I have a friend who is very sick of cancer and the doctors said that she does not have any hope of recovering. I want to buy her flowers and write a message for her.
2006-09-21 00:27:58 · 33 answers · asked by herculano m 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Remind her of a time that you two were together that was especially happy and meaningful...graduation, a trip, a wedding, whatever. Then tell her that that you will always cherish such memories of the two of you.
If you are in a position to do so, also tell her that if she ever wants to talk, you are there for her (sometimes it is hard to find someone with whom you can share your inner fears and feelings when you are dying).
All the best.
2006-09-21 02:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you possibly go to see her? You should make every effort. Holding her hand is worth more than any words, both for her and for your future memories of her. But check a suitable time before you arrive as you would not want to get tangled up with relatives visitng or medical needs.
A florist will advise on a brief message to go on a card to be sent with flowers. But I think you will want to write more than that.
I think you should ask advice from your friend's relatives and/or the prople caring for her before you write. You want to find out how much she knows of her condition, and if she knows she is dying how she is taking this (I believe people's reactions vary greatly), before you say the wrong thing. Also, you need to take into account her personal beliefs, e.g. does she think you may meet again in heaven?
Once you know the situation, what to write is not something to be advised on. You obviously have many loving and kind thoughts for your friend and you simply have to write something that expresses them simply. Even though whatever you write will only scratch the true depths of your thoughts your friend should understand them.
With many thoughts for you and your friend.
2006-09-21 00:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Philosophical Fred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her flowers. Talk to her. Just be there for her. Concider her wishes and don't take anything personally. Talk abiout old times talk about new times don't talk just to talk and don't talk at her. Bring some pictures. Play some music. Just be normal because it is more comfortable. There have been three loved ones die in our family and it is easier to be every day normal. You'll know when you get in there if it is the right thing to do , but really, nothing is wrong. It's better to find out then to do nothing. It may be harder on you than it is her. I believe maost people leave the world easier with all their friends around them and re-asure her that is ok to go and she doesn't have to hold on to this old world. Everyone will mange without her.
2006-09-21 02:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kathleen T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very thoughtful of you. Just write what's in your heart. Have you considered a donation to the American Cancer Society with a tribute in your friend's name? Perhaps your friend would like to know that even though they won't get well, some day, some one will and maybe it will be because of the donation you make in their name. This is a very difficult time for all concerned, my heart goes out to you and your friend and their family. Knowing that perhaps a difference could be made with a research donation might ease their grief somewhat.
God bless.
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2016-04-22 19:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by brenda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your friend's place not so long ago but actually pulled through proving the doctors wrong. I received a lot of cards and flowers, small gifts that meant a lot to me. But perhaps the one thing that meant the most was when one of my friends came into the room, sat by my bedside, took my hand and told me what I had meant to her and through tear-filled eyes said I would be missed and never forgotten.
2006-09-24 15:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mermaid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad died of cancer 2 months ago and I felt the best thing to do when he was really ill was to sit and tell him exactly how I felt ,even when he was sleeping because he was on a morphine driver right at the end I sat and told him how much i loved him and what a great dad he was to me . So why not sit with your friend and tell her how you feel. You being there will enough . I feel for you ,take care xxx
2006-09-21 04:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you leave writing the message and go and TELL your friend what you want to say...how much your friendship has meant, how you will honour her memory, how much you love her and are going to miss her...I had a chat with my dad before he passed and he told me some things that were like his parting gift to me...words are so much more special than writing them to a dying friend, go speak to her, go hug her, go say goodbye. Bless you both x
2006-09-24 03:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by widow_purple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A local comedian here in Belfast wants on his headstone when his time comes, the following, "we're not here for a short time, we're here for a good time".
John Inman has specified that when he passes away he doesn't want any tears, he has requested that he wants Tiller Girls dancing and laughter at his send off. A celebration of life. Just say whats in your heart, or you could say nothing, just be there for your friend as moral support, good luck, whatever you decide.
2006-09-21 00:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the wonderful things she has done in her life. How her life has impacted yours and others. If she is a believer encourage her that it is truly better being with God. Make the message very positive. Leave out the how much we will miss you things. Lift her up by letting her know that her life had and has meaning.
2006-09-21 00:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Letsee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋