just recently came out of a 8 year relationship in which my ex promptly told me that she had been seeing other people off and on for years and she had just ended a relationship she was in and she had gotten pregnant by accident. even though our relationship was long distance. to me , thats not a excuse. i didnt cheat or anything like that, so i dont see why she had to. my prior 2 relationships ended the same kind of way. now i dont feel the same about relationships the way i used to. alot of honesty and trust seems like is always taken for granted. off all the relationships i have been in, i never cheated and always was honest and up front about everything. its cool when the woman expect you to be honest and faithful and treat them better than the other men have. but when you do, they seem to cheat on you and do the same things to you that they didnt want done to them. if your honest , then your a dog, but if your honest, then your too nice. what do women want these days?.
2006-09-20 18:14:59 · 18 answers · asked by craig h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your hooking up with the wrong women......she doesnt deserve you and you deserve someone who will treat you the way you treat others.......
dont dwell on this.....learn through each experience and move on to someone with the same morals and ethics that you have.
good luck
2006-09-20 18:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just described my life, only I'd have to add to that how after breaking up, my ex's accuse me of cheating during the relationship although they never did during the time. I think they do that to take the focus off of their bad behavior. I think if you make a committment to someone you should honor it no matter how far apart you live from each other. I wouldn't know about taking any of my ex's for granted, I'm always the one doing the spoiling & being taken for granted. I always thought it was a guy thing. Guess I was wrong, it's just a people thing. Wherever you go, people are people and not all of them are nice, or even decent for that matter. As far as what women want these days, I can't speak for all women, but I'd like a man who is honest & sincere. A man who will treat me like a queen. I'm not talking about buying me stuff, although a lil gift every now & then or anniversary is nice. But I'm talking about a man who will listen & treat me with respect. But he's also gotta be strong enough to stand/speak up for himself, be confident but not cocky. And a sense of humor is a must! One thing I've learned the hard way is set limits, & then stick to them. Never lose yourself in the relationship.
2006-09-21 01:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true that most women dont realize a good man until he is gone. You will feel this way about relationships for quite a while...probably until the right woman comes along and proves you wrong. I, myself, would NEVER under ANY circumstance betray my man and appreciate a good man, the nice guy if you will. My bf is one of those and I love him with all my heart. To be honest I loved my last bf a great deal and was with him 2.5 years until he betrayed me too. I never though I would trust another man, want to be in a long-term relationship, or fall in love. I felt I was destined to be alone and all men where like my ex. Then my current bf came alone and made me feel whole again, taught me I can trust men and they are not all the same. Time is the best teacher and healer. All things happen for a reason. Give it time.
2006-09-21 01:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Peach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all your relationships have been long distance, then most likely they wont work out. Try finding someone you can see regularly, once a week or so, and do planned and unexpcted dates. Make dating fun with them.
Over all you should communicate your feelings towards honesty and cheating and whats happened to you in the past. if they dont understand or dont want to then move on to someone better.
But the best advice i can give you is to date people that arnt hard to see, which in most cases lead to unfaithfulness on one part or both.
2006-09-21 01:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by ashenflowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure why some girls prefer jerks instead of nice guys. I really dont understand women or girls these days. Then again since i was little, i have always thought this, so all my niceness was going to waste. Now i have an awesome girlfriend so yeah thats great :)
I mean hopefully everything just goes better. Probably one day you might meet someone who will change the way you think about all this. Good luck :)
-Edward
2006-09-21 01:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by cursedconcept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look man
love is thrown around like a basket ball now days
no offence to women but there easy as hell and most are sluts
or will be.
dont git me wron lots are good girls but statistics show that by 8th grade 2 out of every 5 girls will be pregnent befor there married had sex befor there 16 and 1 out of 10 of those girls will have an std befor age 21. evn in a high class school the chances are 6 out of 20 girls.
my advice wait and just mess with em and play the statistics for em, they set the trap u just watch right, u can walk away from it.
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2006-09-21 01:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hai,
I understand your confusion.Just one female did like that ,you cant genralize all women are like that.I think your with wrong female.A true love should be honest,faith & trust should be there.its like unwritten agreement were both of them have to live be together & there should not be any cheating etc..
I think you love a lot but she does not,if she realy des she will go with other men.I feel she taking you for granted.Think well & decide my friend.
2006-09-21 01:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by s s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, Im a woman and have never cheated , The thought of it makes me sick.
My ex of 6 years did cheat and left me for another woman, and I find it very hard trusting my boyfriends. I think im just waiting for them to do that to me.
2006-09-21 01:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by e a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i am so sorry to hear what happened to you, I can also understand that your trust level is 0.
But I can tell you that all I want is what you're describing the openess & trust & faith in each other.
It will happen to you, you will find someone worthy of you. But don't beat yourself up over someone elses ****.
2006-09-21 01:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by Kerrie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn shame. Don't let this woman change who you are. You sound like a good man and somewhere there is a wonderful woman out there just dying to meet you.
2006-09-21 01:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by lovleymel@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋