I live in an upscale apartment complex and my neighbors upstaris who just moved in about 3 weeks ago have been going at it!!!! Every single night about 9:30-10:15t or so it's loud sex with a freakin squeaky bed! It has waken me up 2 times and prevented me from sleeping about 10 times. What can I do. Manager? Leave a note on their door? Maybe some WD-40. I really want it to stop. Thanks!
2006-09-20 17:35:19 · 19 answers · asked by brownieoit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Try a note on the door, and if that dont work go to the manager.
2006-09-20 17:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by kayro3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think an "annonymous" note might let them be aware their sex is not so personnel after all.
What to say in the note is the tough part because I know they might be embarresed and don't want to further that feeling. It seems the couple really is into eachother and I feel that can be a good thing for the relationship that they are into eachother. Don't want to "damage" that situation.
I guess I would add into it that you are only asking them to tone it down to a level that it won't stress other's sleep. I wouldn't discuss this with other's since it can come back to you as you being a gossiper if the couple upstairs hears you are talking about it. Then it can become an unpleasent situation.
You can get other's opinion by asking them "have you been hearing a lot of noise at night" to which they have the option of saying the neighbors or other things. But as far as "Omg, can you believe it" type of conversation can lead into gossiping.
If it continue's, then I would take it to the manager since I would of already taken the nice and respectful route prior.
2006-09-21 03:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We had this problem with my boyfriend's suitemate. They were so loud and didn't care that we could hear everything (she was a screamer). After 4 times a day for 6 months, it got old. They even did it when there was a Bible study going on in the living room (poor Christians).
Here is how we got them to stop. First, we brought it up casually. Like- having fun banging Sally? They didn't get the hint. Then it was more like- Alex, we all can hear you banging Sally. We are all happy you are in love, but the 10 of us in the living room don't want to know that you only last 4 minutes.
Then, when that didn't work, they asked him to please cut it out when people were in the living room and even bought him a plastic mattress. That didn't work (we could hear them on the blow-up mattress, then after 3 minutes on that they'd move to the bed).
Finally, they sent a letter of complaint to the manager. They talked about it and she moved out (she wasn't allowed to live there to begin with). They also got some dignity and we got some peace.
What I would do is make friends with the neighbors. Invite them over to dinner and make small talk. Then, casually mention how the walls aren't soundproof at all and make a joke about the old neighbors and how you could hear their rocking chair in the living room and their bed from your bedroom. They'll get the hint and you'll get friends.
Good Luck!
2006-09-21 01:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by emp04 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had this problem with my roommate. Her headboard would nag against the wall making it impossible for me to sleep. One day I just said "so I guess (dudes name) is pretty good in bed, judging from all the noise in the past week". They were really quiet after than - or did it when I wasn't there. Considering you don't really know these people, you should go introduce yourself to them. Then, talk to one of them who is your same sex and say "This is a really weird request but could you be a little quieter at night...I hear you having sex all the time". Tell them to try doing it on the floor its much more quiet!
If you don't like the direct approach, send up a fruit basket saying 'welcome to the neighborhood' and attach a note to that telling them that you can hear them and to please keep it quiet. They probably don't even realize they are being that loud. Just throwing a note on their door may make them defensive and you want to keep good relations with your neighbors!
2006-09-21 00:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by lilrnblover86 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try to be polite as possible they probably don't know that they are being heard. So just place a note or better yet if you per say run into them just say sarcastically did you have a good evening last night. It was rather noisy up there.
2006-09-21 00:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by rizzell 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave a note taped to a can of WD-40 outside their door, don't sign it. That way when you see each other you don't have to be embarassed.
2006-09-21 01:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave a funny note, maybe something like the following:
"I'm glad someone is getting some, but do you guys think you could maybe take it down a notch or maybe even switch to morning sex?"
2006-09-21 00:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by sohrob76 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Watch the 10 o'clock news and go to bed at 11!
2006-09-21 01:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Knock on the door while they are doing the deed and yell "shut the f--- up!"
Or call the police for noise disturbances. Tell them you think a party is going on.
2006-09-21 01:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by NecropolisXR 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All of your three choices are good,the only
other thing I can think of is for you & your
wife make love at the same time, or buy
them a new set of springs. (lol)
2006-09-21 00:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋