Has lack of discipline in the home resulted in the monstrous things we see on our streets today?
Or has this loutish behaviour always been there but it gets reported more?
2006-09-20 21:45:29 · 29 answers · asked by Michael E 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Smacking does not equate to discipline. It's about respecting their parents and unfortunately some kids seem to lack respect for anyone. Ive often seen young mothers out and about, effing at their little children saying they are a little so and so and half dragging them up the street, makes me want to punch them, the mother that is. No wonder children grow up with such bad behaviour. If they are not shown respect how the hell will they understand what it is.
2006-09-20 21:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by Annie M 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
yes i think smacking is necessary in some circumstances of bad behaviour, not all. There is no deterrent to children now days .They run the streets after dark because the have no fear of any punishment given to them at all, by parents or police. many children of today show no respect to people or anybody Else's property, they have no manners.
it is a parents responsibility to bring there own child up with respect for others and definitely manners.
mum of a well mannered , respectful 17 year lad
2006-09-20 21:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by ♥fluffykins_69♥ 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe there is anything wrong with putting your hand on a kids butt. but, I'm dead against child abuse. and spankings are not child abuse. But, i don't think that spankings are the perfect punishment for everything. spanking your child should be the last resort.
and i do believe that the problem with today's kids....they need their little butts smacked and maybe this crap that's going on these days would slow down.
I'm pretty sure 30 years ago there weren't big gangs running around stealing and robbing from people. And, I'm pretty sure drive by shootings wasn't a major issue back then either.
look at what has happen to these kids since it's been against the law to spank your child. todays kids are mean, hateful and very rude and they have no repect for adults.
2006-09-20 21:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Praise the Lord 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
of course they should. you see discipline begins at home and you have to be firm but fair in bringing up children. you see in a inner city environment (i was brought up in one) you have a lot of peer pressure and the fact is you are pulled into the situation you see today but if you teach you kids the right values and morals you should be half way there but if not they are on there own devices.I'm not saying inner city kids are all bad but iv grown up in the environment and know how it works there and i know that not all can move from there and live in good areas because finances do not allow it but you can conduct yourself in a manner that your kids will pick upon. my mother and step father was very strict and hard with me and that is what made me the man i am today. but my step father hated me and used to beat the crap out of me but i did not retaliate but my mother would do nothing (i don't know why) most of my mates back then had criminal records that was as long as you arm but i can proudly say i don't have ANY. hope this helps and take care..
2006-09-20 22:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by JAY JAY 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the State has any right to tell people what to do. If parents can't discipline their children and teach them right from wrong, I don't see the State jumping in to take over.
Actually, I do. And I see that the State's paltry effort has absolutely no effect.
This coming generation will grow up to be monsters. It's a good job, then, that they'll be so fat that they'll be dead by the time they're all 20.
2006-09-20 21:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
From personal experience, and i feel and believe and hope that no one should not smack their children but a gentle ones. I swear to God, it just made me hates my parents more, but to be truthful i do love my parents somehow.
Again, it's not soo nice to hurt a child, yes I understand a child or cldren can be annoying. But why not try talking anf take time and get to know each other- soon one day you'll see why he or she did it. I mean seriously give them space! They need to learn the right and wrong themselves, why are you all forcing the child to believe in what you believe, let them see and taste it themseleves!!
BTW i thought we all have equal rights, we all should be treated fairly, yet we all have different indvidual needs - and thus we all should learn how to cope with!
Well... right now, i'm abit not so happy coz' of the problems i had - and this question that this person is asking above - just reminds me of the times that happens and i'm even more... gosh.. i feel disgusted and i just hope and pray that one day parents should just their children space and teach them - come on at least?????
Peace
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2006-09-21 03:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I believe that parents should be able to spank their children when they misbehave. However it should be where the Lord put the extra padding and they should not go overboard. If they are to angry, then they should make the child sit or something to give the parent time to cool down and that will also give the child time to think about what they did wrong.
2006-09-20 21:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
smacking never me did me or my sister any harm and we have grown up be both sensible young women. so yes i believe it should be allowed but i understand it needs to be regulated as there is a very grey area around this. i believe a smack is ok if you explain to the child why they are being punished. i feel its abuse when the child has no idea why they have been smacked
2006-09-20 22:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, I had my girls in the 70's and I would smack them if they were naughty, thinking back now, it was easier to smack than to talk to them and I regret my actions, I had my 2 sons in the late 80's and early 90's, I have never smacked them, I always talk to them and they have always responded well. If I had to compare the girls upbringing with the boys I would say the boys have a better deal, I am fortunate that all my kids have turned out to be respectable, law abiding people. I think my age had a lot to do with how I brought the kids up too, I was young with the girls and in my 30's with the boys, I mellowed with age.
2006-09-20 21:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I don't think it's lack of physical disciplining that causes the "rat-kids". Crappy, disinterested parents who can't set boundaries for their children will usually yield that sort of behaviour. That kind of parents have probably always existed, although it may have become worse since the hippie new-age notion of "be your child's best friend" started having consequences.
The loutishness of kids comes from having too many choices. If parents don't guide their kids, and the outside world also provides kids with endless possibilities, the effect seems invariably to be "rat-kids".
2006-09-20 21:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by SonniS 4 · 2⤊ 5⤋