Ok I've asked this just seconds earlier but i didn't go into enough detail. I'm 17 and she's 13. This is all her mom sees and she dosnt want me to even speak to her daughter. I will be turning 18 in 5 months and i know that this can cause some major problems. How can I still be with her when her mom doesn't like me, yet she dosn't know much about me??? Plus, this is causing her life to be misrable and we don't know what to do... PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-09-21 00:52:06 · 13 answers · asked by John R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell you what you do. IF you can wait. TIME will heal this situation.BY law your a legal adult. AND in some cases at 17 you could be tried as an adult at 17. SHE may be worried you will get he daughter pregnant. AND legally by law she must keep her daughter safe from people harming ing her. SHE she sees you as a threat. Back off 4 now. keep communications up with her daughter. RESPECT the mothers wishes.IF you ever expect to win the mom over in the future.GOOD luck seems to me your in love. TRUE love will wait. LUST wont. hugs star
2006-09-21 01:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem isnt with four years' gap, its that SHE is just 13. And her mother must be worried because at teen age the changes take place so quickly that you never get to match up with each other with even with little age difference.
OK
Let me Xplain, If a 13 year old goeas out with a 13or14 year old there are far less chances that they would do something silly but at the same time if a 13 year old goes out with a 17 year old these chances are 5times great so you see........
So if you still wanna date her, just promise her mom that you be a gooooood boy!
wish u gooood luck!
2006-09-21 01:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry...yours is not a good match. A thirteen year old girl does not need a boyfriend in any shape or fashion. There is nothing you can do to get respect from her mom (or the rest of the world for that matter)...other than to get far away from her daughter and leave her alone.
I am being easy on you. Many would consider you a pervert. I mean...come on...aren't there girls your age you can relate to? If you were a father, would you want your13 year old daughter to be involved with an 18 (soon to be 19) year old person?
Its disgusting!
Show some class! Do not pursue this any further. You are involving yourself with a minor and risk being arrested...in which you should be.
2006-09-21 01:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Woh...this is a hard one. At the age that she is, which I know age is nothing but a number, it is a little hard, as in her mum's eyes she is still her baby and her littel girl. And as you are 17, you may seem quite older to her mum and also to her mum, she may think that you are after only "one thing" from her daughter and not really interested in the relationship aspect. I think the best thing is to perhaps lay a little low for a while, HOWEVER, still see the daughter. Maybe have the daughter explain to her mum another aspect or side to you, i.e. something new and interesting that the mum wouldn't know (for eg. an interest you may have, etc..but make sure it is not something that would make the mum even worry more, like motorcycling, etc...) Also perhaps invite the mum over to your place to have a dinner with your family, to see that there is nothing really to worry about. Hope things work out well! Good Luck! x
2006-09-21 00:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by AngelRose 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I was her mom, I would be concerned also. You don't have to be 18 for it to cause major problems. Just because they say that 18 is the legal age of consent..they can still charge you at 17, especially if her mom pushes the issue.
At 13, she should not even be thinking about relationships with anyone, much less someone almost 18 yrs old..
Find someone your own age...this one will bring you nothing but trouble.
2006-09-21 00:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by Termite 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
a 13 year old? I reckon you were socially deprived as a child.
Best thing to do, just lay low, be nice, don't force anything. Don't snap or anything, just be adult about it all. And plsu, I can understand her mothers feelings really. You are 17/18 you should really be with someone your own age, a 13 year old is much too young. I know I'd kick the **** out of an 18 year old if he was dating my 15 year old sister.
God yeah, now I think about it, it's ******* wrong. You're a dick.
2006-09-21 00:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by marrakesh1985 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my bf and i are four years appart.. only were 26 and 30.. not that big of an age different when you have some life experience behind it..
but 13 and 17.. totally different places..
perhaps you should back off for a bit and let this girl grow up a littl e
2006-09-21 00:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her time .. if there isn't a generation gap problem you need to hurdle to show her how you are time will solve everything .. Patience is a virtue that is very necessary in situations like this . thirteen is kind of young dont you think..i believe you would be worried to if it was the shoe on the other foot.. go check out some girls your age..
2006-09-21 00:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by ginnyndenny 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
.Let her grow up .In a few years time check her out again.If you don't,in 5 months you just might find yourself in jail.A pediifile charge will ruin your life forever,
2006-09-21 01:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by eva b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A Child, u are mucking with a child, if I were her mother I`d call the cops. she`s a minor get of her case.
2006-09-21 01:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by raven 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋