I met this guy 6 months ago when I was taking a french course. He's a very nice guy, polite, well-educated, he was so sweet to me. We dated for couple of times, and we both had a good time together, and he told me that he liked me. Then, just before summer, I asked him about his plans during summer, and he said : "My gf from NY will come to France and we'll spend the summer together". And I was shocked, and sad. Since that time, I lost contact with him, and we never met again. And now, I actually want to contact him again, because I think he was my friend, and I don't want to lose a friend, although I still have a feeling for him. Should I contact him again?
2006-09-21 00:35:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well u should try...at least as a friend.
2006-09-21 00:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Pauli :) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be sure you are not inventing that of the friendship with him just because you still have some hope. Be sincere with you.
After that, you will feel free to do whatever you wish. Friendship is something very nice but it is not easy to get.
My ex-gfs are my friends until now! after so many years and I still love them in a way. But Im not looking for them, I keep the memories of the times I passed with them in the deepest of my heart and soul. Actually Im married and I deeply love my wife and Im building with her also great moments to remember in the future, but together.
2006-09-21 00:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by b4contact 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is not a very good friend if he wasn't straight up about his g/f. By telling you he had a g/f afterward was his way of severing any ties with you. Forget about it and move on. Sorry to tell you, you were played. If, in fact, he does have a g/f, I feel badly for her that he was cheating on her. Men are pigs, we do stupid things sometimes. I feel sorry for you but I feel you need the truth from a guy's perspective. be careful.
2006-09-21 00:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by rswdew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he has a girlfriend, then that's quite a pity for you. If you really want him as a friend, go ahead and contact him. But be sure that he feels the same way, if not things will be very complicated.
2006-09-21 01:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by gummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure...I see no reason why not. When you do, make it casual and friendly and say nothing that will suggest anything more than friendship. If he has similar regards for you, the friendship can be cherished by both of you.
No one knows what the future holds...eventually things may work towards the two of you romantically.
I suggest however, that you not let that be your sole reason for the friendship. You must cultivate your life normally and not be relying on wishing and hoping for him.
2006-09-21 00:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont contact him!!!!! You guys "dated" and he didnt tell u he had a girl, that's fuked up this dude was leadin' u on! it'll only hurt u to contact him, it wont do anything for you, so i would suggest you not call him, resist the urge, fight agianst tempatation!! Be strong! Best of luck to you. And hey if u think it'd help to contact him again u do it, i just want 2 save u from more heart break. Take care.
2006-09-21 00:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure. he did not tell you the truth. now you know it. you said you dated. so he is not automatically your friend also. maybe he looked at it in a flirty way. and now is embarassed. and stopped because it makes no sense to him? make up your mind. then act. if you want him as a friend only, try. if you want more, listen to him. but since he did not contact you again, i think he made up his mind. what do you think? but.. yes.. you can always try. nothing to loose... :-) good luck.
2006-09-21 00:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by india18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't quite so honest with you about his relationship with the other girl, so I wouldn't if I were you. Just let him go, and find a guy whom would be worthy of you, and treat you with the respect you so surely deserve. I know he's out there. Good Luck
2006-09-21 00:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-09-21 00:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He gave you the wrong impression about himself. Sounds like he wanted you in his life when it was convienent for him. Forget about contacting him, there are better guys out there.
2006-09-21 00:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!! your fooling yourself, you don't want a friend, you want a boyfriend.
Just let it be for that poor girlfriends sake too.
You will find someone better with eyes only for you....trust me!!
2006-09-21 00:41:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋