ok here's the deal. My boyfriend is the sweetest guy ever normally. but sometimes he gets busy hanging out with his friends the whole day and doesn't even text me. Sure that's not a problem normally but the thing is i tell him I'm really depressed and he doesn't seem to care. he doesn't answer my texts and when he does he just tells me to chill out. now his phone is off. I just want him to make me feel better. I've been on the brink of crying all day and he's the only one who makes me feel better. What do i do? am I being psycho? be honest.
2006-09-20 16:17:13 · 29 answers · asked by Future Mrs. Beuerlein 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok here is wat you need to:
talk to him not over texting i mean in person. call his house and tell him that you need to talk to him but your not going to break up with him.
tell him how you are feeling and if he doesn't really seam to care that much then maybe hes not the Mr. Right. love sucks basically
2006-09-20 16:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Weve all been there. You are head over heels in love. You may be over-obsessing just a bit though. You may want to back off on the phone calls and let him come to you. Like they say, if you love someone, let them go, and if they come back, then it is for real. But there is nothing wrong with being so in love that he is all you think about. Write him a letter about how you are feeling, and see how he responds. If he doesnt respond the way you want him to, then schedule a dinner to sit down with him and evaluate the situation. Let him tell you how he is feeling and let him be honest. Let him pick out the place and time, and he will be more comfortable to let loose and be open with you.
I hope it all works out for you. Everything happens for a reason.
2006-09-20 23:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by tracy g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not psycho. I'm at the end of an 11 year relationship because even tho he's sweet and caring when we are together, he spends far too much time away doing his own thing. Just remember, down the track, things that bother you now will only magnify. I've put up with it for years and only now have I decided I'm not going to put up with it for another minute. I'm sick of being sad and feeling alone, so now, I've given up smoking, taken up exercise and hobbies and will live to please myself first. I hope you can do the same. When you respect yourself first, the men will respect you more as well. Good luck
2006-09-20 23:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by jewel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean this to sound harsh but you sound way too needy and clingy. Everyone needs their space now and then. When you are feeling down and you know your boyfriend is out with his buddies why don't you call up one of your girlfriends and go have drinks or something. I have a wonderful guy also but every now and then he needs time alone as do I. Guys are always way more into girls that know the fine line of what being too needy is. Good luck sweetie and I hope you are feeling better.
2006-09-20 23:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you aren't being psycho, but your boyfriend needs time to himself too, just to chill w/ his buddies. I'm sure he cares, but we all need a break sometimes, just to relax, im sure you have your girls day/night out, so let him have his. And as for your depression, i would either seek help professionaly or find a family member or girl friend to talk to, it will make you feel a whole lot better knowing that there is more than one person out there that can help you in a time of need
2006-09-20 23:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we have all been there...and yeah, that must really suck.
I don't think you are psycho...you actually seem reasonable and logicial about the whole thing.
What if you just told him how you've been feeling and that it would really help if he could spend a little extra time with you right now....?
If that does not work, as childish as it sounds, you need to ignore him for a little while. If you are always calling him, texting him, etc... than he knows you are there waiting. Go out with your friends, go shopping, d something to occupy yourself and be unreachable for a change.
2006-09-20 23:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by smiley_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you think you are in love with your b/f, but you are not really in love with him.
By becoming too dependent on him, you are scaring him away. I think he must be stressed over your crying over his shoulders all the time. Stop treating him as though he's the only person in your life! It's very depressing for him if it becomes too frequent.
Get a life of your own! Show him that you are able to be independent if necessary. Then your relationship will change for the better.
2006-09-20 23:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nah, everyone goes through that crap unfortunately. You need to find out if he really is into you. he shouldnt be choosing friends over you. You dont need to text him that mush but even if you do he sould respond back. i would give him one call when hes out and he should pick up. i know he makes you feel better and thats probably b/c you dropped all of your friends for him and all you have is him. Find out if he reallyis into you and talk to him. Guys dont really know what they do wrong until you tell them. But you cant yell at them, you have to explain to them and tell them why you feel the way you do and tell them to try being in your shoes.
2006-09-20 23:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok if this is something that is like just now happening then maybe you do need to chill out but if things have been going on like this for awhile you need to reevaluate the relationship. He has to be able to meet all of your needs including the emotional ones.
2006-09-20 23:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by ChRiSsY 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps he doesn't care? If that is the case then you're doomed to a certain amount of heartache and the best thing to do would be find something else that makes you feel better.
2006-09-20 23:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by Frank P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not psycho. He just doesn't love you that much. He just likes you. That's all. He doesn't care for you much. I would never do that to my girlfriend if I love her. I would definitely make time for my girl if it requires me to hang with my friends less often. I just want to be with my girl and be with her everyday. I would want to be with my girl every second of the day. I hate that quote "Bros before hoes". "Bros before hoes" basically means that their friends get first priority and his girlfriend is 2nd priority. I hate people when they do that. I am going to make a new phrase "Lovers before companionship". That's my new quote.
2006-09-20 23:52:13 · answer #11 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋