how the hell do u get over a guy? he treated me like ****, lied to me, used me, why do i miss him and how can i forget about his dumb ***???
2006-09-20 17:16:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
believe me..we've all had one!!..it get's to be some kind of addiction..like "if only I could help him he'd understand"...or Oh he can be real nice SOMETIMES!...the list goes on and on....it's not easy but you can do it..i did it...I lost 10 lbs and cried for 2 weeks....he was a dog that cheated on me after 1 1/2 years and I thought he was "the ONE"..how foolish of me...then he followed me everywhere and even sent me 2 dozen roses to my work...cards on my car...etc..and like a jerk I took him back after 4 months..and guess what?! yup..he did it again...once a dog always a dog...and now it's been years...I met my future husband like 3 months after that...I really wasn't interested and told my husband "let's just be friends first I've been through enough crap"....and then like 5 years later (believe me I took it slow) we married! and now I've run into the other one a couple of times and think "OH MY GOD he's such a loser I can't believe I did anything with him! and I cried and lost valuable time and energy over him!!!??!! Oh please!....so after saying all that...just cry get it out and over with ..DO NOT GET WEAK...and move on...but remember you don't need a guy to make you who you are so if you feel you do...take time out and get yourself feeling good about yourself again...there's a difference in a relationship or anything in life really when it's a WANT vs. NEED....good luck....don't look back..RUN!!!
2006-09-20 17:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by TWISTER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you keep telling yourself just that. He lied to you and used you. No self loving chick needs to deal with that. Don't know the exact situation, of course, but the easiest way to help you move on is to grieve a little about this loss. You did like him enough to give him a chance, so you can't really just drop this so quickly. Give yourself a few days or a week (depending on how long you too were together....) to reflect on BOTH the good times and the not so great ones.
While getting over an ex you shouldn't see him, if that's possible. It will only make you more frustrated. Go out with your friends and keep yourself busy. Even if you think about him, keep busy. Eventually you'll be waaaay more over this.
Learn from this mistake (HIM) and vow to never be with someone like this again.
2006-09-21 00:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just do!!! Time heals all wounds! You'll feel like crying staying in bed all day, eating whatever... that's fine to be in a slump but get out of it. You guys aren't together anymore for a reason...he's a jerk. You should think about all of these factors and decide that you could do better. You loved him but you should love yourself more. Take this time to do things that focus on you...don't call, write,contact him in any way (It's for the best, they always say really cute things to get you back and pull the same sh*t!). Good luck Girly! There are tons of other guys out there who'll appreciate you more than that jerk did!
2006-09-21 00:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by Nicolle D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl you sound just like me check it out i was with this guy off and on for about five years he was going thru alot of marital problems with his wife well when he finally decided to leave her i was like cool know were finally going to be together well turns out he had meet another chick and he ended up telling me he wanted to be with her blah blah blah i was heartbroken like you wouldnt believe i even slipped into depression the whole nine yards well 6 months later i get a phone call know mind y ou im on my way of finally letting go and getting over my broken heart and like the dumb as that i am i jump at the chance to b with him agian now his all in love with me right one problem im over it i keep thinking to myself what was i thinking im so much better than this asshole time heals all wounds and it helps when you have another guy at your side please miss him all you want but let it go girlfriend chances are hell continue to use you and lie to you because you allowed it before thats way guys are the way the are they do things because they know they can had you set him straight the first time he lied to you or you felt used and ended it things may have been different
2006-09-21 00:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by monieluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about what could be ahead. mr. right is out there somewhere. r u think of, " Oh, I miss him," and the good times? r u thinkin of the crap? is his personality just stuck in ur head. It'll take a while. I just broke up w my ex, and i do wonder how i would feel if i didnt have an other bf now. Scew the a-s and think of the sh-t u lost and what good might and will come.
2006-09-21 00:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by Artsy 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Females always like "bad boys." That is part of the attraction.
The best way to recoup is to find a worthy cause to become involved in. You can always find someone worse off than you are. It will make you feel better; and who knows, you might just find "Mr. Right" when you aren't looking.
2006-09-21 00:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by bowenvonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres the thing...for some odd reason girls like guys who treat them like crap. Its those guys that treat a woman good, that can't seem to get a nice girl. He used you so of course, your going to keep thinking about him. What you need to think about is all the crap he put you threw. Think about you. Getting over him? easy. Have a girls night out. Keep yourself busy. Workout. Having a scumbag like that....you should be over him.
2006-09-21 00:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get it in your head that he's done, youre done and the relationship was bad.. You wont get over him until youre good and ready in your own heart.
Realize this though.. why would you want to be with someone who treated you so bad? You should never let anyone get that advantage on you.
2006-09-21 00:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby. When you feel like you're starting to 'slip' (in to thinking about him) work on your hobby and put your best effort in to it. Looking towards 'not being treated like ****' always helps too.
2006-09-21 00:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lacking self-respect and self-love that is why you miss someone who mistreated you. You're subconsciously think that you don't deserved to be treated right. You need to stop dating for a while and learn to love yourself before leaning on someone else to love you. No one will love someone who doesn't love themselves.
2006-09-21 00:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋