please give me info about adhd...?

Question

i have a son whose so active and can't even follow simple directions. some say that he has an adhd. can you please explain to me what is it and how to handle it?

Answer 1

ADHD is attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Children with this disorder have a hard time focusing, sitting still, learning, and are impulsive. I believe it is highly over diagnosed and am so sad to see how many children are put on medication for this.

I have taught preschool for over 12 years and have had many ADHD students. The techniques I use to discipline them are the same I would use for any child, they just take a little more time. They also need a consistent schedule. They need a snack at the same time, to go outside at a given time, circle time at the same time. I notice that a disruption in their schedule greatly affects children with ADHD. So do your best to keep a consistent schedule.

Try and use logical consequences whenever possible. Taking away a toy or privileges when your son misbehaves is not a logical consequence. Taking away a toy if he throws it or is destructive with it is logical. These are some other examples of logical consequences. If he makes a mess, he cleans it. If he breaks a toy, it goes in the trash. If he damages something in the home, he does things around the house to pay for the damages. Let the discipline fit the crime.

When he hurts you tell him “I don’t like when you hit me. I do not want to be near you if you are going to hurt me.” Put him in an area away from you (his room, the couch). Tell him “When you are ready to be gentle then we can be together.” This is not a time out because you are not giving him a time limit (you controlling him). He returns when he's ready to control himself. Time outs are a punishment. They only cause the child to feel resentment and anger. You may have to take him back to the spot a few times before he gets the message. Thank him when he is calm. Keep it up! This technique works great for many misbehaviors.

Empathize with him when he is calm. "You must be really (angry, upset, hurt, mad, frustrated..). What can we do about that?" This will help him to better express his feelings. Empathize with him when he is hurting himself. "Ouch. That must hurt! I'm worried you may get really hurt doing that." Gently help him to stop.

Notice him when he is not misbehaving. Say things like "You worked on that for a long time! Look how high you can climb! You used so many colors on that picture! You did that by yourself!" These are intrinsic motivators rather than extrinsic rewards ("Good job," stickers, candy). These phrases are great confidence builders and will help him to feel powerful in a positive way.

Limit television, video games, and computer time. Children with ADHD are greatly affected by these.

Set limits, follow through, and offer choices, not chances. Pick you battles! You can say “Do you want to do that by yourself or do you want some help?” "No" should mean "No" the first time you say it. Say "Yes" as much as possible. Be patient and consistent. Good luck!

Here are some of my favorite web sites that offer some great information on dealing with difficult children.
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/adhd.cf...
http://www.alfiekohn.org/articles.htm#nu...
http://www.alfiekohn.org/parenting/gj.ht...
http://askdrsears.com/
http://www.earlychildhoodnews.com/page2....

Answer 2

adhd is basically when a kid can't sit still for very long amounts of time. If your son can sit there a tv show or a movie, or something else without haveing to run around, then he most likely doesn't have it. You can take him to your doctors and have him tested. IT is easily treated with medications. I am a mother of 5 boys and boys are generally rambuctious little things. None of mine had it, but they where always on the go. Does your friends have boys? I am guessing they probably don't. I would take him to your doctors and talk to him about it and see if he thinks that he should be tested or not.

Answer 3

Adhd usually is when the child has an inattention problem and a hyperactivity problem. It depends on your childs age but the doctors usually dont diagnose until they are over 4 because some children below this age display these behaviours.

We knew our child had adhd but did not get him tested until age 7. Whatever you do dont give the medication unless it is really causing major problems. The medication decreases their appetite and can cause slower growth and sleep problems. It is made of speed.

I recommend fish oil tablets and vitamins. Our child started on these and he has really improved. They are natural and safe to give as long as you get childrens vitamins and follow instructions on bottles.

The fish oil tablets have been in the media lately saying they have helped many cases of adhd. You dont even have to get diagnosis to give them to your child as they will benefit your child anyway. Fish oil tablets improve brain function along with other benefits.

You can open the capsule and put it in juice or food if the child wont swallow capsules.

Our son did get diagnosed with adhd but now you would not even know he has it. His current teacher did not believe us when we told her. He was not misdiagnosed either. He has always been very active and we knew compared to other children that he had it. The doctor was convinced only after 2 visits and wanted us to put hiim on the medication. But luckily my brother had been on this medication and my dad warned me not to. He told me it was not worth it and caused more problems.

Best of luck

Answer 4

attention deficit hyperactive disorder... many people have children that are being diagnosed with this..unfortunately many are misdiagnosed...if he is this active you can do many things before and if you try meds which i don't recommend unless its a last resort..my son has adhd i try meds and it made him a sad little guy crying all the time but then i tried adjusting a few things in his diet and working with teachers and he know can function at the same level as the other kids...first thing obviosly is to limit sugar,also artificial sweetners(chemical reaction with adhd) ,avoid red food coloring which is in many things cereal,syrups,gatorade,etc also limit breads and fruit juice that is processed . natural sugars are to be limited to this usually helps and they can still have desserts every now and then but limit these to a minimum...then if they cant sit still at our school they hace cushions to set on that are beady inside and you can feel a texture this is so they can sit in one place but they can also stimulate their senses without distracting or running aroung the class..if they have to tap there hands feet or pencils often a toy filled with water that they can form or play dough to squeeze helps them keep focused my son went from a distrubtive b-c student age 10-11 to a straight A student who has been student of the month and is on varisty ball teams and in little league..there are many things that will work for each child some might work for yours and not mine or vice versa ..his Dr can help you figure out what is best for him good luck

Answer 5

Please have your son tested and evaluated before you decide he has ADHD. My busy boy turned out to have CAPD. Central auditory processing disorder. He can't filter out background noise and follow directions. Through special teaching techniques, he is thriving academically and socially. Have his eyesight, hearing and blood work checked. I would also read everything I could get my hands on. Eliminating certain foods from his diet can also help like caffeine, processed sugar and flour. Hang in there! Also use simple easy directions when looking directly at him with a soft voice. Example " put your coat on now". Good Luck!

Answer 6

girls-Ifd is your son? My son has adhd and i have it under control with meds here are the things i did before i put him on them.

1. cut out red dies (fruit punch) and watch his refined sugar intake
2. have him tested for allergies (can mimic adhd signs)
3. Have him checked for depression and bipolar(can mimic adhd signs)
4. get him to a counselor cause some times adhd comes with another disorder called odd oppositional defiance disorder
5 have him checked for pdd/autism
6. BE patient with him boys are more likely to have it then girls
If it is found that he does have adhd i recomend stratera as the first "drug" to try its not like ridalin.
I AM NOT A DOCTER JUST A MOM WHO HAS BEEN THERE AND IS DOING THIS. if you want to ask me any questions feel free to im me. go to adderal.com or web md they both have check list to tell you if you need to seek a docter

Answer 7

ADHD is attention deficit hyper disorder. My son has it, but it took me a long time to realize it. I had been told by teachers in kindergarten that he had it, and I talked to his doctor about it, and she didn't feel that she should prescribe medication for him at such an early age. (People are quick to diagnose this). We changed his diet, and nothing changed in regards to his attention span, and he started failing. His doctor performed brain scans and different written test, (which are painless), and it did show that he has this condition. He takes Focalin now, is in 4th grade and is making great grades. I would talk to your doctor and have him screened for it. When my daughter was in kindergarten there were teachers who thought she had it, and she never has. She is a honor roll student in the 7th grade now.

Answer 8

My son has ADHD,

he takes Strattra for it every day. It helps him alot. But he had trouble i school to, remembering things, focusing etc.

It can be tested. But you need to be sure its a problem and not a phase.

Talk to your Dr about it and do research on it.

Answer 9

take it from me dear...kids are active...you were like that too you just don't remember. when we see our children running about we say.. shew...how do they do all that. my son was diagnosed with ADHD and yea i agree it is simply overused today. i got the meds and he just layed around in a daze so i took him off of it myself and never went back to the shrink. you don't want that. they also told me he would never be successful academically but he is in highschool now and making A's and B's. in all honesty he has had trouble in school with talking in class and following directions but we dealt with it and i am glad because the meds have significant unwanted side affects.

Answer 10

They said the same thing about my daughter but no way was i putting her on any med... she was 5 at the time now she is 6 and she is great ..... she is still a little active but I can control her. It's simple just teach him to be obedient, it works... also give him quite time like read a book for him .... Have him read to you , color 2 gether.....
do things 2 gether that also hers