i just broke up wid my gf...but i stil love her a lot...wel what happened was that we hardly got time to talk and everything..so she told me that its better we break up but she dont want to lose me as a friend..so she told that 1st we'll be good friends nd wil see whether the relationship is worth it or not..and she said that she feels much comfortable now....but guys i just cannot see her as a friend anymore..i mean now @ school we both are acting as if we dont even know each other...( by the way both of us are in 12th grade).i really reall love her and i miss her a lot...and she said she too dont wanna break up but @ the same time said its better we part ways...what should i do...and she basically seems less interested...PLEASE PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-09-20 17:51:32 · 13 answers · asked by Vaisakh S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you tell her what you just wrote to us? Tell her how you feel. Ask her to be really honest with you. As I see it, I don't think she likes to go on with your relationship anymore.
2006-09-20 17:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, when a woman says: "I just want to be friends." It's over. Whether you want to accept it or not you are trying to catch smoke-it's just not going to happen. It doesn't matter how much you love her, you really need to move on. There will be other loves, and yes maybe heart aches, but that is just the way it goes.
As you read this you probably will even tell yourself how wrong this answer is, but I have unfortunately learned the hard way, and after several tears and years, experience says: it is time to find another love.
I've had dozens (100's) of conversations with my male (single/married) friends from ages of 18-48, and in each and every time, the outcome was the same-it's over.
Keep your mind and heart open for other and new possibilities. You'll have 100-1000's of other opportunities and you are young.
2006-09-21 01:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by XJM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may have been feeling neglected, why did you guys not have very much time to talk? where you out with the boys? working alot? this has a lot to do with things because the way people can tell if you like them or not is by actions not words eighty percent of communication is non verbal . you can tell people you love them all day but if you showed them there more likely to believe it.
simple cheap ways to show it buy a card and write in it this is key you must right something about your feelings this only cost
as lil as a dollar .if your broke sounds dumb but chicks dig it pick a bunch flowers it doesn't have to be long stem roses pick anything not dead or half dead find something at home you can put them in and leave them somewhere you know for sure that she'll get them if she leaves her house first in the morning leave them on the porch if youve got a couple of dollars to spare you can buy really pretty flowers for cheap at any grocery flowers only need to have a simple note attached like thinking of you perhaps alright, you better treat her very good when she comes back or i'll find her and giver her advice . jk!
2006-09-21 01:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by tonyabyer13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's playing games, in a way. Maybe she's just not ready to get serious yet. At your age, that's probably a good idea. You have so much more to concentrate on at this time. Take advantage of it! Get an education! You have plenty of time ahead to engage in serious relationships. Besides, most people at your age are not emotionally stable enough for a serious relationship. I made that mistake, but luckily got out of it before it interfered with my education. Just be sure you think it through.
2006-09-21 01:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow man just do wut most guys do show her that u care and truly wanna b wit her. make more time number one issue y relationships dnt last. buy her roses take her out 4 dinner do something that she never had when she was wit u. and then shell start to miss not bein wit u n youll get it back. but if shes a BEEP then move on get some new girl n lifes great then shell b jelious and wished she never got rid of u!:)
2006-09-21 00:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by m just a love machine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the stuff she has said about not wanting to break up is a load of crap. of course she does. she is just saying it like that cos she doesnt want to hurt you. you are in a very tough position, cos its practically impossible to just be friends with someone you love without being hurt. you are gonna have to move on, cos she aint gonna change her mind. once she plays the friends card, its over.
2006-09-21 01:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you cross the line from boy friend to friend theres no going back. Better to move on and find a new girlfriend.
2006-09-21 00:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually in girls stuff.......... it is like this girls don';t want to loose anybody or someone that they loved or used to be with.. so as for me it better for you to hold opn to that feeling or let it go... hold on means to talked to her and made her back if she don't say anything I think you need to let go of your feelings. 1st of all let go of your feeling for her, it doesn't say letting go the love you felt for her but it means that love for self first.. you cannot do anything about it so you need to do something for yourself.. Try to make friends to other and evaluate yourself if she really you want to be.. go on to your life, your still young.. i know you can meet people and choose
2006-09-21 01:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by carla911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
figure out what ur both doin after hs--collages etc? if your going same direction then try and make it work.... or tell her you at least would like to be like bf/gf dating but not exclusive or something like that............ find out how she feels now... tell her how u really feel.
2006-09-21 00:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by SunRise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants out. Leave her alone. Keep your pride intact. Find someone who does want you.
2006-09-21 00:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋