Ok.. so i like thiz guy.. my 2nd cousin.. he lives far way from me n has a cell n i dunt (cant contact each other tht much!!!..).. neways.. he said he likes me n he said tht all the time but i kept on laughing and pretending tht i dont like em.. but finally i agreed ... (for the relationship).. but then the prob is tht hes not like my status.. since i belong to canada.. and he lives in pakistan.. (im in pak these days..)... hes like cute n everything but.. still he cant speak english and everything... hes not tht educated... only passes when he cheats!! and hes 16.. im 14.. and he made me promise tht i'll marry him.. but wut if i find a cuter and more educated guy... and i like em... then wut will i do wit em!!! help...
2006-09-20 23:46:12 · 21 answers · asked by PrettyinPink_14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Even if you promised, it doesn't mean you have to marry him. It's not like you signed a contract in a court of law!! Have fun when you see him, but when you're not with him you can go out and meet other guys. Just concentrate on having fun, you're too young to get married now anyway. And remember, if he starts threatening you at all, go straight to the police.
2006-09-20 23:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by MJstar99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK this is what you should do first, he needs to learn enough English so you two can talk. Second you are a little too young to be promising marriage, if you are in doubt. ( I was 15 when I decided to marry my fiance). If you are questioning what if then you may not be ready to be committed so the two of you need to talk. Now the whole 2nd cousin issue is not a problem, believe me I have known worse issues. You can't help who you are in love with or infatuated with or what ever the case my be so I won't judge you on that. But the main problem and only problem is communication, because since you two really can't talk to each other like you want that is where all this other issues are coming from. Just sit down and talk to him and tell him that its important to you that he learns English and you should try to learn a little bit of his language to that way it shows him that you care enough to learn to better help you talk to each other and that way while he id still learning English you can still talk to him without out a translator. And you two should talk about this whole promise you made to him because if you are thinking what if I meet someone else he may be thinking the same thing and you two should just talk.
2006-09-21 00:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by Dark magician Gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN...I KNOW ALOT ABOUT HOW YOUR FEELING AND I KNOW PAKISTANI GUYS CAN BE QUITE FORCEFUL (oops left the caps on) but the point is your 14...nxt yr or the year after that...your feelings will, more than likely change...i thought i was in love at 14 and wanted to marry the guy...now when i see him...i ask what was i thinkin!! and as your more educated this could eventually cause a prob between the two of you...men dont like to feel stupid and i think you would make him feel stupid...then he could express his anger in other ways...like beating, cheating etc (men like to do that when they feel threatned) most important points are: your only 14...your related...family issues will mre than likely get in the way and you both need to grow a bit first...understand each othe...if you still feel like this in a coupla years...then go ahead...but enjoy yourself first...take time to know what YOU want and need.
2006-09-21 02:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First , Your 14. Marriage? 2nd, He's Your second cousin that means family! Do you want to marry Family? I don't think you are very educated either. eg.: wit him? tht? thiz? neways? You are not ready for marriage if you think " I'm not sure I want to marry him because someone better might come along"
2006-09-21 00:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yours would not be a legally sanctioned marriage in the U.S. and cousins can't marry, it's a throw back from centuries ago. When close relatives marry, the chance for hereditary diseases increases. Thus the law prohibiting the marriage of close relatives.
It doesn't sound as if you are really into this cousin, anyway. Step back now so no one gets their feelings hurt
2006-09-21 01:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by ne11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really likes you as you like him , he will learn to speak English that is much easier than his Pakistani Arabic , but I guess both of you are at that age age when the romance's desires only begin to take shape , both lovers must to not have any reserve for each other otherwise the remorse will be eating each others , my advice is for both to wait to reconsider what you really want,and if both really,really want each other and can imagine each other how they will be living together in a year,ten,they entire life together,and if both of you can imagine a beautiful future,you'll have a chance to be both of you happy.
2006-09-21 00:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by Paul Alexandru Cazacliu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see alot of 'buts' and that is not a good sign for a relationship. Always think of him as family, you do not marry family members, that is just the way it is. You are young and will find someone with lesser 'buts' and for sure who is not family.
Good luck
2006-09-20 23:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by asisi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yeah, and on top of what Live2Ride said, you shouldn't even be thinking about marriage at this point...you still need to finish school, apparently, 'cause your English skills are appalling!
2006-09-21 08:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly if you want serious answers, type seriously, not this hippy slang sh!t.
A promise to marry someone that you make cos some idiot tells you to means NOTHING! Forget him and find someone else!
2006-09-20 23:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have problems in communication and that's a imp factor for developing an actual relationship don't take a chance my advice dump him,moreover gal you can do better than that, i suppose
2006-09-20 23:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by KUNJU 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋