My boyfriends mom is very abusive to him she is constantly yelling at him and hiting him and he don't deserve it . How can I help him ?I the only one he really trusts. he has almost killed himself cause of this! He is only 14!
2006-09-20 16:16:32 · 23 answers · asked by Megan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you jump up and call the police:
Where I live, the cops LAUGH when a kid calls on their parents. They seem to think that the kid is over reacting. Even if this is not the case, it's not like the first time you call the police the problem will be solved. Up until a certain point, it will probably only make it worse. I mean, think about how pissed she will be when the cops come to her house! Then he's really in for it. You, your bf, counselors etc need to begin working behind the scenes to collect enough evidence, unknowingly to the mother, to enable him to get out of the house for good. B/c if the police come, the will say like "what's going on" then the mother and son will probably argue infront of the police and then the police will say "if I have to come back out again tonight somebody is going to jail. Probably the kid unfortunately. Then they'll go inside and the a,s,s, whippin will REALLY be on.
Just think things through.
2006-09-20 16:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Frank P 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is truely hitting him, and I'm not talking about slapping him on his arm or on his butt, but hitting him with closed fists to his face or at that matter any part of his body with the intent to harm, then you could report this to your local police department or...contact CPS and they will investigate her no questions asked. If CPS gets involved and if he has visible marks on his body from her attacking him, they will make her life a living hell. In the meantime, your boyfriend will probably need to move out. Maybe your parents can take temporary legal custody of him until they finish investigating her. Usually it takes a full 6 months or so for the investigation to go through. The boy is too young to be having feelings of suicide, that in its self to raise a red flag. Act on this quick before he does something
2006-09-20 23:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the Police right away or report her to the State Department of Human Services
2006-09-20 23:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is alot of responsibilty for both you and him and have at such a young age and it is an extremely difficult. speak to him and ask him what he wants to do. do not act on his behalf, in the sense that you do what you think is best, only do things that he asks you too. the thing that he needs most from you is a shoulder to cry on and someone to listen too. you can be this person. do not expect to make everything okay for him because unfortunately you can't do that. also in australia we have a kids helpline where people under 18 can call and get counselling on any number of issues and you don't have to give them you name and its a free call. maybe they have something like that where you are. good luck and stay strong.
2006-09-20 23:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was older i would say tell him to move out...but because he is still 14 the only solution to the problem would be to get child services involved...I don't really know the extent of the abuse or weither there is a father involved...are the parents divorced??....is there a family member he can possible go live with(e.i aunt or uncle)...
2006-09-20 23:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Carlos P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you need to do to protect him. Here's a hotline number you can call: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) It will take a great deal of courage to act but it will be well worth it. Don't ask him if you should call, just call. The reason? He doesn't like the abuse but deep down may think it's normal. God bless you.
2006-09-20 23:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call the cops and ask them what they could do to help you in this situation. You may have to report some evidence (Either a video tape of her abusing him, or marks on his body from her). Make sure the authorities are there on your side, otherwise no one will believe you
2006-09-20 23:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by ridingis4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the state you live in and how the mother is hitting him whether it's considered abuse. Call the cops if you think it is or tell a school counselor.
2006-09-20 23:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they both need some help maybe your parents can talk to him or a school counselor but dont just stand back and watch it happen do something now and who knows maybe you will save his life if nothing else go to the police even if he tells you no this is a serious problem and maybe he wants the help but dont know how to get it
2006-09-20 23:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by leslie j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First.. you are only 14 and shouldn't be having a boyfriend.
Second.. he does need help. Have either your family or friends or the pastors from the church to talk to her.
Do something.. but don't give up.. he needs your help. Just be his friend and give him the strength he needs.
2006-09-20 23:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by amoreflowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋