My bf went to London for business trip. it's been a while and I’m missing him so much. there are some guys here trying to win my heart. they are showing loves to me, but I don't like any of them. one of them is bugging me like hell.
why is that when I need him by my side so badly, he isn't there? I can't sleep right now and stop thinking about him. I want to let him know how I feel but yet afraid it's gonna affect his performance at work. I don't want him to worry about me.
I know when the sun rises, everything will be better, but now, I just can't sleep.
2006-09-20 21:46:19 · 33 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We do talk on the phone, text-messaging and IM a lot.
2006-09-20 21:55:38 · update #1
Pls don't say anything about sex. that's not something i want from him right now or from anyone or anything. thanks!
2006-09-20 21:57:51 · update #2
Hey don't worry too much k? I'm in the similar situation as u now. I'm in my home country now and away from my b/f till next mth, Oct. I have to be away from him for 45 days and really missing him so much! I dope i can be with him now and never be apart... It is not only sex really, it is the need emotionally, his accompany, his existence is my comfort.
Yet i have to say that u need to solve the problem of so many guys bugging u when he is away. Just imagine, in the future if u are married, u cannot be with him every minute every second. If then there are men bugging u, can u cope? I don't know why there are so many guys crazy for u, if they are attracted by your physical look, then i have nothing to say. Your b/f has to be very careful and u have to be very "resistant" of the disturbance.
Remember, a relationship is a thing between 2 person, of 2 of u never give up, nobody can interfere in and dragging u away...
2006-09-21 02:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by a V a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That really reminds me of my own story. I don't know, I have moments still, but in general you end up getting over it. The thing is, you gotta seek out people you *feel* are nice, I don't know, it's always worked for me, I could always tell from the moment I met someone if they were genuine and nice or if they were just the facade, reality tv wannabes. I never really got into the whole religion thing, I found myself blaming god for everything and then I realized that hating fate and whatever is just an excuse. I found a few people I felt I could trust and I started to open up to them, a little at a time. Some of them I could tell actually cared and w/e, some of them I noticed stopped paying attention, so I just focused on the ones who listened. I learned to let go of the things that don't matter, yes it sounds naive I'm sure, but really, it's more important in life to do what makes you happy. You gotta balance everything out, and if you have too much on your plate, prioritize and let the stuff that's not really important to YOU and/or YOUR future go. And try to make a close friend or two, they can really help you get through a lot. Good luck, and hit me up if you want.
2016-03-17 23:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The average life span of humans in developed nations is about 85 years of age. You have a computer, so I'm guessing you live in an affluent country. I'm also guessing that you're about 20-25 years of age, you look young.
Don't fret. Your boyfriend will be with you again soon enough. You've got more than 60 years of life to live. Believe it or not, there will come a time when you won't want to be with your boyfriend so much.
2006-09-20 22:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you miss him and want to let him know and yet not bug him too much, just text him to say he's missed and when he comes back, you've got a surprise for him or stg.
You don't need to whine or show your loneliness when you speak to him while he is away.
In the meantime, to cope with time on your hands, go learn to whip up a new dish or make something for him.
Men want their women to be supportive of their career, so don't ever tell him he isn't there when you need him, esp now since you said he is gone for business trip.
Things aren't as bad as you feel, really.
2006-09-20 21:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that's you in your avatar, i wouldn't wonder why so many guys are bugging you now. i know how it feels when your loved one goes away for sometime. it's good that you miss him, it means you love him very much. but he is not going away for good. it's just a business trip. and i'm sure it's for your future plans.
i don't see why you can't tell him you miss him so much. just tell him about it. i'm sure it will make him feel good, knowing that there is someone who loves him so much waiting for him to come back. guys like to hear those things. it should energize him more to do his best and finish the work, so he could come back soon to his love.
until then maybe you could find something to do that would help you become busy. try practising to cook some good dishes so there is a very big surprise for him when he comes back.
2006-09-20 22:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's difficult right now, but you just need to get through it by thinking that he'll be back and things will be the way they were soon enough. Don't dwell on him being gone, just remember, it's not like he's gone forever, he'll be back. In the meantime, keep yourself occupied with friends and family. When my bf went away to boot camp for 2 months, I wanted to die. But I knew he'd come back and I thought positive thoughts. Even though there were some nights I couldn't sleep bc it hurt so bad, I carried on with my life until he returned.
2006-09-21 03:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These feelings are completley natural.
Consider these tips on how to cure loneliness:
Keep Busy. If you are lonely, don't dwell on the fact. Get up and get out! Go somewhere where there are a lot of people. Don't worry if you don't know any of them; sometimes being around other people can help brighten your spirits. Other simple things you can do to keep busy are to join a club, take some classes at the YMCA, volunteer at a non-profit organization, or take up a hobby that requires mental concentration. The point is to find something that interests you and run with.
Get Involved. Your neighborhood and your church are two great places to start getting involved. On the surface this might sound like the same thing as keeping busy. Getting involved in something will require a little more time and lot more of your attention, but that is what you want. So commit yourself to some cause or charity that you feel passionate about. The more involved you get, the more people you will meet, the less and less loneliness will be an issue. Look around at the people you know who do not experience loneliness. Chances are, they are busy and involved people.
Help Other Lonely People. There are a lot of people out there like yourself: people who are lonely and don't know how to cope with their loneliness. If you look for those people and strive to help cure their loneliness, in the end you will also be helping yourself to cure your own loneliness.
See it for What it Is. You will need to start to view loneliness as a choice and not as a defined way of life. This means that you choose to be lonely when you do not really have to be lonely. Try being happy for a change and you will see the difference a smile will make. Just as feelings of loneliness breed more feelings of loneliness, feeling of happiness can bring about more feelings of happiness. If necessary, join a group that deals with feeling lonely. A group setting is designed to help you develop an optimistic attitude.
Change your Thought Pattern. I don't know why, but people who feel lonely and depressed tend to watch shows and read materials that reinforce their depressed mood. Are you listening to music about heartbroken people? Are you watching movies that require a box of tissues? What you need to do is change your way of thinking! Start listening to uplifting music, read inspirational writing -- such as poems or the Bible -- and start watching uplifting TV shows. All of these will help to change your negative thought patterns.
These are only some of the ways you can help to ease or eliminate your feelings of loneliness. There are others out there; all you have do is use your imagination. Also remember drugs and alcohol are not remedies for loneliness, they will only worsen the symptoms and ruin your physical health as well. No matter what you do to ease your loneliness, try to seek out remedies to loneliness that involve getting to know new people and making new friends. These are always the best way to change your thought patterns which will help you move on.
2006-09-20 21:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie just think that he's working his butt off for your future.. that's why his in a business trip.. I know how it feels to really miss someone and being or entertaining other guys even if they're showing you love will never be a solution.. Why don;t you try to call him and tell him how you feel and that you really miss him? It will not affect his performance and for sure he also misses you.. I know you just wana feel cared and loved too.. so try to call or email him then tell him how much you miss and love him.. try to go here.. lots of advice.. it will direct you to my blog about relationships and there's a lot of advice there.
2006-09-20 21:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by yummy _me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First u need 2 ask urself if u r missing the man or the sex.If it's the man get one of his shirts and spray it with the colonge u like the best and put it in the bed with u.If it's sex go by u a toy and a dvd and use ur imagination!!!!!!
2006-09-20 21:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by LADONNA W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I'm feeling the same way. I miss my man so bad its crazy. I feel so desperate right now because I really need him. Its nice to know Im not alone.. I feel the same as you. Hopefully you are right that the sun will rise and it will be better. Hope you get to sleep soon.
2006-09-20 21:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋