My wedding is just a week away. I'm pregnant. I yelling at my bf everyday and we often have disagreement on the preparation for wedding. I'm not sure whether it's a cold feet before marriage or because of I am pregnant.We seldom quarrel b4 until when we decide to get married. I just want him to understand me better. But he doesn't seems to. When we quarrel, he just walked away and doesn't care of me at all.. eg. no phone call from him and even if i make the positive step to call him 1st, he did not bother to answer my call. Why he couldn't understand how i feel? I was a pregnant lady. I'm too tired to handle everything. How to make him understand? Whenever I am angry at him, i will shout and cry then I will tell him i regret to pregnant with his child. I love him. He is such a good guy b4 but he start to change these few weeks when it getting nearer to our wedding. Is that he don't want to marry me?
2006-09-20 17:20:54 · 5 answers · asked by mida 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm sorry to hear about this, however I think that maybe you are both having cold feet, why don't you postpone the wedding until after your baby is born ( don't worry what other people think ), if things then improve go ahead and get married, if not call it a day and be happy. The time leading up to your marriage should be filled with absolute joy not arguments, you must look after yourself physically and mentally for the sake of your precious baby. Take care and good luck.xxx
2006-09-20 19:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been involved in 100 weddings or so.
1. Something is gonna go wrong. 99% of the time, no one but the people getting married know that something has gone wrong. If you don't care about something that's gone wrong, then your guests won't care either.
2. Being "married" is a state of mind. People are "married" long before the ceremony, and "divorced" long before the judge signs the papers. The wedding is just the party that makes it all "legal" and the relatives happy.
3. You'd be stressed out w/ the first kid even w/o the wedding. The financial strain alone is a killer. And, the fact that your life will never be the same again is definitely a reason for mourning and stress. It sounds like this baby wasn't planned, and it takes a lot for either parent to get past the fact that their own childhood (and wild young adult years) have now ended.
2006-09-21 00:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by geek49203 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one gets stressed out right before the wedding because their is still so much that has to be done. try spending time with each other alone and dont talk about the wedding. this will remind you why you are marrying this man that you love so much and who is the father of your child. Just know that You will be able to relax the wedding night and have some real fun!
2006-09-21 00:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by that girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax. Planning a wedding is stressful for a woman, and men (most of the time) don't know what all the fuss is about. Take a deep breath, relax, and let all the stress from planning and executing the wedding blow over. It won't be perfect, nothing is, but it will be nice, so enjoy.
2006-09-21 00:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by miracol@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to calm down! what do you think you are doing to your baby? i dont blame him for leaving...most ADULTS talk things out...not yelling will get you a lot farther...and to tell him you regret being pregnant with his baby??? what the hell are you trying to do? Pregnant or not, you need to find out what talk means and you need to have more consideration for that child you are carrying!. some marriage counselling is definately in order here..BEFORE the wedding
2006-09-21 00:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋