MY ex keeps calling me..its been a year and half since we broke up. WE havent had sex and i live 2 hours away from him but he keeps calling...why do you think this is? he says he cares and loves me but we are both living seperate lives and he has a new girlfriend!! if he has a new girl..why has he continued to call me after 1.5 years? and its not a booty call b/c i refuse to have sex w.him!. i still love him but don't know what to do b/c he has another girl at home (i live 2 hours away). its killing me to keep in touch with him b/c i miss him so much. he is emotionally shy....but he broke up with me...so i dont know how to act. should i tell him i need time to meet other guys and that he is holding me back? if so will he ever call me again?.this has been all i think about for the past 1.5 years.im so emotionally drained! i just really love him. will he ever call me again if I say I need time to heal and for myself?
2006-09-20 20:33:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In the state i live in they call it stalking.
2006-09-20 20:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry sweetie,,,,
If he hasn't bother to drive for two hours to be with you in all this time, then this guy is a player and he is not in love with you.
The phone calls are just his game, he keeps calling because he thinks you will eventually agree to have sex. ( I bet he would be willing to drive 2 hrs if you you did). I would also bet he does not tell his other gf he is talking to you.
You are better off if he does not call you again. It is easier said then done but go out with your friends and have fun. You need to let this bum go and find someone else.
2006-09-20 21:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by whajagonado 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys like the power of knowing they can keep women hanging on - just in case. I don't believe in true love, but I do believe in love. That "true love" has been used to make some horrific relationships pass as something magical and mystical. My sister-in-law prayed and God told her that the man she was going to marry was her true love. They married, had three messed up kids and finally after a long abusive marriage he said he was tired of the farce they called a marriage and was leaving to join the gay community. "True Love"
2006-09-20 20:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love waits. In romantic love, you want "the" person, but in True love, you want what's good for the other person. Follow your heart, yet be prepared to face all the consequences. If you're afraid to fail, then live the rest of your life being like that. It is better to live a life filled with all the risk taken, than to forever live with all the "what if's in your mind."
2006-09-20 20:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys can see through us women when we are still in love. he is not giving up bec he can see through u - that u still love him.
it doesnt really mean he is still in love with you. maybe just playing with your emotion so u wont end up in another relationship. that case, he wins. he got a new girl and is happy, while u, in believing that he still loves u is just sitting there waiting for his call.
so, dont count on him no more. he can say the most emotionally romantic thing, but he has a girl and is happy even if he says he is not. and u r just there.. still dont know what to do.
sounds very unfair.
2006-09-20 20:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well ask him not to call you. Period. You are only hurting yourself by dragging this on when he has a gf. Tell him if he really wants to talk to you, then he calls you when he wants a relationship. Dont let him use you like a consolation prize.
2006-09-20 20:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely, he must still love you, but he's trying to move on, so get over him, and fast!....
no more picking up the phone when he calls...responding to emails.
He's acting on desperate measures, and that's just not healthy.
Plus, who's to say he's not calling any other ex-gf's if he gets back together with you....
The grass might always look greener on the other side to him...
2006-09-20 20:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by silver butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't take his calls. Get an answering machine to screen them. He made the choice to leave.
2006-09-20 20:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to get back to him and work out the magic you enjoyed at the beginning of the relationship
2006-09-20 20:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by trishul60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i answer this 1
2006-09-20 20:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by ED S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋