I met this guy at a halloween store, he asked for my number and he seemed pretty nice. I was hesitant but I kind of liked him at the same time, so I gave it to him. He called me later that night, But I didn't like where the conversation was leading. He was telling me too much info about himself to me. Such as he likes variety in his sex life and asking me if I've ever done anything. When I said that I was saving myself, referred to me as "fresh meat". That put me off right there. He called again today, but I have a bad feeling about him. I'm probably not going to get in contact with him again, but I feel rude not calling him back. Am I doing the right thing? Thanks!
2006-09-20 16:37:35 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go with the little voice inside you that is telling you WEIRDO!!!....what you just wrote?....I know he's a nut job, and I don't know him, trust your inner voice!!!!!! Rude to not call him? are you kidding?...you are probably a nice person, and that can get you hurt, and I don't mean your heart!!!...Weirdo's like nice and nieve, trusting women....don't be offended, by nieve, we don't want our feelings hurt, so we wouldn't do that to someone else....just makes you vulnerable and this day and age, you can't trust anyone hate to say....Always be on guard, and the hell with being rude, I don't want to hear about you on the news!!!..I have 3 daughters, and too many women are victimized every day!!!!...You do not HAVE to call him back!!!! You don't owe him squat!!!!!!!!....understand????
2006-09-20 16:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should tell him how you feel. Don’t feel scare if he would turn you down. If you're too shy to approach him, what i did last time is that i call my secret admire. Sometime i wrote letter and e-mail. But i can say, talk to him in person sure has the edge and more advantage.
Love is a lasting forever thing. So take your time. and no rush. Boys look at 2 things, prettiness and good personality. You know what pretty is. Good personality is the way u act and speak and how u behave yourself, also how u conduct yourself. They often look for good qualities. This is quite a tough area to improve. In other words, if they like u, means they really like u. If not, then, don't be sad and give up like others do, maybe there's still a chance u can improve.
All the best to u.
2006-09-21 00:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually ur 1st instinct is the right one. This could also be a way of his nervousness manifesting itself. Hard to say. When you first meet strangers there's nothing wrong with being assertive when it comes to your boundaries and level of comfort. It's possible that in his own mind he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong. When he referred to you as "fresh meat" you should have told him right and then there that you didn't appreciate that comment. If he would have said "I'm sorry I didn't mean it that way, I was just trying to be funny" then it's OK.
But if he would have responded with "What? Just chill man, quit being such a prude", then you know what he's like. I'd give him one more chance and if you don't like where the conversation goes you have to be assertive and let him know that you're not comfortable with that kind of talk. This is your way of screening him out if he doesn't respect your boundaries. I think it's reasonable. And if you don't want to call him back then don't. He's a stranger and you don't know him anyway really so you don't owe him JACK. You could take the high road and the next time he calls just tell him that it's best that he not call anymore. No need to give speeches, no need to say "let's stay friends".
But nah, it's not rude to not call him back. I think he just wants to jump your bones. :P
Rod
2006-09-20 23:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you concerned about being rude in not calling him back? You already know he's a perverted lunatic or you wouldn't be on here asking about this... the next time he calls, answer the phone, and be confident and sure of yourself when you tell him that He no longer needs to dial your number that you're not interested... and if he calls after that.. call the police!!! I don't know how old you are, but I strongly suggest that if you are a teenager.. you need to tell someone about this.. especially your parents! And if you are desperately afraid to tell them, tell a parent of a friend you trust. This guy if he's dangerous can track you to where you live thru your phone number and if he is continually calling you with remarks such as that they all need to know and take action to protect you from him!
2006-09-20 23:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by someone s 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im almost always thinking honesty is best,, be upfront but not necessarily rude,, but comments like "fresh meat" from a potential date arent cool really, he should know the person better for that kind of slang,, hes a jerk and surely gets rejected often,, a female is allowed to ignore and not be upfront when shes not interested,, b/c it is safer that way,, ur honestly and sensetivity by verbally rejecting him may increase his attraction,, the youll have a psycho stalker,, dont call him back,, if he calls in future tell him u meet a guy that swept u off ur feet as soon as u got off the phone ur 1st chat,,
2006-09-21 03:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by UrNo1Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him and tell him that you don't feel comfortable with him.
Or you can not be honest and tell him you have a b/f that you were just being a flirt and tell him sorry for the inconvenience you may have caused him..
Then there is the "Well I'm sorry who are you? When did we meet? Oh that must have been the day I forgot to take my meds and you must have come in contact with one of my other personality's! I am sorry... I cant see you again please stop calling or my husband/father/ boyfriend is going to come looking for you!" :)
Good luck, but honesty is always best ;)
2006-09-20 23:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by baby_thumper_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but if some guy referred to me as "fresh meat", I wouldn't be to comfortable talking to them either!? He doesn't want a relationship, he just wants sex. And if that isn't what you want, don't feel obligated to call him back. He doesn't deserve a call from you. Trust your instincts. If you don't feel right about someone, go with it! Chances are, there IS something wrong with them!!
2006-09-20 23:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts - they seem very sound. Let's face it HE IS THE ONE WHO IS RUDE BY BEING OFFENSIVE. Don't feel pressured to phone him back, he is bad news.
Where we live there is a way to block phone numbers so that they cannot call you. Phone the operator where you live & see if you can activate that.
2006-09-20 23:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think you are doing the right thing! He kinda sounds like a FREAK!!!! Why would anybody want to talk about stuff like that with the first phone call? I would never talk to him again!!! Be Safe!
2006-09-20 23:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by hippiechic35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl, don't feel rude, tell him to hit the bricks. Any man who immediately talks sexually to you, that is all he is after. And now he knows you are a virgin, it makes him only want you more, so he can tell all his friends he had you, then he'll dump you. You save yourself for a real man who cares and loves you. He is rude and arrogant, ignore him.
2006-09-20 23:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋