It is hard because there catholic and against this kind off stuff. I also have six brothers and sister that agaiinst this to. WHAT SHOULD I DO
2006-09-20 19:15:36 · 19 answers · asked by happychild1212 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
how old are you?
2006-09-20 19:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by at69andfalling 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no law that says you HAVE to tell your parents about this. There are many teens who have not told their parents due to the parents' mindset on such a thing.
Some teens who have told their parents have been thrown out of the house and abandoned; plus have had other bad reactions.
I don't mean to scare you. Some people are stuck in a mindset and are wrongly taught how things are. They judge people who are different in any way.
The best advice I can give you is contact Pflag.org It is an organization that supports bis and their families. You can find them online.
I would advise against telling your parents right now. If you feel you must tell your parents, wait until you are of age and have a job. This way if they react badly, you have a place to go that's safe away from them.
2006-09-21 02:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldn't come out unless you can financially and emotionally support yourself. I read an article once where a guy got kicked out of his family for coming out and he couldn't afford it. That being said, is it an issue to tell them? Do you want to be bring same sex partner home? Is it a desire for them to really know you? You need to examine your motivation for telling them. Try watching the movie The Lonely Hearts Club, they deal with this issue. In the end all you can do is say "Mom and Dad, I'm bisexual". They're going to freak if they're seriously catholic, hopefully they'll get over it. Good Luck.
2006-09-21 02:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, and that would make a big difference. I know you would like to have their love and support, but sounds like that will take a lot of understanding and time. If you are on your own, write them a letter. Be thoughtful and take some time to put down your feelings, especially your feelings for them and what you need from them. If you are still living at home you need to respect their standards and refrain from sexual activity of any kind. That goes no matter what your gender preference is.
2006-09-21 03:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely make sure that this sex orientation is really what you believe to be first, then I would tell your parents in private away from the siblings to give them the oportunity to relay how they want them to be told etc. I would, also encourage you to have a close friend with you for support when you decide to tell them. You are still their child and no religion should effect this bond. They may not agree, but I believe they will still love you unconditionally as a parent should.
2006-09-21 02:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why say anything? After you leave the family house, your business is your own. There was a movie in 2003 about the gays in the Orthodox Jewish Community, which is not allowed. Yet, they say they remain orthodox.
Problem with religion is that it is demeaning too often. I have learned that if my choices do not hurt people, then of I;m criticized for those choices, it's not my problems to deal with the feelings of those who disagree with me...ESPECIALLY family crazies.
2006-09-21 02:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I personally know this because my 12 year ol son told me that since 4th grade he likes boys and girls, we are mother and son but also friends, i am catholic but not hypocrite, i go to church when i feel it but i know god is everywhere so first when my son told me he was crying and told me that he wanted to talk to me but he did not want me to stop loving him etc.
i promise that i will not be upset and i listen to him.
well i felt bad but i have to wait and see if when he is 15 or 16 he thinks the same but i don't judge him and we dont talk much about it altough he let me see what he talks on chat rooms i supervise him ,because there are many predators in here.
wait and don't say nothing yet if you think they will not understand you but do not have any sexual encounter (yet) sometimes is ok to say " i like the way this girl/guy looks" that does not mean someone is bi.
wait and see but most important NEVER FEEL BAD FOR WHO YOU ARE BUT BE AFRAID OF WHO YOU WILL BECAME
2006-09-21 02:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you joined a baseball league, and you like swinging from both sides of the plate. When you say the word swinging make sure you are winking alot.
2006-09-21 06:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by foghat77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, i think its wrong too, but i dont condemn folks for it. if i were you, dont say anything, and instead search your heart and the bible to find out whether you really feel this way, or are just going through a phase like so many
2006-09-21 02:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by mooncougar13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them the truth it maybe hard but if they cant exept you for you then screw them you cant lie to yourself and them forever and how long you gonna keep it a secret they will find out evetually and then its worse if they hear or find out from someone else my mom the sameand she still loves me and i see my family all the time because god says to love your child above all
2006-09-21 02:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by cameo m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father you are straight, and tell your mother that you like men. Hope that they never talk to each other about the subject.
2006-09-21 02:19:18 · answer #11 · answered by Proud Liberal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋