This has really got me down guys, a guy that ive considered one of my best friends for probably 3 years now told me earlier that he has been in love with me since he met me. I really dont feel the same though, not at all. But thats only the start of it now I just keep thinking of all the things that weve done together over the years that he probably took in a totally different way I did. I really dont know what to do without changing things between us, help please.
2006-09-20 17:32:55 · 7 answers · asked by Brittney G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him what a dear friend he has been to you and that you love him as a friend but are not "in love" with him. Also that you hope that does not interfere with your friendship. Who knows, maybe your feelings will change later on.
2006-09-20 17:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by moekittykitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, hon...this is such a tough one. I've been on the opposite side of your situation...I was in love with my best guy friend ever since I met him, but he, like you, just didn't feel the same way.
To be completely honest with you, I don't think that there's anything you can do to prevent things changing between the two of you, at least slightly. Things always tend to become awkward in a friendship when one person wants to make things romantic.
My best advice to you is to tell him, in the kindest way possible, that while you aren't interested in him romantically, you really do cherish his friendship and want to keep him as a friend (assuming that you do). My biggest regret is that after telling my guy friend how I felt, our friendship fell apart & never recovered. Take care of your friendship first....relationships come and go, but friendships last much longer.
I'll definitely be keeping my fingers crossed for you, hon...take care.
2006-09-21 00:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by wyldberry880 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta tell him now. You'll break his heart, but do it soon so he can move on quickly. You women don't realize that when you send out messages, unless you clarify them to us, we get confused easily and think you're in love with us. Don't string him on. Tell him straight up that he's a great friend, but that's all and that you are not in love with him, never have been, and never will be! You'll probably loose his friendship, but that's what happens when **** happens!
2006-09-21 00:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by the_md_victor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the things your doing really dont matter so dont change. just tell him nicely that you love him but are not in love with him. you never know mabe one day you might become atracted to him. try not to hurt his feelings. goodluck
2006-09-21 00:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. Take the heat off the two of you. And who knows maybe some day you will be that couple..........or not. Eighther way you should tell him how your feeling.
2006-09-21 01:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH HIM AND TELL HIM THE
TRUTH THAT YOU CHERISH HIS FRIENDSHIP. AND ALWAY
WILL BUT YOU DONT FEEL AS HE DOES. AND HOPE THAT
BOTH OF YOU CAN MOVE ON BECAUSE A FRIENDSHIP IS
HARD TO FIND. SO I HOPE YOU BOTH CAN CONTINUE
THE FRIENDSHIP.
2006-09-21 00:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and talk it through if he really loves you he will understand
2006-09-21 00:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋