My best friend is pulling away from me and our faith. He's met this girl who is totally disrespectful and uncouth. She's often questioning the word of Christ and putting doubts about the bible in his head. She's gone so far as to say that we our blinded by our religion and not seeing the world with "unbias" eyes. Excuse me but I rather see things through God's eyes than satanic eyes.
It went too far when he confided in me that they had engaged in unholy and self-deprecating activities, what she coined as "holy penetration". I told him he should be ashamed of himself for letting that sex-deprived whore from ruining his chances for getting into Christian heaven. Christ burned to death to pay for our sins. Christ did it to show that we can count on him when the going going gets rough.
Should I confront this tramp and tell her to leave my best friend alone? What should I say to her? I wish harm upon her as she has ruin the mind of a good Christian. She is trash in God's eyes!
2006-09-20 20:56:27 · 21 answers · asked by Skyeboi 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
forgiveness is your roots stay at it,give him your times,rebuke,and with blame and the assurance "our lord is coming" simple as nothing had happened .tell him the bad news that everyone shall stands his ,or her course alone in the day of the Lord.
2006-09-20 21:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well it sounds like neither you nor your friend have / had a good sound basis for what you call your faith. Christ did NOT burn to death. Your friend is not a Christian whether or not he is a good person. She is NOT trash in God's eyes but rather a sinner that Jesus died on the cross for.
You really can't do much about your friend at this point because anything you try to do will probably push him closer to her.
BUT you can do something about your own self. Get to know Jesus Christ by reading the Bible from Genesis to Revelation. A few days ago someone asked a question on Yahoo Answers regarding the Alpha Course. If you can find the course at a church in your area it would be a good place to find out what the Christian faith really is about.
Until you eliminate the falsehoods in your own beliefs you really are an example of the blind leading the blind.
2006-09-21 08:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by JOYfilled - Romans 8:28 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want to tell you that your views are not Christian my friend. There is no trash in God's eyes. There may be many who are not following God and live wicked lives, but that still does not make them trash. You have a lot of hate and anger in your heart which you should not have as a Christian. Christians certainly have feelings like everyone else, but we must not succumb to those emotions. We must not allow those emotions to control or dominate us. Christians ought to love and forgive.
That being said, I do believe that this girl also has some issues. Has your friend tried talking to her about this? I hate to say it buddy, but if she alone is able to pull him away from his faith, then perhaps he was never wholeheartedly into it the first place. As Christians, we must not be content simply to go through the motions. To call ourselves Christian and to pray occassionally is not enough. We must walk with the Lord every day. That is, loving, respecting and forgiving everybody out there. For, if we only love those who love us, how are we different than non-Christians. If we forgive those who only forgive us, how are we different than non-Christians? We are not.
Christ did not come to call the righteous, but the unrighteous. The well have no need of a physician, but only the sick. Daily in His ministry, he could be seen sitting, praying, spending time with sinful, wicked people. These were not people who simple challenged the word of God or lied to people or stole something, like we practice today. These were truly wicked people, engaging in murder, assault, rape and so on. Yet those are the people Christ focused on. For that was his purpose. This is the example we are to follow.
You should approach and speak to this girl only if you have good intentions and you plan on engaging in a mature, civilized conversation with her. Tell her that you are concerned that she is affecting your friends faith and life. Tell that you are also concerned for her and would love to answer any questions or comments she has about Christianity. If she insults you to your face, then you have found out what type of person she is.
Also speak to your friend. Express your concern to him about him moving away from the faith and her impact on him. Pray for him and her. If you don't get anywhere, then I hate to say it like I've said earlier, but he probably wasn't that involved with the faith to start with. I know I hear all kinds of arguments on "well, if you heard such and such, you would become a non-Christian also." I can't tell you how false that statement is. There is nothing that you could show me or tell me that would make be just give it up. As is known, it is truly a personal relationship with God. Once you have it, you have it. It is a feeling inside and a confidence that you have. A feeling of inner peace and love, that you want to share with the world. Good luck and God Bless :)
Oh, and Christ did not burn, he was hung on a cross.
2006-09-21 05:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by magicka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is a Christian he will go to heaven, Christ was crucified; not burned. Christ died for us so that we could be saved from the world and fellowship with God. We were created to worship God and that is why we are here.
You are right to be concerned for your friend, but you should not be angry about this, stay calm and focused, prepare yourself through prayer and reading the Bible. When you are ready; talk with your friend in a Christlike way, out of love not anger.
If your talk does not work take a mutual Christian friend or two with you and speak with your friend, explain your concerns and how they relate to Gods word.
If this does not work and your friend is still in Church, speak with your pastor and tell him what you have done, he should be willing to bring your friend before the Church for discipline.
Many are tempted by different things, not the least of which is sex. I am well qualified to speak about this because it is one of my biggest weaknesses and I struggle with it about every day. Your friend is still your friend and it would be best if you can keep it that way.
This girl is no different from most of the world, she does not believe and she needs to know Christ, your friend should be more concerned (and so should you) about her salvation then sex or the problems between the two of you.
God Bless...
2006-09-21 04:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The BIBLE tells us not to render evil for evil. You wish to do harm to this person and that is not the way. This poor soul has no love for herself let alone your friend. If you friend was rooted in the word of GOD he would have not allowed this person to lead him astray. Confronting her would only make it worse she may even go as far as telling your friend that you tried to seduce her and that could cause a bigger problem. No matter how bad this situation is, no one in GOD'S eye is trash. HE does not make junk. We will all have to give a account to what we do in this life and we all have free will, we will either serve GOD or serve SIN which is of the devil. There is some good that can come from this. Your friend will see this girl for what she really is. Just be there when he falls.
2006-09-21 04:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by marie c 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, first of all I am appalled at your VERY un-Christian feelings and thought. Instead of damning her, you should be trying to reach out to her; Only showing your mercy will you show your friend, her, and probably YOUSELF the power of Christ our Lord. You do not have the power to smite others, that power is God's alone. You should try to embrace this so called 'whore', she is suffering and needs help. If you can't do it, then try to tell your friend that he/she needs help and not to leave her alone to her own devices; to leave her be is NOT the path of our Lord. Or, YOU could sleep with your friend. What this sounds like at the heart is jealousy. You envy this 'whore' for the attention she gains from your friend. What does that say if I'm correct? You should be honest with yourself, your friend, and the Lord. I hope you weren't hoping for an answer to this question that sounded like "burn the witch!"; if that is the case, then I pity you in the eyes of the Almighty. Bless, and I hope you find your way. Good Luck!
2006-09-21 04:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by CantBClever 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are a complete HYPOCRITE! You sit here saying all this bull about being a true Christian.. you are not a true Christian. You wish harm upon her - that doesnt sound very Christian. You need to grow up and let your friend make his own choices. It sounds to me that you are jealous of your friend, he has a girlfriend and maybe you want one. She is not trash in Gods eyes... do you have his eyes.. practice what you preach! You dont know what God is thinking. YOU specifically are the reason people steer away from Christianity. You need to ask for forgiveness for wishing bad thoughts on people. Plus - Jesus did not BURN for us! You dont even know about your religion. Study up on it and mind your business.
2006-09-21 04:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by sassysharli 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is trash in God's eyes but remember it is not good to wish harm on others either. The best thing you can do is pray. I'm sure you know that the power of prayer is big. Pray to God and ask him to bring your friend back, to open his eyes, and enter his heart once again. But dont give up on him, dont loose your faith. About confronting her it might not be such a good idea if you dont think you can control yourself. If you do talk to her try to stay calm. She is an obstacle for your friend that the devil has put in front of him to pull him away from God.Keep praying and God will answer your prayers.
2006-09-21 04:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by morenita 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
how can you wish bad things on her? what sort of christain are you? in gods eyes she is still one of his children who made bad choices in her life. i think before you start judging her and your friend take a good look at yourself. are you thinking the way a good christain should be thinking? look it up in the bible and see, because the bible is your mirror you are suppose to live your life the way it portrays. and i don't remeber god telling anyone there a "tramp". and then when you have done that pray for forgiveness for yourself and your friend and plead for god 2 steer your friend into the right descisions. :) good luck and god bless x
2006-09-21 04:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by uniqu3ang3l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup your such a good christian... blindly following your faith and desiering to harm thoses that question it.
*rolls eyes*
A good christain should be open to questiong there fiath and be reafermed in it.... and be kind to all with out hate in there heart.
To bad there arn't very many good christians out there.... would would be a much better place if there was.
2006-09-21 04:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by CrazyCat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is responsible for his own actions. If you truly want to talk to your friend, don't be pushy. Trust me, if you go to harping and trying to tell him what is right, he will only go farther away. If you confront her like this, she will only have more fuel for her fight. Remember that we can't change anyone. God is the only one that can help now. Just keep praying for him. That is really all you can do. In time I'm sure he will be convicted by our Father. Pray for him and her. Good luck.
2006-09-21 04:02:53 · answer #11 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋