been out of contact with my family. They were never really there for me while I was growing up, and we don't have much of a relationship. I hardly speak to any of my brothers, sisters or step-sisters. In fact I don't speak to anyone that shares my family name.
While I was homeless and living rough for a couple of years I had no contact with any of them.
Everyone in my family hates each other, and there is not much love there. I believe that if I change my surname it could be a new start for me, like a new chapter in my life.
should I?
2006-09-21 00:58:36 · 30 answers · asked by Playboy Grove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah youshould if you want
2006-09-21 01:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by military and veteran advocate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is totally up to you only you can decide that, I know it can be hard having a funny surname I have one and I will be going from one funny name to another when im married. But for me its my dads surname and its part of him so I love it because I love my dad and he adores me. For you its different and if you think it would make life easier and you think you can get a fresh start then go for it. But really in all whats in a name because that is all it is a name. Only you can change your life and you can make it what ever you want if you put your mind to it.
I wish you all the luck in the world for your fresh start
xx
2006-09-21 08:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by pufferfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family changed surname(why? loooooong story) about 30 years ago. You will never escape it, because every form or application will ask for "previous names"(9 times out of 10 you will need legal documentation attached to the form, to back this up).
My name is sian(pronounced sharn). So I know how you feel.
My advise. Don't do it.Go see a counsellor
2006-09-21 08:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by siany warny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have sort of the same family thing going on exept I won't carry on the name anyways so it doesn't matter. But since you are male and "should" carry on your family name you should really think about this hard. I think it would be ok but just because you change your name doesn't mean you can change you past. Sometimes you just have to deal with it. Since you don't talk to your family then it shouldn't really hurt anyone, so there shouldn't be a big fuss about it! I think go ahead and change it!!!!
2006-09-21 08:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by l_a_hart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! I changed my surname for those reasons too. Also, after divorce, I felt I needed my own identity. I changed my name to a name that was "Prettier" however it started with the same letter and had the same vowel sound. I didn't want it to sound as if it was a made-up/stage name. Good Luck!
2006-09-21 08:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not keep the name and live your life so that the name means something in your community? "Look Miranda there goes Binny Fertarther, what a man. He has such a nice family and he does so much in the community. Why, I needed help the other day and all his family came over, pitched in and helped me. What a good family of neighbours."
You can be a Binny Fertarther if you want to be.
Difficult to pronounce? Ah well, think of giving the folks you meet their challenge for the day...it helps to keep them sharp.
2006-09-21 08:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by lettuceuni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your reasons for wanting to change your surname are understandable but changing your name because others can't pronounce it or you get teased...everyone at one time or another go through the same thing even people who have simple names go through this. but to change your name because you don't want to be associated with your family is kinda harsh. and it is actually making it easier to run away from your family or situation that is going on between you and your family. if you want to distance yourself from your family that is fine but when you have a family (kids) and they want to know about you and your family then you have to think about how you will explain to them about your last name...or something (God forbid) happens to you and your kids may want to know about their ancestry and the generations how will they be able to find out. So it really depends on if it is really worth the trouble.
2006-09-21 08:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by chocolatefancier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life. If you think it will help you, then do it. If you were considering plastic surgery to change your face, my advice would be the same.
You can always tell someone what your name used to be, if you feel you need to.
My brother-in-law changed his surname, and he's had no problems from it.
2006-09-21 08:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by barbertono 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's NOT a name that makes a person it's the
inner self & how you act that makes up who you are
I'm sorry to say, but I think you should keep the name of your family , but just don't act like them. If you change it
you may end up to regret doing so someday.
Families have their problems, but most of the time they
will come together when needed.
Best of luck to you, whatever you choose to do
2006-09-21 08:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if this surname bothers you so much why not, but if you wish to be making your family happy keep it yet let other people call your other surname you wish to be call. as these days it cost heaps of money to change name and surname..
2006-09-21 08:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by SimileyDaisy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that is a decision only you can make. i grew up in a horrible home and i still have my same last name. i didnt change it because i felt that even if i changed it its not gonna change the way i grew up or my mom. so id say no but its ur choice, and im sorry that u lived that way. hope u have a good day!
2006-09-21 08:05:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋