He crys everyday about 2 or 3 things - all when he does not get his way, all stupid things, like having to drink milk at dinner or not sitting next to his mother if his sister is, or wearing shorts instead of pants, it is ridiculous.
2006-09-21 00:44:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
may be I wasnt clear
he want to drink soda instead of milk
he doesnt want to wear the shorts that are his uniform at school (florida)
he doesnt do anything we ask
he will play or turn on the tv instead of getting ready and then he is always telling us to wait or in a minute when it is time to leave and when I push out the door because I am trying to break him of this bad habit he crys.
he is afraid of the dark and needs to have someone turn the lights on for him even if the light is on in the hall.
he crys if we dont buy him a toy at the drug store
he crys when it is time to go to bed.
2006-09-21 00:56:13 · update #1
Yeah, Mom gives in. I dont.
She says it started when he was a baby and she tryed weaning him. Her family, who she was living with, would yell at her to 'give him the t it" because he would cry so much.
Mom has gotten better, but know there is a lot of talking about his crying when he crys so there is still constant attention.
He wants for nothing. We do sports, projects, homework, all sorts of things.
I really want to start spanking him and throwing him in his room.
2006-09-21 01:01:58 · update #2
we otherwise have a great relationship
he tolerates his father who is a low life
I see this more as an attention getter than as a symptom of having a hard time.
He cannot stand it when his sister gets what he beleives to be more attention.
2006-09-21 01:15:03 · update #3
You've got the toughest job in the world bar none!!! First, he cries because he's needy and hurting not because he's a turd--the rewards of crying are greater than the consequences. You cannot change his behavior but you AND his mother can. Once the rewards of crying go away and the consequences of crying are felt, the behavior will go away. The two of you need to agree (that'll be the hard part) on not rewarding him for crying, first, and second, for some consequence.
He'll need help understanding that he is valuable, worthwhile, and capable and you can help in that regard.
2006-09-21 00:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the crying spells and stop giving in to him. You and his mom will have to act together. So far, this crying tactic is working well for him. He's manipulating you and your family. When he crys, send him to his room until he's finished and that's it. Don't let him out until he stops. If he comes back and starts to cry again, put him back in his room. This is very infantile behavior for a 9 yr old anyway. You AND Mom will have to deligent about it and together on any discipline you decide or he will want to divide and conquer. Make him do the same thing every time until he gets it through his head he's not going to behave that way and disrupt the whole family. Godloveya!
2006-09-21 01:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 14:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please dont think the crying is about the milk, or the sitting next to his mother or the shorts. It will be something bigger like perhaps the divorce of his parents or missing his father terribly. Kids really dont know how to talk about what they are feeling. Sometimes is appears like a child is coping but then crying over silly things is a sign that something is wrong.
I had a step dad and i really wish he had accepted me for who i was and not tryed to change me.
Step family relationships are often difficult especially for the child. I really hope and pray that you treat this child with as much love and encouragement as you can. Look at the positive things he does and compliment him and then start to notice the difference.
This relationship with your step son could be the most rewarding relationship in your life if you really try and give it the best you can. Kids need parents who can teach them, love them, support them, believe in them etc. You have the life of this little boy and his future in your hands. Try and be more patient please for the boys sake and if you are finding things difficult then make sure you talk to someone and take care of yourself because parenting can be hard work and even harder for step parents.
2006-09-21 01:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by Nic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES WELL IT SOUNDS LIKE IN THE PAST HE LERNT THAT IF HE CRIED HE GOT HIS WAY
2006-09-21 00:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by norman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its his mothers job to get him to stop or not. Perhaps if you paid some attention to the positive things he does and perhaps played with him or did a project with him he wouldnt have the time or need to cry for attention.
2006-09-21 00:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Teach him some good old fashioned discipline,as he seems to get his own way too much,there is nothing wrong with a smack on the back of his legs either.good luck as you sound at the end of your tether
2006-09-21 01:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I dont think they out grow it, my son has been like that for a long time, he is 18 now and still carries on and whines, my mom (grandma) still says he is a cry baby.
2006-09-21 00:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
so let him do whatever he wants. if he wants to drink milk why u don't let him?why u don't let him wear shorts?u re trying to break him. i really wonder what is his mother thinking and what rights u have to break her child. my advice - leave him alone, or he grows up and returns when u re old and helpless
2006-09-21 00:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋