2006-09-20 19:48:51 · 32 answers · asked by Batcam777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a good question and I have often wondered what my motivation was for having children (I have 2)
There are many bad reasons for having children (eg. the creepy 'I want somone to love me') But I am not so sure any of us have altruistic motivations. We're all in love with the idea of 'mini-me'...and this is why we also then get so frustrated and upset with our 'mini-me's' ....they mirror our faults as well as our loveablility.
The desire to procreate is pretty instinctive.
Its how you choose to parent that matters. And the best way to parent is to allow your child to be the individual they really are, not a 'Mini-Me'.
2006-09-20 20:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Trin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I always knew that I wanted to be a mother, so much so that I feel maybe I got married far too early and to the wrong man, but I have managed to keep my family together (not easy) and have brought up two wonderful son sons (now 27 and 22) who do me proud. One is a doctor in Harley Street and other a Dept. Head in a large hotel chain. They have never caused me pain and always given me love and respect. They were easy to bring up and happy go lucky little boys. I cannot imagine my life without them, for indeed they are my life.
Having my children was the BEST thing in world I have ever done - and succeeded.
2006-09-20 20:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by London Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was not planned, although i wanted children and knew i would be a good mum, at 19, i was about to embark on a international career with a prestigious hotel group however that was dashed and i am thankful everyday that she hung on in there. Due to infertility problems among alot of people pregnancies are becoming more planned and scheduled however i am glad it was a surprise and unintended as if everyone sat down to time the right time there would not be a Right time, believe me they cost a fortune and can give you grief, i think when it comes down to it you don't really choose to have kids they choose to have you because i can not remember my life before her and i would not want to either.
2006-09-20 21:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell pregnant by accident. My son's father didn't want me to have the baby. I left him. I had my son and now I'm happier than ever before. Children make your life complete and give you something to live for. The love you feel for your child is not like anything you'd ever expect to feel. It's just wonderful and I hope one day I can find someone to have some more babies with as I'm definately not finished yet.
2006-09-20 19:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mum-Ra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To complete the cycle of nature is why I had children in the first place. I didn't have any expectations from them at that time nor do I have any at present. However, I am pleased to have taken the right decision though unmindfully.
2006-09-20 19:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apart from the ''accidents'',People have children because they want their own family to love.
There is nothing sadder than seeing a old person who has no children or granchilden. They clearly feel they have missed something very special.
2006-09-20 19:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by IloveMarmite 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 15 my gran died,she brought me up.I have no other family at all.I tried focusing on college,good jobs,nothing helped the huge void in my life.I became depressed,anorexic,suicidal.I decided to have children.I thought to myself if I don't have a family I will have to make one.My girls are 12 and 13 now,I have a fantastic partner.Life couldn't be better.They gave me a purpose in life that nothing else could fill.
2006-09-20 20:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a child because I loved children and felt that at 22 I was ready for one. I have never regretted that decision. He is 26 now and has given me two lovely grandchildren.
2006-09-20 19:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 7 children and 19 grandchildren. Not only were they planned, they were the plan. I like the way the plan worked out.
2006-09-20 20:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No idea really, seemed like a good idea at the time, but no one told me how lippy, expensive and tiring it would really be. Perhaps someone should write a book about what its really like instead of the do gooders tellling you how to be a good parent. Perhaps they should write a book on how to be a good kid and stop winding up parents.
2006-09-20 19:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋