I am pregnant and single and loving it! I am totally focused on this baby right now, but I can't help but wonder if I'll ever find a man now. Either pregnant or later with a new baby. Do men want a girl with someone else's baby?
2006-09-20 17:48:45 · 17 answers · asked by tammyb752001 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I broke things off with my daughter's dad when she was 2 months old. She is now 3 years old. I have found that lots of men are crazy about kids, and lots of them really don't mind if you have one. If they don't like the fact that you will soon have a child, they aren't really good men anyway, and aren't worth your time.
About a year ago, I met in person a longtime chat friend of mine. We have been chatting for about 6 years, and when we finally met, we fell in love with each other. He is the most wonderful man I have ever met. Even though she isn't his kid, he is absolutely crazy about my daughter. Now he is moving all the way from Florida to come live with us in Oklahoma. Just because you have a kid, you are still entitled to happiness. And don't just take what you can get....you aren't just looking for a good man for you, you are also looking for a good father for your child.
2006-09-20 18:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by LadyLindsay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll find a man. Maybe not when you're pregnant though. Wait till your baby is a little older. Congratulations by the way.
I have the same concern. I'm a happy single mom with 3-month-old son. I'm not really sure if I'd ever find one, I don't see me dating when my son is still this young. But I've had men trying to pick up on me, even with my son sleeping in my arms. '
Sure I see that baby can be a real turnoff because he/she would always be your number one. But if you can manage your time so that your guy doesn't felt left over, I think dating and even marriage is possible. It just take more time and more effort than if you're childless.
If the man really likes you, I don't think he'd care whether you have a kid or not. If not, then just say, he's not the one for you. It's not like men don't have the same problem. It's just most children stay with their mothers.
2006-09-21 07:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by meetha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that most men do NOT want to raise someone else's baby.
We were wired that way by evolution: if you raise someone else's baby, you spend your time and energy making sure someone else's genes spread in the world, and not spreading your own. So in the next generation your genes are gone. So your kind disappears.
Some exceptionally altruistic men may be ok with this, if they love the woman, and if she's going to bear their own children, too. But meeting such guys can be tough. And it can be even tougher for a single mother who will have very little free time.
I have four kids, and all I can say is that raising children is a lot of work, and doing it alone must be a lot more work, and this has got to weigh more on the child and the parent. I am obviously not going to tell you to just find any guy, but it's just too bad. In my humble opinion.
2006-09-21 03:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by AntoineBachmann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true man that loves you would not care about that. and would accept the baby as his own. do not put up with men that are a**holes and does not respect your baby. The baby should be your main worries not men that don't care about you and the baby. you got to remember after having the baby you are going to be a package deal. whatever man wants you will also get the baby as well. Don't get hurt by the little wanna be men, that doesnt want to have anything to do w/ ur baby b/c they are too immature. you don't need to worry about guys like that, when you will only have ur baby to always come home to at the end. There are alot of MEN out there that will love you and your baby both. Just be smart, and always put ur baby first(before them)b/c again, you will only have, you and your baby to come home to if he is trully is a man he will not throw a fit.
2006-09-21 02:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The owner of my company met his wife while she was pregnant. They fell in love and have been married for almost 23 years now.
Being pregnant or being a parent will not create a problem for a man that is right for you. Even though all we hear about are the bad men, there are alot of great men out there, and I am confident that you will find one.
2006-09-21 00:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sabrina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be mean or anything but most guys depending on age 25-30 or younger are afraid to get involved with a pregnant woman its alot of responsibility at that age for a guy. if the child is already 2-5 then most guys are ok at any age group because there is always a baby sitter that you can get to watch the kid while you have a night out. i know i don't have a problem with it. but i'm wierd. ohh congratz.. :-)
2006-09-21 00:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by bowspirt_80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are good men out there that love kids, even if they arent the father...just make sure you can tell the difference between the BOYS and the MEN. but i wouldnt be too focused on trying to find someone right away, id be more interested in spending all my time w/ the baby, but thats just me!
2006-09-21 02:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by mamacat78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day someone will, but they will probably think that you are lucky to have them and better take what you can get. Only a real man will see past the fact that you have someone else's child and then you have to be careful about who you let around your child because there are a lot of sickos and child molesters out there or people who beat other peoples kids just because they aren't their own.
2006-09-21 00:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, there is luck out there girl, i promise!!! i was a a pregnant single mom, and the first 6 months of my sons life i was single. i am currently engadged (not to my sons father). i knew my fiance year b4 we started dating, but we started a bit aftre i had my son. and its great, he is wonderful with my son. its amazing. i also had a friend who met this guy while she was preg they started dating he was in the delivery room, he was completley content in being that childs father. how ever she latter broke things off with him for being to clingy. I have a step mother who i think of as a mother, i know she was scared to to take on my fathers kids, but she did and things turned out great!!!! but do whats right for u in the time. dont go look for a guy cause that usualy doesnt work, a good guy will come along when u and ur lil bundle are ready to let someone in ur guyses lifes!! :) i wish u the best of luck!!!
2006-09-21 01:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not true. I have my childrens father but he works away from us and many men always try to flirt and even give my twin girls money , so you just try not worrying about looking for a man now because he will come just like you said focus on your chlid and you will be alright.o.k.
2006-09-21 00:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by povertyliving 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋