Would u Have Room To Talk!!?

Question

if you had sex at an early age 12 or 13 or 14 would u be one to talk if ur kids did as well. if not why?

Answer 1

I had sex when I was 14. If my kids were to do that, I would have plenty of room to talk. I am their mother and am to look out for their best interest and safety, regardless if I did it at a younger age. What I did when I was that young was a mistake just like most things 14 yr olds do. Now I am grown up and have to be responsible, that means take care of those around you. I didn't have my first child until I was 20 but I still had her young. I still am a good mom although I made mistakes at a younger age and I make it a point to teach my children and be a responsible person. I love my children very much, what kind of mom would I be if I didn't try to stop the mistakes before they happen?

Answer 2

Sure you would. Just because your parent did it doesn't mean you need to repeat their mistakes. A child that young has no business having sex, they are not emotionally or mentally ready for what the consequences are. What if they get pregnant or get somebody else pregnant? How would you take care of the baby? There's alot involved with sex, more than just the penis and vagina and the good feeling. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16, and now at 32 I can see why my parents made that descision for me. I wasn't even ready at that age honestly. LISTEN to your folks, they might be able to give you some really life saving advice, they've been around the block a few more times than you have.
I don't have to go out and have an affair to know that it's wrong. My mother had three of them and I have pretty much learned from her mistakes, so if there's ever been a thought in my head I just go back and relive what it did to our family and realize that I might just want to stick w/ my man and work out our issues because laying up with somebody else isn't going to solve anything and giving my children mental issues for the rest of their lives isn't worth it. Lesson learned!! Seriously sometimes God puts people in our lives who have gone through something or another to tell us and warn us about a descision we may have to make in the future. Quit being so bull headed and think that you know it all, we all make mistakes but we don't have to repeat them in our own lives if we appreciate the people in our lives who are trying their best to keep us from screwing up like they did. Think about it!

Answer 3

Yes, I would "have room to talk". I have learned from my mistakes. Looking back, I would have been perfectly content, knowing what I know now, to wait for my husband... even though I didn't meet him until I was 32!

I can tell my children what I lost by not waiting. I can tell them how having sex at too early an age took away part of what should have been my childhood. I have learned from my actions... from my mistakes. I can tell my children to wait because waiting is the right thing to do and that they will regret it, as I do, if they have sex too early.

Answer 4

No I didn't, But no I wouldn't have the room to talk. basically your going up aginst your own work. I f you did some thing when you were 12,13,or14 how can you expect your kid or kid's not to do anything like that. Even if they don't know that you did that you stil don't have room to talk. But the best thing to do is sit down with him or her and explain why it was a bad idea for what you did and show them what life would be like for trying to raise a kid. It's hard as hell and they don't see that. Find a way to show them what it would be like. I know that they would not want to sit down and talk about sex, drugs, or anything else like that but you have to make shure they understand somehow.

Answer 5

I did at fifteen, maybe because I was raised by my father and of course we didn't have "the talk", so i was clueless what sex could do to me emotionally and physically. It took experiance to learn the downside of sex. anyway. I'm going to teach my children safe-sex, not abstinence because 90% are going to do it anyway, so I want them to at least be safe. Oh yeah, and put my daughter on birth-control the moment she has her first real boyfriend. I think things would've been better for me if that was I was raised.

Answer 6

Ideally, yes, cos you would learn from your mistakes.

Realistically no, not many people who have sex at such a young age really care about the kids they have, and how they grow up?

Nah, i know many teenager mothers who only do the basics for their children, and then forget about them, they just do the bare legal minimum.

Answer 7

I'd hope that my child didnt do it because of the pain it caused me. I'll be open about it. My opinion is the parent can tell their kids not to do it but they really shouldnt be surprised if the kids do.

Answer 8

Of course, there's room to talk. That's what parenting is all about.

Answer 9

you could say something...only if you regret your own experience! you could try to explain to them that its a mistake. on the other hand, if you dont regret it, the only thing that you could do is make sure that they are safe