My divorced sister has two sons age 7 & 13. She dated this guy "bob" 2 years ago and he totally ignored her kids. He never wanted them around and didn't include them in anything. She mentioned his behavior and he said "if they were his kids with her he would treat them different" She broke up with him. Now he is back and he wants her to marry him and have more kids. I am afraid he is going to mistreat my nephews. Should I say anything??
2006-09-20 21:55:14 · 14 answers · asked by kamsmom 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her what you see, as an outsider you can observe better. If he have ignored the existence of her kids before he is definitely going to ill treat her kids once his married to her and if there is kids of his own it will be hell for those kids.She should know better than to put her kids into this situation as they did not ask to be here. HER KIDS COMES FIRST boyfriends last in line even if he can afford to give them a better life. So glad to see people still cared. She should thank you for your advise.
2006-09-21 01:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your sister needs to get rid of this jerk, after all if he can't accept what is part of your sister - that is her own kids then he shouldn't accept any of her. This guys sounds a moron. When they are 18 then the kids can do what they like but they are children so they have a right to full attention from their mother not someone else who just greased his way back - If anyone needs excluding it is this guy who after all is a foreigner to your family. Say something before it ends up another disaster for your sister. I would chuck this guy out on the doorstep and slam the door behind him.
There are true guys out there for your sister who would love to be part of your family and get involved, why get married to someone who will cause pain to her kids and he don't really sound like someone who loves her he is just out for what he can get for himself and what is important for him.
I have to stop typing my blood is boiling!
2006-09-20 21:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by Gingerbread Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you look for in a guy is do he like kids and by the way i have two kids then if yes try it out and see what happens but the good part about it the kids are older and they can talk to the mom about differnt things that they do not like about the new boyfriend okkkkkkkkkkkk halla hope this helps out for your sis
2006-09-20 23:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by mytjoemaine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - dont let her marry him - he is not worth it - a man aught to love everything about a girl even her kids no questions about that - it will never ork otherwise - and what might he be like with his own kids - if he turns sour on them thats a problem - if he loves them to bits - then he is making her kids sad because they are missing out!
Nope I would dump him for sure - ;O(
2006-09-20 21:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say if he doesnt like her kids, then he really doesnt like her. Because those children are apart of who she is......you should speak up, because those are your nephews and you should want the best for them.
2006-09-21 03:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by sha9609 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES < YES and YES. you should say something. what makes her think he has changed and when they have kids of their own what hope is there for your nephews. speak up and tell her your fears, not in a derogatory manner but speak up
2006-09-20 21:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your sister. Her kids should always be first. It is a bad situation.
2006-09-21 07:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by Didi S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeap...tell ur sis that she shouldnt accept the guy who cannot accept her kids...what if he abuse and ill-treat your nephews while your sis is not in?? their education?? and the most important thing is they will not have the love of a father..=)
2006-09-20 21:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that guy is totally crazy!!
ask ur sister to find another guy..the guy that u mentioned above cannot be a good father to her sons!!!
2006-09-20 21:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by ReeZ C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your sister that who will take care of her kids and make her think for her children
2006-09-20 22:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by ravi s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋