My daughter was sexually molested by her step-father, in which, she has refused to speak of it to myself and the doctors of this tramatic expirence and she is protecting the predator where she's continuing a parent-daughter relationship with him. I'm utterly confused by my daughter's behavior where I'm estranged from her , but I continue to love,care and support her with all my heart and I wish to regain my relationship with her because she is the love of my life.
2006-09-20 21:20:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would suggest that she could be at least partially blaming you for bringing him into her life and not protecting her from him. If she's still wanting to maintain some sort of relationship with him, then she could also be upset with you for disrupting their "relationship."
If he's still in the house, first off, get rid of the bastard, regardless of her "relationship" with him, because it will likely happen again. Next, if she's still living with you, or you still have custody, get a restraining order on him to protect her from his influence.
Finally, get your daughter and yourself in to see a female family therapist, to help her deal with what's happened, her confused feelings about it, and the status of your relationship with her. Counseling is imperative for anyone that's been sexually assaulted, especially when it's caused negative changes in her attitude. Expect to visit the therapist together weekly for at least a few months.
2006-09-20 22:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does this man still live in your house? If not, then how does she get with him. She thinks she is in love with him perhaps, as I know that she knows that is not what a father does to his little girl. How old is she, and how old is he? This man is getting by with murder and needs to be behind bars. I know that she might not like it, but get him off the streets, and out of your house and into jail, if you can do it. Good luck. If you don't she will find him and run away with him, so I think counselors should be involved. This man has pulled the wool over her eyes, and needs to be punished. Do you know how many others he has done this to, then run a police file on him.
2006-09-20 21:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your daughter has lost her free will to reason. it has been taken from her. your not there to to avenge her honor and to protect her. no one is. and so she has accepted the role imposed upon her. Do you really love and care for her? Are you really a Father?
2006-09-20 21:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds to me like you are all still living in the same house? since you did refere to him as her step father. you see, if all of you were not living under the same roof, she would not have contact with him, and you would not have called him or step father.
do you think that maybe she is upset with you.....
2006-09-20 21:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual for girls to be attached to their abusers, Many times the abuser has used a kind of brainwashing to convince her that he is the only one who cares and understands. Eventually, she will wise up. I feel bad for her and for you.
2006-09-20 21:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her and get out of the house. Don't take her back to face this man again. Hopefully she'll say something one day.
2006-09-20 21:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE IF SHE TALKED ABOUT IT SHE HAS TO RELIVE IT!
IT SUCKS TO HAVE TO FEEL PAST PAIN!
DON'T MAKE HER REVISIT IT IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO!
2006-09-20 21:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by Candy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋