I'm needing to know what would be the best course of action to take with this young girl to ensure that I have legal rights to the child that she can't come back say one to three years down the road and say "oh, I wnat my child back" after I have emotions not to mention finincal ties to the child. That is the reason I'm asking about Relinguishing parental rights. I still want the mother to know the progress of the child but I will be the child mother and I will have legal rights to the child.
2006-09-20 16:41:39 · 16 answers · asked by MSJAZZY74 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Talk with your attorney/lawyer.
Able to do so, I know in state of California, she must give up her parental rights along with the father. There was a case back in 1993 where a girl gave her child up for adoption. The father did not know until the child was 2 years old. He was able to get full custody of the baby, never minding this 2 year old has no clue who he is and the adoptive parents are in tears knowing their child is being ripped from them.
So you have to make sure they sign their rights away. Which giving for adoption and doing that can be a long process, depending on how it is done.
My future grandmother in law is fighting custody of her grandson who's mother see's him once a year. As long as she see's him once a year, she can't get full custody but now she is fighting harder cuz that is not fair to the child at all. Now the mother is contesting it in court saying she is better now (even though she just gave birth to another drug addicted baby...so the courts is not accepted that at this time thank goodness). So, it can be a drawn out process depending on the situation and if she contest it.
I honestly, speaking of what I would do, is not take the child in until I have rights to the child. It is not fair to you nor the child to be placed in that situation due to her selfishness.
2006-09-20 19:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you adopt the baby right after the birth, there is the law tht the real mother or father of the baby is not allowed to communicate, tell, or even hint tht the baby is theirs, unless an agreement is made on both parties. You have to discuss this matter with a lawyer and they will set all the papers and make you understand in full regarding the current law.
My friend adopted a baby from his friend, he made sure tht the if his friend comes in the near future and wants the baby back, the law will go against the real parent with a minimum of 7 years in prison because the contract has been breached.
2006-09-20 16:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jendralus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guardian ad litem and then to formal guardianship.
How "young" is the girl? Why doesn't she use birth control? Does she have a psych issue? If so, you can have her declared unfit.
Relinguishing rights? I would definitely contact an attorney. She could voluntarily waive rights, but how valid that would be down the road, especially if you keep her informed, may be an issue. Courts usually side with biological parent.
AND you have to have the father sign off, if his identity is known. If not known, again, down the road paternity testing, could take that child away from you regardless of what the mother signs off on, IF he is ever informed.
Good luck.
2006-09-20 16:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the mother's age. When the baby is born you can go to probate court and file a motion for termination of her parental rights. It is not usually a big drawn out court case...usually you meet in chambers with or without lawyers(depending on if either have one)and come to an agreement. If she agrees she signs the petition and her legal rights are terminated. You should be able to adopt the baby and change it's legal name then if you so choose.
2006-09-20 16:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible for you to legally adopt the baby? That way you have all the rights as it would be YOUR child. You would also get certain subsidies, like for daycare, etc. If she knows who the father is she would have to get his permission to put the baby up because he could come back later and take you to court and take the baby away...I have seen this in the news too many times!
2006-09-20 17:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally adopt the children on the grounds of desertion. She should be paying you child support. Has this girl never heard of birth control. Then again why stop having baby's if someone else looks after them.
2006-09-20 16:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there should be a community advise on this matters where you live.
nothing say in here will greatly help you because there are lots of details that can make a difference into the kind of plan of action you should take.
the fact that she its going with her 5th ride to the delivery room and its young and i supposed unable to take care of herself, again, i am only assuming here, should be given you the warning ligths before you did your deeds.
ultimately a lawyer shoild be consulted.
either way you are a target to been ripped off or potential future problems.
its in cases like this that makes the advocates for abortion a point on their favor.
2006-09-20 17:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Benjiamin F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need proper legal advice, not here on Answers. Seek out someone who really knows, and even then I think you're not going to be on solid ground - the News features stories of parents coming back years later to take their children back.
2006-09-20 16:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by MillwoodsGal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are going to have to go to court to adopt the child, thats the only way to ensure that she can't come back and take the child away from u
2006-09-20 17:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by regina p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go with an 'open' adoption, but the father has to relinquish his rights as well.
Good luck to you all!
2006-09-20 16:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋