ok i'm 21and i like this 15 yr old girl she will be 16 in 3 months
ok i really like her and she likes me i am totally inexperienced when it comes to relationships mainly because i never met anyone that i wanted to have one with, don't get me wrong i'm not trying to blow my own horn but i can get chicks my own age but they don't really interest me because there attitude towards life is not what this girls is
i rarely go out drinking and clubbing
but let me put this forward that i genuinly like her and am not interested in having sex with her at least until she is old enough to make her own mind up even if that is way beyond the legal age of 16 here i just want to be with her and have fun with her
so i guess my question is is there anything wrong with that?or what should i do
p.s. this is really waying heavily on my mind i like her so much to be away from her is unbearable sadness but i just feel like this is wrong and it is hard for me to make a decision either way
2006-09-21 00:39:05 · 41 answers · asked by hmmm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please take the time to read the question although your entiitled to your opinons about this
2006-09-21 00:53:37 · update #1
the only way you could make this wrong is if you do go the sexual way with her, will you have the will power to push her away if she makes advances towards you? that is the question you need to ask yourself, having fun with someone below the age of consent is no problem at all, you just need to know in your own mind that you will be able to push her away if she wants to take it further
2006-09-21 00:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm you might wan tto move out of the country. India and a couple of South AMerican countries have laws where that stuff is legal. Personaly I would say wit till she is 22 yes I said 22. She hasnt lived enough of life yet to really be ready for you man. Honestly their are 18 year olds who I wouldn't date because of the maturity and life experience factor now.
But before we slam this guy folks lets remember back in the old days , IM talking about as far back as 100 yerars ago , this was perfectly normal in society. Im not justifying this , but if 5000 years of civilization basically had girls marrying around 13 and older afterwards, then that basic instinct to want to be with someone a little younger cant be rooted out in jsut 100 years of modern society
2006-09-21 00:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big age difference here, but I guess you know that! If you really want a relationship with this girl you have to do the right thing and wait. Let her have some life experience, she's young and still has a lot to go through. Teen age years as you know are very important aides in a young persons life, little lessons. If you have a relationship with her now she may end up regretting it. You don't want that to happen.
2006-09-21 00:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you meet can I ask first? I think a 6 year difference is nothing, remember age is nothing but a number!!! However when it comes to life experiences between yourself and this girl, I don't know you personally, but they maybe very similiar or they maybe very different. I don't think there is anything wrong with both of you being together, I mean if you are both compatiable and feel that the is something genuine you both want to be involved in together, then go for it I say. I mean it sounds like you adore her and that you are not just in it for one thing and that you want to get to know her as a person and to be with her on that other level...so see how things go...but remember....teenagers generally (once again depending on the person) are at that age whereby they are growing and experiencing different and new things in life...so be and tread carefully.
2006-09-21 00:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by AngelRose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though you may genuinely care for her, you need to leave it alone, at least until she is 18... Your inexperience in relationships may make you feel that you and her are equal, but she is way too young to truly know what a relationship is all about and if you two "just hang out", there will always be that chance that the relationship would progress to a stage that would make it illegal and very detremental to both of you.. Find someone your own age and let her be 15..
2006-09-21 00:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by Termite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her as much as you say you do, I think you should wait until she's 18. Even if you dont want to have sex with her, she might want it (if you develop a relationship) and this could make problems for both of you.Say you guys get serious and she wants to have sex and you give in and you sleep with her eventually and you break up, she might get so angry that she reports you for sexual assault and statutory rape.Always think of what could happen, especially the negative things. Rather be careful, than sorry.Continue the friendship, but dont get into a relationship with her. She is too young.Good luck!
2006-09-21 01:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong.
It almost seems like your obsessed with this girl. And that 's what she is a "girl". She's not old enough to handle a relationship with a 21 yr old "man". You say your not interested in having sex until she's ready, but just the fact your soo much older than her is pressure on her to be ready quicker.
I think you need to leave her alone, so she can grow up at her pace not yours.
2006-09-21 01:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only concern would be the statutory rape issue.
Talk to an attorney about the issue- legal definition of statutory rape, what qualifies as... etc. You could be putting yourself at HUGE risk for statutory rape charges. If you piss off her parents, they could press charges... If they so much as dissaprove of how you hold her hand- yup...
I'd almost suggest a LONG cold shower, and don't contact her for the next 2 years... maybe g-rated letters, but I'd be VERY CAREFUL!!!
I dated a guy that was 13 yrs my senior. Granted, I was a legal adult at the time (19), but I know my parents didn't like it. I don't know what they'd have done if I'd been a minor.
2006-09-21 00:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girl is also 15 and im 19 the same things where going around my head when i met het her. but u know everything work out like if age didn't matter. her parents found out a month after of my real age but they figured out that i was a great guy and that i wasn't trying to hurt their daughter. i love my girl very much even when people might say she's to young i know her better then anyone could tell me. but your 21 talk to her parents and see what they think
2006-09-21 01:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by leo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hMm.... i had an experience with a mucholder guy(22) laz january & i loved him a lot, btw im 14 back then.. my friends & people that i asked 4 advice told me this.."what the hell came up ur head & had a relationship with a guy 8 years 0lder than u?!!!", "HE'S JUZ TAKING ADVANTAGE OF U!!!" but still after ol those hurtful words i stil loved him & continued the relationship thuogh i already know the consequences.. CUZ I LOVE HIM!!
so now here's my advice, first think about all the painful, heartbreaking words she'll take from her friends & from her family & also people she knows.. & think ahead about what coud possibly happen between the 2 of u when u get carried away by ur emotions.....
someday she(or u) might regret it....
2006-09-21 00:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by b'By sTyK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋