you. how serious should one be if the person who you have been off and on inv w/ for 11 years says they are about to kill themselves. i mean if you have time to call someone back and tell them you are gonna do it isnt that a form of attention and control or and manipulation to make you feel for them. and you dont want to be involved any longer cause of their heavy drinking and the love is jst not there? whagt would you do? i was thinking of dialing 911 i am 2hrs away from him. and i would feel bad just like he wants me too. if he tried to hurt himself, but then i cant do anything for him. the paramedics could get there faster than i would and be able to help him
2006-09-20 18:12:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
This sounds like typical alcoholic manipulation to me.
Definitely I would call 911 and let them know he has said he was going to hurt or kill himself -- that is something they need to know and for which they have trained responders. Let the professionals decide if he is serious or not, they have the training to figure it out. The last thing you want is to not take it seriously and then find out tomorrow he really did kill himself. The second-to-last thing you want is that to take it seriously and go back to him out of fear for his safety, and then the manipulation just starts all over.
The ideal solution is that everyone gets healthy -- you get emotionally healthy and break free of the codependannt behaviors that the families and friends of alcoholics fall into without realising it, and he gets help for his addictions and breaks free of their hold on him. Who knows, he might finally become the man you WANT him to be (but don't expect this and definitely don't count on it -- be wary of manipulation for YEARS to come).
BTW, read the book "Beyond Codependancy" (I can't remember the author's name right now, but a web search will turn it up). It is really helpful in understanding the addicted mind and learning how to be responsible for yourself without opening yourself up to manipulation by those who refuse to be responsible for themselves.
2006-09-20 18:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mustela Frenata 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he would kill himself. If he has an answer,then take him seriously and get him the help he needs and as quickly as possible. It could be for your attention,the alcohol,etc. but better safe then sorry. Never ignore someone who has a plan. Good Luck-BUT always remember if he ever really does kill himself don't ever think it was your fault or maybe you could have done something,etc. If a person REALLY wants to kill themself then nothing anyone can say or do can stop them. It's their choice not someone's fault (no one is standing there MAKING them do it but themself).
2006-09-21 01:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by PROUDJEW 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would call 911 as you never know if the person is attention seeking or not. he needs help. by calling 911 they will get to him quickly and evaluate the situation hopefully get him to a psychiatric unit where they can help with all the issues he is having.
2006-09-21 01:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ure right it is a form of attention seeking, This person needs help
he needs to contact his g.p. You need to decide for yourself whether or not you want to stay with him,because 11 years is a long time!If u decide you have had enough then tell him and make a clean break.
2006-09-21 01:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by magiclady2007 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send the paramedics to his house...if he really is needy, they will help if he is bluffing for attention..then he will think about it next time...don't take a chance he might be serious...we just don't know what he is really thinking.
2006-09-21 03:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋