husband is happily married.His ex has sent him a love letter saying she wants him back for the kids and still love him. How does he deal with her. This is really upsetting his new wife.
2006-09-21 00:52:13 · 19 answers · asked by dlupee44 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well for starters he shouldn't have to be dealing with an ex-wife that is why she is an ex..
As for upsetting the new wife. she is going to have to realize that he can not control what the ex-wife says or does. and she is just going to have it ignore it. He is going to have to keep reminding the new wife that she is the one that he wants.
as for exchange of kids for visiting.. Hopefully she trust him or she will have to go along with him to pick up and return to the ex-wife.. i am hoping that she trust him..
trust is a major part of a new marriage.. there must have been good reasons for him to divorce his ex so she don't have a whole lot to worry about..if she keeps bothering them the new husband and wife.. put a restraining order on them but that will cause conflict in the visitation rights. he is just going to have to tell her in no uncertain terms that he is now happily married and don't want her bothering them anymore..
could be a rough rode her but i am sure with the trust and love they can get through it together.
2006-09-21 01:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Husband should politely say "no". Its up to him to make it clear that he feels nothing but respect for her as the mother of his children, but there are no romantic feeling for her left, none at all. Then he should return the letter, and make sure he is not alone with her in the future. This really sounds like 1st wife is frightened of being alone. No one wants to get back for the kids, they have heard enough of the arguments and are enjoying the relative peace. New wife can be supportive of her husband and equally careful that hubby doesn't decide that dealing with her upset is a little too much work.
2006-09-21 01:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My hypothesis.
Former wife needs counselling to move on.
Husband has probably played up on wife and met current wife whilst still married. Former wife loves him too death.
No sympathy for husband and current wife.
Sympathy for wife and kids left behind.
Step situation going to make things worse for kids, now there is tension between the warring parties.
Kids used as pawns
God help our children.
2006-09-21 02:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by kanga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's remarried the ex is too late. The husband has to tell her its over and to stop invading his new life. If the kids need him he should then see them. The ex is probably feeling lonely and maybe she thinks getting her ex back will solve her problems but in reality she should get a new life,especially as the husband has.
2006-09-21 00:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to tell the ex he is over her and she needs to back off that he loves his new wife and his kids and she should never put him in that situation again. His kids and his new wife come first and there is no choosing.
2006-09-21 03:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember,there is no problem in life that can't be solved with the proper application of plastic explosives.There are kids involved , so he has to be careful.Sounds like she might be the type to use the children as punishment.Perhaps the three of them should sit down together and discuss the situation.She's going to blame the new wife instead of hubby,which is unfair to her,but it keeps his relationship w/ his kids safe.
2006-09-21 00:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
May be the ex-wife wants to marry him again and file one more divorce to take away his remaining property and throw the husband on th road.
Only a fool would consider getting into the snake head.........again
2006-09-21 00:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by donald 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him send her a quarter and tell her to call someone who cares. Water's under the bridge. Cattle out of the gate. Stick a fork in it, it's done. She's just suffering from jealous ex wife syndrome.
2006-09-21 00:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by auld mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exs and kids go with the package- make the best of it - and have him ignore her letter- it is not even worth a response-especially if he is remarried-what a mess- but divorce does that. I am sure i is hard on the kids-and they miss their dad. Be cool about it.
2006-09-21 00:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be up front and direct. Tell her that this is not going to happen. Remind her that there is a reason that they divorced in the first place. And don't forget to reassure the new wife that all is well with their marriage.
2006-09-21 00:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Tahavath 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋