I'm more a a intravert(quiet) guy that doesn't say much unless people talk to me. I've never had a girlfriend before and I technically don't have any friends. I know some people and i'll talk to them confortably but they aren't really "friends". I don't know any girls besides their names and no girls seem to be interested in me.
Is there any chance at all to find a girl that isn't fat or ugly that will like me even if iI am quiet in public. Sometimes i can go entire classes without even saying a word. I'm not necessarily shy I just never have much to say. Is it possible for me to find a girl that isn't ugly, fat, or crazy. I'm sure i can't change because it is just the way i am.
Help please i don't want to be lonely my entire life and whack off to porn dammit.
2006-09-20 18:01:50 · 26 answers · asked by TT M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually, yes, there is hope for you and anyone like you....being 'quiet in public' is not a negative trait and you should excercise 'self-confidence & assertiveness' everyday...Start a plan of action: for example, write a "Goal List for Meeting Girls" - the first goal could be something like, 'say 'hi' & attempt eye contact with: 'the type of girl' you fancy: i.e. Goal for today: Say hi and make eye contact with the girl with brown hair (or name) in the 2nd row in English class. Now, I hate lists so I always have an 'alternative' list in case the 'real goal' is not met (due to unforseen circumstances i.e. she might not be there or there are no cute brunettes around! lol...ok, so in the alternate column: you can put something like : Smile at a pretty girl. Simple & not specific which kinda is a good way to start until your self confidence gets stronger. You now have a plan, man....so get to it....and remember this: 'girls like the quiet types the best and you never know if there is an attractive girl that has actually thought 'too bad he is so shy' (and I am sure there are girls out there that think you are cute & nice)...but our society makes girls introverts as well so it will be up to you to let yourself shine so that others will take notice....good luck...Take care. And never 'RUSH' ....very important....BUT DEFINITELY 'HAVE FUN' WITH ALL THIS 'MEETING GIRL STUFF' . Your problem is temporary and the 'will' to succeed is a permanent solution.
2006-09-20 18:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like ur kinda young so i will just say this. Don't worry so much about it! Just change your attitude on fat and ugly though cause people and especially girls view this as a negative! There is nothing in the world wrong with quiet, but sometimes especially among young people quiet is percieved as a little strange. Girls sometimes prefer the shy, quiet type, but don't take it to the extreme. Start talking a little OK then you might get the girl. One thing you can do is to listen good. Notice in surrounding conversations what certain girls interests are. When you find a girl that shares an interest with you, then ask her about it. You might be surprised to find out that she wants to know more about you too and you both will have something in common to talk about! Just try it! If it seems awkward at first this is just natural. You keep it up and you will have a girl and a good friend. I am sure of it! Good Luck, J
2006-09-20 18:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always noticed that the quiet ones are often the better guys. 'And too bad the good guys often outnumber the good girls. I admit it, even though I am a girl.
I totally suggest a dating service. Or a couple of them. Try eHarmony and other serious dating sites. Dating services are not just for weirdos as many people used to think. They have become quite popular, and are perfect for people like you who have trouble breaking the ice.
I'm exactly like you. I am very quite, and often go unnoticed because of it, so I know what you feel like. If I didn't happen to meet my husband when I did, there would be nothing stopping me from using a dating service. Maybe you could meet a pretty girl with your same problem.
Just one thing though. If you are looking for a fit, pretty girl who is not crazy, just make sure that you are holding yourself up to those standards you put on others.
I wish you the best!
2006-09-20 18:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by zosoo7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am fat and crazy, but apparently attractive, so maybe my opinion doesnt count, but I will add it for your consideration anyhow. There is NOTHING wrong with being an introvert or shy at all and many women will be attracted to you because of it. The hard part is getting to meet people. Unfortunately you DO need to be somewhat outgoing in most situations to meet people! I would honestly suggest trying a dating site to see what you think, like www.plentyoffish.com, that way you can openly type what you want and who you are, take time to warm up and get familiar through chat and trade pics or live cam feed so you know what you are getting into. Good luck!!
2006-09-20 18:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents' biggest complaint about my husband is and was that "he never says anything". We met and then wrote letters for 18 months which helped me really get to know him. I am not and never was ugly or fat and had plenty of other guys who wanted to marry me. He didn't talk much but he did write a lot. I recommend trying the online dating or chat thing where you can be judged by your thoughts and words rather than by your social skills. Also, lay off the whacking off to porn thing or no good looking, sane, thin girl will want you anyway and you'll end up wedded to the girls on the page who will be less conversational than you are.
2006-09-20 18:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok since im a girl i can help you out i find quiet guys pretty cute but not all girls are like that so just build your confidence. Always compliment the girl. Ask the girl to the movies for you first date and since your at the movies you dont have much to say but just watch the movie and if the girl trys to make a move on you just kiss her and tell her how much you find her cute and than when the movie is finished you would probably be comfortable with her so relax and be chill. no girl likes a nervous guy. and there is always hope for a guy like you, you just have to beleive in you self and always find the right girl.
2016-03-27 00:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with be shy, loadsa people are, not everyone has to be the life and soul of the party. Thers plenty of shy girls too who are prob put off by the brashness of extroverted guys. There must be some quiet girls that you take classes with, you say you dont have anything to say but you could talk about your classes cos ya know you def have that in common. Just to have something to say you could ask to borrow a pen etc.. most people are nice, if theyre not then ya dont wanna know em anyway rite.
2006-09-20 18:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by ash1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that in high school. I hate to say it but it really sucked. I would suggest finding what you like whether it is music, movies, not porn :), or video games and start going places like to concerts or video game places and people will start conversations with you because you will obviously have something in common. I also suggest not getting hung up so much on girls being "fat" or "ugly" sometimes people who you think are fat or ugly are the perfect people to be with because they will have way more confidence in themselves and less likely to have an ulterior motive to being with you. You will find someone it just may take some time, be patient my friend. :)
2006-09-20 18:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by Charissa D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. I've lived your life. It sucked. The absolute best thing to do is to put yourself into a situation where you are not comfortable. Take a speech class, work for a school paper where you will have to interview people, run for an ASB office. It's hard as hell, but you have to face your fear, or you'll hide from life. I didn't come out of my shell until well into college and I have a lot of regrets about stuff I should have done in my younger days. On a more basic scale, try to pair off with a girl for a lab project or as a study buddy. Stop hiding and live life. Good luck.
2006-09-20 18:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by 101pupil 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Aw! There is definitely hope for you, quiet guy! :)
One suggestion I have for you is to try to start more conversations at school and elsewhere. If you only speak when you're spoken to, you're placing your destiny in other people's hands. There are SO many people in this world who aren't comfortable speaking until they're spoken to, but I've found that if I start a conversation, people are usually enthusiastic about talking back and opening up to me.
And don't limit yourself by saying that you "don't have much to say" because "that's just the way you are." You don't have to have a brilliant insight or hilarious comeback in order to say something. Talking is like anything else...the more you do it, the better you get at it! :)
Best of luck, hon....I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
2006-09-20 18:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋