My boyfriend told me he was diagnosed with Bipolar when he was young, But Ive been reading out borderline personality disorder, and Im 99% sure thats what hes got.
How can I deal with this, Ive been with him 7 months, and Love him but feel emotionally drained. Most of his relationships dont last longer than 6 months, and he told me where moving too fast and need to slow down.
I also am worried he is cheating on me, what is the persentage of people with this disorder that cheat.
I am thinking of just leaving him, I feel I cant trust him
2006-09-20 19:15:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You know...please weigh the good to the bad..if he has a past of short relationships why don't you just be a friend for now..you aren't a doctor and sure don't need to be hurt because of things he don't seem to be able to control...wether that is on purpose or not...
2006-09-20 20:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should have been warned if you took psychology in college or high school that you will 90% think you have some sort of psychological disorders when reading the signs and symptoms. I dont think it's up to you to diagnosed anything, but encourage him to see a specialist so they can properly diagnose him. But if you really wanna get out of the relationship, no excuse is going to work. Just pack up and leave
2006-09-20 19:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by CD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as a "Personality Disorder". A person's personality is WHO THEY ARE given their intelligence, education and social upbringing. If your boyfriend is cheating on you and saying things are moving too fast that is not a "Disorder" that is him being a two timing jerk who is blaming his bad behavior on a BS psyche diagnosis of nothing.
How did they test him? Did they do a tissue sample? When you go to a Doctor to find out if you have a disease, the VERY FIRST THING THEY DO IS WHAT? THEY RUN TESTS. PHYSICAL TESTS. Not personality tests. People's moods change all the time. The evidence is PHYSICAL. If you have diabetes, they can test that in a blood sample. If you have cancer, they know that because of your white blood count. If you are pregnant, that's because special hormones show up in your urine. If you have an infection, they know because they find bacteria wherever that is. Probably some Psychiatrist said he had a "Chemical Imbalance in the Brain". Ask your boyfriend if they took chemicals from his brain to check the balance. And if they did, (which , we all know they didn't) Were his samples compared to thousands of other normal brains?
Are you trying to diagnose him with a mumbo jumbo book about how people behave? People behave differently depending on their situation. It's not a disorder. It's life! Don't you behave differently around your parents than you do at a party with a bunch of your friends? Would that mean you had "Parental Personality Disorder?" I mean, we can just make these up all day long. People lie when they don't want to be caught. People do things they regret. That is normal.
Kick his AXX to the Curb!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If he wants to slow down. Then slow down and leave him alone. That's not a disorder. I'm sorry to say, but that is him not that interested in you. You can give him the boot or back off a bit and be a little more elusive and mysterious. Then, maybe he will come back around.
If you want to know why people behave "abnormally" or overreact to things, buy and read Dianetics, The Modern Science of Mental Health by L. Ron Hubbard. The truth is in that book.
If you want the real data on how to treat men so that they stay interested in you, buy and read the book: The Rules by Sherrie Schneider and Ellen Fein. Might give you some insight. But, by all means, stop trying to find out what is mentally wrong with him.
2006-09-20 19:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Instant Justice 2 · 0⤊ 9⤋
Anyone can be sad and depressed. (relating to your boyfriend) Be different, You have to work at being happy. If you want to struggle every day, then spend it with another person's personality disorder. SO BE IT!! Make sure your ready to dedicate your life to his issue's cause it wont get any better.. I definitly wouldn't take the burden. Life's hard enough. Find someone who has a clean slate a nice set of wheels and credit cards. That shows he's got it go-in on. Credit, Vehicle, means he obviously has a good bank roll...HEY... Anyone can be sad and depressed. You have to work everyday at being happy. That's what its all about babe HAPPINESS
2006-09-24 03:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to be diagnosed (by a psychiatrist), medicated and tought Dialektical Behavior Therapy.
I've been diagnosed with BPD 3 years ago and I am prescribed Prosac for Depression, Lyrica for Anxiety, Abilify for Schizophrenia and Geodon, basically for sleep. Us people, suffering from BPD can be in healthy relationships, but it is hard because our self image is disturbed.
First of all you need to talk to your boyfriend about your suspicions and together as a team you can decide what to do.
I added two websites, my favorite site about BPD and one about Dialektical Behavior Therapy, which is tremendously helpful in building and understanding healthy relationships.
2006-09-20 22:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A healthy relationship must have 3 important factors, love, trust and respect. How could you stay long when you are bothering of distrust? No wonder a girl is just come and go to your boyfriend's life.
2006-09-20 19:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Torex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Borderline Personality Disorder is not easily defined and is therefore very hard to diagnose and treat. However, you might want him to see a professional about it if his symptoms are keeping him from functioning normally.
2006-09-20 19:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by roninscribe80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you even asking this if you know what you want to do? people can have borderline personality disorder and bipolar together. but half the country can meet the criteria for BPD so be cautious in labeling someone if you aren't a shrink.
BPD is called the garbage can label of psychiatry. if you don't know what to label someone, dump that one on them.
2006-09-20 19:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
also look at nasatistic personality disorder as it is similar ,if you feel he has ether one ,you cant fix him ,he wont change ,run far far away.but learn about it because whatever made you pick this boy could be somthing in you ,low self estem or something or your family dynamics.and yes people with these personality disorder do cheat and lie all the time.trust your self if you feel he is lying ,he proberly is.
2006-09-20 19:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter married a guy she thought she could save by loving him, in over 4 years he had almost destroyed us, i was on meds for anxiety, she had stopped working and had panic attacks and my husband was a nervous wreck from having them living with us because the kid was unemployable, finally she woke up and saw that he was destroying us and she divorced him, got a car, a new job and now shes a proud mom and store manager with a great husband, you cant ever trust him, yes leave and save your life, you can avoid so much of the pain she went through. good luck
2006-09-20 19:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋