My boyfriend and I communicate extremely well and do have things in common. We make each other very happy and neither of us care about the age difference at all. I'm only asking to see if any of you also believe age is just a number as long as the two people are of legal age, have things in common and can openly communicate really well.
2006-09-20 21:57:12 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Age in love doesn't really matter.. If you feel that you communicate well and there are a lot of things that you have in common then both of you are on the right track! Plus I think you bith have the key to a great relationship and its- OPEN COMMUNICATION!
goodluck and continue loving!
2006-09-20 22:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by yummy _me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 20 yrs older than my husband, although he was in his late 20's when I met him. We've been married for 12 years and I always think of him as an equal, not as a much younger man. The only time the difference is really evident is when he wants to go on a 10-mile hike and I've had enough after 5 miles! Having a younger partner ensures that you keep yourself 'up together' and looking good, which means I probably have a healthier lifestyle than most people my age. You don't need telling that as a very young man, your boyfriend will change as he grows older, as you will too. When people initially voiced concerns about the fact that I was older, my reply was that I was going to enjoy the relationship for as long as possible, and if it did come to an end I would just be happy for the years we'd had together. We can only live for now, work to make the partnership work and let tomorrow take care of itself. Good luck to you both.
2006-09-20 22:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by uknative 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love knows no boundaries, age, gender, race etc. You both could be truly in love.
However, there are factors that will you face which may put a strain on your lives and end up hurting you both.
You can't deny that you are both at different stages in your life. You may already have children or may have done a lot of things in life that you may not want to do again, but your bf may want to have children, even in say 10 years time.
So while you are both happy and in love now, these differences in your lives will become more apparent add strain to your relationship. 18 is a bit young for someone to be thinking of a serious relationship with anyone not to mention a less conventional relationship.
And as much as we don't like to admit it the age gap will also become more apparent. Imagine when he is still youthful at 45 and wanting to lead a full life, but you will be 60 coming close to retirement. Will he start having regrets? Will he want a woman his own age? Will you wish you had someone your own age to understand life from your point of view?
I really hope it does work out for you. I was in a similar relationship once, we weren't truly in love at the time, but thought maybe it was the best time to end it and be friends rather than end up wanting different things later on in life that can't be compromised on (you can't have half a child for example).
2006-09-20 22:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mariam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats right for you is right for you...I'm no one to tell you about the gap you are already aware of.
But you will face a social issue...and some informal responses...
...and as you age you will begin to realize why it's a mistake.
Your physical differences and abilities will make relating much different. Your medical needs and health concerns will be grossly disproportionate.
As he finds himself and discovers his identity...he will change personality-wise far more than you will - this is where the issue of the emotional and developmental rape you are commiting will come into play.
Good that you communicate well and have so much in common.
As he develops - you will lose commonality. At least you'll still be able to talk about the old days.
2006-09-20 22:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To gary_geor. Why is that sick?? Yes there should be an age limit. I think 16 and older should date who ever they please as long as the 16 year old is mature mentally.
I mean look at Anna Nicole Smith?? She married a man that was over 80 and yet she is around 30's-40's but yet people only thought that was sick because the dude was all wrinkly.
I would love to date a older woman and i am 23. They have been around and know the world alot better.
My opinion is, age shouldnt play a role in relationships. Only Love, Respect,and Trust. As long as they are mature in there head. Then all good.
2006-09-20 22:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by cratty_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its clear from ur age and communication u both r very well set.
That too for Sex age does not matter.
Once i have found a bad than this a boy of 18 with a old lady of 45
Comparing to that u r nothing
Better go ahead
But for marriage i donot prefer this since u will be hesitated when ur somemore older and the guy will be young and he goes for another at an lower age than him or even alteast u.
Thats nature for Sex too........!
is not so........?
2006-09-20 22:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sampath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is just a number , the only time age matters is if you are a fine wine. its personal choice. if you love each other then what business is it of anyone Else's at all.You are not hurting anyone by this relationship. you are both old enough to make your own minds up.what are the hard and fast rules for anyone falling in love, ? well there are not any is the simple answer, it happens, people are attracted to each other and that's that.Society leads us all into thinking in a stereotype attitude, its wrong, be free enjoys yourselves and to heck with what others think, you cant lead your lives to make others happy. the only time it is an issue is if it is illegal.
2006-09-20 22:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think when a 18 yr can communicate with you he must be asking you to describe the anotomy of your sexy body. On the other hand you responding to him is also gives an indicartion that you have accepted him.
It is the maturity which counts more than the age. It seems the boy is more matured than you. he would have a safer sex and you would have a stronger one.
2006-09-20 22:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mechie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't be for me, yes age is only a number, but I am the same age as you but I have a 14 year old son, for me it would be too weird.
But you are both adults and if you both don't have a problem with it then who cares what other people say.
Girl you go for it, and have fun.
2006-09-20 22:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Migz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E age is right of u guys don't plan to have sex(as in u WANT a baby).In lots of cases,if the woman is older,the chances of being pregnant is low while when the man is older,it still can be a successful fertilisation. This is because the female eggs 'expire' faster in most woman.
2006-09-20 22:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by ms_rar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋