I'm with someone, and he's so great. He's not like other guys ya know, he respects me, and he takes care of me BUT of course as with every relationship, there are ups and downs. We have them sometimes, and out problems aren't that big really, just some disagreements so anyway almost a month ago I had this really vivid dream about the guy that i "miss", and it was so real that I said to myself, I wonder what's been up with him. So just the other day he texted me, and I was so excited to call him back! I don't know why but I was. He was someone I did love, but he treated me like sh$t at the time, but it was apparent that he missed me. So anyways should I go with my so called feelings and see him, because i miss him to and get some "CLOSURE", or should I just stay away because I have a great man. What do you do when your torn by your emotions?
2006-09-20 20:45:50 · 10 answers · asked by Bizzy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, I thought I did have some closure to our realationship, i havent even seen the guy i miss in 8 to 9 months. Its just that hearing from him brings back old feelings. I do really love the guy i'm with though.
2006-09-20 20:55:49 · update #1
I've been where you are and its human nature to want what we can not have so when some guy strings us along but treats us bad, for some messed up reason we say that its a challenge and we want him to treat us like your good guy does. It's why nice guys finish last. We want the nasty ones because they are so unobtainable. If he was to treat you wonderfully, you would probably be chasing someone else. Thing is, you get to a point in life when you realize that if you are to be with someone for good, you deserve respect... respect from him and respect for yourself. A man that treats you as he has, doesn't love you as much as you wish he did. Its harsh but its the truth... when a man really does love you, he wont string you along but will want to be with you always and treat you good. The best thing that you can do is to forget about him completely and realize what you have with your nice guy. Sure, it gets boring but good relationships sometimes do. Think about it.. bad relationships are usually exciting because you dont know whats coming next.. a fight, passion, but eventually these can wear you out and its much more healthy to find ways to keep excitement in a good relationship with a man who respects you instead of heartache from your bad boy who honestly does not respect you. Get rid of his phone number and dont answer his calls. Cut him off cold turkey. He will chase you more then, because you become unobtainable to him but once you give yourself to him, he will be gone. Stay with the one who treats you as you deserve.
2006-09-20 21:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even contemplating this guy? You say he treated you badly, and he just calls you out of the blue after 8 or 9 months? Maybe it is the attention you want, not the guy. This kind of thing used to happen to me all the time when I was younger, and I always fooled myself into mis-reading a guy's intentions. And when you say "it was apparent that he missed me", did he actually say that, or is it what you want to hear?
And what "closure" do you need? The best closure would be to ignore him. Like you said, he treated you like sh!t. I think you should concentrate on the guy you are with now . It is tough to find a good partner, if this guy respects you and takes care of you, he's worth it. And the ups and downs are inevitable.
2006-09-20 21:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a great guy that treats you really well, right? Why give that up for something you know did not work out in the past? Every relationship has its up and downs, good days and bad. Working through those not so good days and communicating is what really makes a relationship work. Giving in to your "feelings" about an "ex" who treated you like s**t will probably end up leaving you in nothing but a shi**y relationship again. Not to mention, you will have lost out on possibly a really good future with the really great person you have now, right in front of you. If you want good things for yourself, then you must make good choices. I really hope that you make the right choice in this situation, no matter what it is that you decide to do. Good luck. :)
2006-09-20 21:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever YOU think is, right just make sure you don't hurt anyone in the process. You should appreciate that you have a great man that doesn't t treat you like ****. How do you know that the other guy is being sincere, and he won't treat you bad if you get back with him again? But if you don't Love your current boyfriend, leave him and let someone else Love him and make him happy, and try your luck with your ex. You should be with the one you love.
2006-09-20 21:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by adrian p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Missing someone is natural. But how you will react on it will be the problem in your present situation. I dont think its fair to go into a relationship without having a "closure" from your past. So if you can just pause then resolve your own issues then you dont have to worry about this. take care! :)
2006-09-20 20:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by kai_sungit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, of course girls love the assholes, they are like magnets for fine chicks, and i dont know if he still texting meaning he stills has ur number then that means something, yeah.....yeah that he is horny and he wants another run at it...if u know what i mean so really its your call if this guy your with is really who u want to be with then dont mess with but if not i dont see the harm.
2006-09-20 20:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by UR_SANCHO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its your action that matters sweetie.You got to weigh things up before you even got make a decision.Thats to avoid regrets.
Do you think its fair for your partner that your calling someone you loved...?Have you tried putting your shoe on your partner's....?
With a respectful & a caring guy like yours as you've stated....why hurt 'em....?
Decide wisely sweetie...
2006-09-20 21:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by james ian h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you have surety that now when you will back he will treat you well and will not disgrace you and may be you lost a gud guy (present one) which give respect and think you I think you didn’t learn your experience or you a kind of nature who feel pleasure in dishonorness valued your self and forget that boy
2006-09-20 20:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Akmal Zaidi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can still seek out shock treatment as an elective. If it's
expensive ... perhaps a few of us will pay to watch.
2006-09-20 20:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
during situations like this, i definitely use my head coz if i use my heart, i'll end up crying & blaming myself 4 screwing things up
2006-09-20 20:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋