A very serious question so no silly answers please!My son is 9 & suffers with O.D.D! Wot can I do 2 get help?

Question

We have been trying to deal with his behaviour for years now but it's getting worse and worse, I've done 3 parental management courses because the doctors seem to think it's my parenting skills that are wrong but things never get better. They say he doesnt have ADHD but that he has O.D.D but didnt say what I should do next! I'm confussed!!!
Any Ideas on what I cant do to help our situation please??

O.D.D is Oppsitonal Defiance Disorder and Yes I have talked to doctors but never get ant REAL help!

Type ODD into google if u have time as it explains exactly wot it is.

Answer 1

I'm guessing that ODD is Oppositional Defiance Disorder. If you look at web sites dedicated to this or other similar problems you will find a wealth of help. I found the Tourette's site really useful in managing my son's problems. Although the causes of the behaviour are different often the management of that behaviour is the same.
My son is oppositional and autistic and has learning difficulties. Through using various techniques, his behaviour has improved tremendously. We also altered his diet to exclude gluten and to be predominantly organic food. All of this helped. So did giving him pro-biotic drinks every day. Try looking up sites about hyperactivity too.......there's some useful stuff around a naturally occuring chemical called salycilic (not sure of the spelling) acid that seems to affect some youngsters brains.

Also see if your local CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service) can suggest anything.

I know it's hard (and anyone who hasn't lived it has NO idea how hard) but hang on in there, these sorts of problems usually improve with age. I'm thinking of you.

Answer 2

I think if the medics had their way most active little boys would be treated for ADD. The problem usually is that they have never learned to sit and stay with one activity for any length of time - they are always buzzing around from one thing to another. There is no instant cure but you could try the following.
Start noticing the things he's interested in already, and try and sit down with him for a few minutes every evening and look at pictures related to that activity in a book or magazine. Ask him simple questions about it - get him interested and involved for a few minutes at first and gradually you'll notice him getting a bit calmer. Looking at pictures and talking about them is a great way to slow them down a bit. Children need time - the one thing that's in short supply these days I'm afraid - but even a few minutes given every day can help enormously. You mustn't do anything else - answer the phone, the door - anything - just sit calmly with him and be patient, even if at first he doesn't respond. Also PRAISE him for every little good thing he does - he needs to know what he's doing right as well as what he's doing wrong. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Always build on the positives, give the child praise and positive reinforcement when he shows flexibility or cooperation.
Take a time‑out or break if you are about to make the conflict with your child worse, not better. This is good modeling for your child. Support your child if he decides to take a time‑out to prevent overreacting.
Pick your battles. Since the child with ODD has trouble avoiding power struggles, prioritize the things you want your child to do. If you give your child a time‑out in his room for misbehavior, don't add time for arguing. Say "your time will start when you go to your room."
Set up reasonable, age appropriate limits with consequences that can be enforced consistently.
Maintain interests other than your child with ODD, so that managing your child doesn't take all your time and energy. Try to work with and obtain support from the other adults (teachers, coaches, and spouse) dealing with your child.
Manage your own stress with exercise and relaxation. Use respite care as needed

Answer 4

Contact a child psychiatrist for information on help your son can receive, most hospitals have them on site and will advise on possible scenario's. There is parent help groups you can contact, and also the NSPCC will have tones of advice that will help the whole family. I would also suggest asking Social Services, but do not get your hopes up with this.

Can i also say that if the professionals do not have an answer for something they place blame at the parents feet so do not waste time blaming or feeling it is down to you, believe me you are not alone in this and neither is your son. Contact the hospital and the NSPCC after that you should start to get the help and assistance you need, without the blame.

Answer 5

I feel for any parents seeking help for their kids, been there and been let down too many times!! anyway, God loves a trier so keep trying!! start with school, they should have resources to bring in Ed psychs who can assess your son and make recommendations as to his future educational needs, then go see family GP, keep insisting, there should be a place you can attend with your son to get support and guidance, ask your health visitor for any support groups. Don't give up, you have to keep cutting through all this red tape to get anywhere, keep yourself fit and healthy because this is mind suffering work you are taking on, but you have to do it for the sake of your son, if you don't help him nobody else will.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

not sure if you mean g d d as i have a son with this as well there nothin they can do for it no tablets you can give him or anything if it is odd which i assume is a form of adhd you should request ritalin from your doctor this will settle his behaviour have you thought of having him checked for dyspraxia as this is sometimes interpreted as adhd i would seriously get back to the docs and tell them how hard he is to cope with

good luck

Answer 8

you need some real parenting courses... time for you to grow up and take responsibility... you need to make a real effort to raise this child and stop thinking he has some disorder... ODD is bad parenting, but it's probably because you have no real idea how to raise a kid. Seriously, go read a book, or take a course... but stop acting helpless about it, it's pathetic and it's going to ruin this kid's life. get serious about this and do it now

Answer 9

I have a son with this, you can consult your educational department for support or young peoples mental health teams in your area, tis not an easy task for you or your son. the very very best of luck..
additional
http://www.cafamily.org.uk/Direct/c52.html
try this link

Answer 10

I'm a retired Psychologist, you must mean A.D.D.

I raised 3 kids, 2 with ADHD and one with A.D.D. which is ADHD without the hyperactivity, your child is going to experience some learning problems as well as social ones, encourage him, praise him, love him and get him into therapy, as well as yourself to help you both cope with what is a real issue. (Many will say it is not) Good luck and God bless you both.