My fiancée and I have been engaged for a year and a half but are only now in the position to afford it. But we are finding it difficult to decide what to do.
At first I wanted to get married in a church as that was the traditional thing to do, but as neither of us is religious, my fiancée said he didn't want to do that. But I find a registry office not that special and quite impersonal.
Also the reception, I thought of putting a marquee and my mum’s garden as the family home has always been my favourite place and it is big enough. But because of past issues with family my partner wanted somewhere neutral and not at my mums. Neither of us wants a fancy sit down meal etc for a reception.
My fiancee has said he doesn't want the wedding and the reception to be in the same place either!
We did consider abroad but as family is important decided against it!
We both want it to be special!
So basically we're stuck as to how and where to have a wedding?
And suggestions greatly appreciate
2006-09-20 17:58:00 · 29 answers · asked by Jennifer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why not have your wedding in a picturesque outdoor setting?
Something like Fountains Abbey, a place of natural beauty, a landmark ....or along those lines!
Then the reception can be held indoors at a local hotel, hall or even a private function room etc.
Or vice versa!
2006-09-20 18:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lorraine R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...so he doesn't want the reception and the ceremony at the same place??? It's the easiest thing to do being as there wouldn't be a church service...but there's options:
Do an outdoor ceremony at a local park or nature center followed by a reception at a local restaurant.
Do the entire thing at a hotel. They usually have gardens for weddings and rooms for receptions.
Historical buildings and museums are also really great places. Even aquariums and zoo's do small receptions.
Good Luck! and Congratulations!
P.S. Have fun with the planning of your wedding, don't let anyone stress you guys out. Don't forget the meaning of the day, it's all about you two!
2006-09-20 18:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Weddings can be so expensive and time consuming!! Why not have a garden wedding. I’m not sure where you live but there are many beautiful gardens in Melbourne, Vic Australia where you can have a non-traditional ceremony which is conducted by a celebrant. You might be interested in the Botanical Gardens in Melbourne or Fitzroy Gardens and then having a celebration afterwards at a reception hall. There are many around Melbourne to choose from that specialise in weddings. It’s up to you, but bear in mind that you would need to have a summer wedding if it is going to be outdoors in a garden. My husband and I had a traditional white wedding, church and reception and it was lovely, the most wonderful day of our lives. Here is a web site that may assist you for your special day.
www.brideonline.com.au
Good luck.
2006-09-20 20:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice has to be to keep it small and intimate. My husband and I married in July 1999 in a registry office, we had just 2 guests, after the ceremony our guests treated us to a fantastic meal in a very classy country pub, we then borrowed a 2 man dome tent and spent our wedding night camping on the top of a mountain in South Wales, it was the hottest day of the year, my new husband built a campfire and cooked us a great meal which we eat under a clear night sky illuminated by a full moon. It was perfect in every way and if we were doing it all again there isn't one thing about it that we would change - it really was the most perfect day of our lives. The whole event cost us less than £200, that included our Celtic gold rings and my dress which was so amazing - it was long, very fitted gold lace with a black under petticoat. Have fun but please make it your day, don't worry about pleasing everyone else, after all it's your day and it's up to others to go along with your wishes. Make it romantic and special. :-)
2006-09-20 19:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the UK, consider a manor house or a castle. They are affordable and are a 'neutral' territory. I was in the same position as you regarding not being religious but not wanting the registry office, as everything is over so quickly and I really wanted to wear my beautiful dress the whole day. We got married in Devon, in a manor house, it was big enough for the whole family, and we had the manor all to ourselves for the whole day and the morning of the next. The family also stayed there, it was informal and I'd do it all over again.
2006-09-21 06:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this the wrong way,but your partner doesn't seem to be able to compromise.Religious or not,most girls like the big church bit,after all,it is one of the most important days of their young lives.If your Mums is one of your favourite places,then he should have the grace to let you have the reception there.Marriage is all about compromise,give & take,you should have a say in the wedding arrangements.Where-ever the wedding/reception is held,i hope you have a long & happy marriage,but you will have to make him realise that he cannot have his own way all the time.I hope you understand,i'm not trying to burst your bubble,it's just that as it's your wedding you should have a say as to,who,what,where, & when.Good luck.
2006-09-20 19:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had our wedding on the top floor of the library in my home town. We had about 60-70 people attending the cermony. The building is old and used to house the local government so the room was very beautiful and romantic.
Afterward we had the recpetion and party at an island close by and people where dancing all night long. It was one of the best days of my life.
2006-09-20 18:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nicklas H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to a wedding several years ago, was on a river boat. Was in dock for the ceremony and on the river for the reception, (technically not in the same place). It was casual - the invitation said - Ties not allowed, socks and shoes optional. Most women came in sundresses and the guys in dockers. It was the most fun I have ever had at a wedding.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-20 18:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd look for a place which is like several I've seen in the Chicagoland area of Illinois. There is a place with beautiful outdoor gardens, patios, etc where you can have a ceremony with a religious official or other qualified official come out.
Then, there is a restaurant/banquet/hall area with beautiful views of the gardens, etc. where people can eat.
Art museums and historical societies sometimes have availability too.
2006-09-20 18:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter was married at the council offices, not religious but a lovely big room which was posh enough with seats either side of the aisle so she could still walk the walk!! it was a really nice place, she did have the reception in the same building but a different room it worked really well. Try your councils and see what they offer, my daughter lived in Bristol.
2006-09-20 22:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋