This guy and I have been flirting for a while. He told me I was beautiful, have a lot going for you and could have any guy you wanted, but I told him I wasn't looking for a guy because I just got out of a relationship and needed to be by myself for a while. I realized that he probably thought I didn't like him so I called him back up to let him know that he was tall, dark and handsome and I was attracted to him. I didn't say that I wanted to go out with him in the future, I just left it at that.
After two weeks, I called him on a work issue but didn't leave a message. He called me back. We talked for an hour but not about work. We did not talk about what happened. I don't think he will continue to call me unless I tell him I want him to call. Part of me wants to tell him to continue to call me because I really love talking to him and I miss him but part of me says leave it alone because I'm afraid that he will feel put on the spot and then it will be awkward. What should I do
2006-09-20 21:21:56 · 15 answers · asked by coolstreem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simple question: Do you want him to call you or not? If you do, tell him. If not, leave him alone.
2006-09-20 21:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If U really like him. B frank & tell him what U feels about him & yourself.
Since U wanna some time 2 think things over, ask him 2 B just fren 1st while U sort out your life. Hint 2 him tat may B by being close 2 U during this phase, his shoulder 2 cry on may becum shoulder 2 hug on.
2006-09-21 04:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by wertony97 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your gut instinct, what is your head telling you to do and your heart. It doesn't sound like he will feel awkward he did after all make the first move so to speak. He needs to know where he stands, he is probably a bit confused you have been sending him out mixed signals here Hun.Explain to him that you miss his phone calls and the chats you have and that you like him and maybe there could be something between you if he wanted there to be. explain why you have been a bit confused as to your feelings. the bottom line is be honest and be yourself.If you cant do this on the phone e mail him Hun.
2006-09-21 04:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...it's pretty obvious that both of u are attracted to each other. If not u wouldn't be asking this question. Make a move! Don't expect the guy to do everything, and let him know u're interested if not directly then subtly. Don't give up a nice guy just b'cos u can't forget ur ex.
2006-09-21 04:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two have good conversations, let it go from there. If it is meant to be, things will progress on their own. Don't force the issue either way. You can keep things from getting too serious if you don't want them to without having to push the other person away completely. Enjoy the conversations and friendship for now and see what happens.
2006-09-21 04:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by loquaciousness 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Havent You heard of the Phrase" HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY"? Tell That Man The truth And The Two Of You Will Feel A Lot Better.
2006-09-21 04:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by Nakia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem lies in u!!!
U like him else why would u want him to call.U enjoy his company.So wats the problem.just call him up ,meet at someplace.Talk to him about how u feel.tell him that u like speaking to him and enjoy his company but u would like to have some time to think about ur relationships as u have not got over with ur other relationship completely.tell him to understand and continue being ur friend.Hope he will understand and wait for what he says.
There is nothing like talking face to face.
2006-09-21 04:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jitendra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know what you mean...
I think that the best to do is to be honest with him.
You can tell him exactly how you feel about the whole thing and then let him decide what he decides to do.
The best thing is to discuss your fears about how a new relationship might develop, since you need time, but it's up to both of you to decide.
Good luck!
2006-09-21 04:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by ngiapapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just want to hang out, relax and see where things go. You may find a new man when your not looking for one.
2006-09-21 04:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by kamsmom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
always end the conversation with something like: let's chat later or call me later or I will call you this weekend.
And for the people I am not interested in, just say "Goodbye."
2006-09-21 04:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by late4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋