2006-09-20 20:27:46 · 5 answers · asked by Subconsciousless 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I've always had faith in my kids' intelligence and judgment from the moment they were born. I love and respect them. Since I've never disciplined them, they have no resistance to me. Because I respect them, they respect me. They are both in their 20s now, successfully following their chosen fields.
I don't think you can teach kids about their limits, only your own. Whatever means you use to discipline becomes necessary because you use it. If raising your voice indicates you're being pushed too far, then they will go as far as you raising your voice. If a time out is how they're disciplined, then they will provoke you up to the point of a time out. If it's hitting, they'll for sure wind up getting hit.
In other words, to protect them most effectively from their own lack of experience,you need tact.
This is not to say my kids were never brats. But even when they were, I loved them and they knew it so they loved me and took it easy on me.
A book that influenced me profoundly and seems to be filled with truth is entitled Magical Child by Joseph Chilton Pearce.
2006-09-20 21:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Discipline discipline discipline... and I don't mean beat your kids either. Don't let your kids get away with doing wrong. Show them that if they do wrong they will have consequences and follow through on the punishments. Too many parents these days are afraid to say no to their kids - so now kids think they can do and say whatever they want. Try and instill some morals too... so many young people having sex and babies when they have no business doing either. Let them know that they don't have to follow all the garbage fashion trends in the media. Make sure they are actually learning things if you send them to school (as opposed to homeschooling)... the grammar and spelling I see these days are horrid.
No one is perfect... not even parents...lol all you can do is do your best...
2006-09-21 03:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Warning: Protect them from the destructive influence of liberalism and also the public school system that wll turn them into a mindless zombie (as we can observe on this site, going by the spelling and language lack of ability).
2006-09-21 03:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My girls are good, underachievers, but good. Let them know you would die for them. Rule with absolute authority and let them know you'll take them down like a wrestler if you think their going down the wrong road. Don't allow "fair" or "trust" to be used in arguements. Fair belongs in fairy tales and trust is for God (says so on the dollar). There are things out there stronger than they are and its your job to make sure they don't have to make difficult decisions at this stage in their lives. Last but not least, postpone the drivers license and/or the car till Highschool graduation. Hand them the keys and it's all over. Good luck!
2006-09-21 05:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by cadee884 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love and understand your children unconditionally
2006-09-21 03:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by trykindness 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋