This has been a pattern for many years. He hates it! He does not want to do the work. We have had him tested, in therapy, public & private school, grounded, taken everything away, paid him for good grades & other incentives. He's a freshman now & hates it! He gives me a hard time, attitude etc. I can't take this for 4 more years - any ideas? We have a good family life, his Dad is very involved with him also, they surf together. Our daughter does not have these problems, she's in jr. high. Any ideas?? Help.
2006-09-20 16:14:32 · 9 answers · asked by Forever 6 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Shoot i hate school to but i dont throw hissy fits about it i dont know whats wrong with him but good luck on finding a cure for his situation.
2006-09-20 16:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by dan248man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I hated school! I did the exact same thing & worse. I'd fake sick and everything.
My reasons? I was teased, I had dyslexia & never really any friends. I dropped out in 10th grade because I was going to have to do it all over again at 17. I got my GED.
I now homeschool my children. Have you thought about this? Talk to your son. Ask him why he hates it. Don't yell at him try to get an honest answer. There are many other things that you can do.
I remember not to long ago seeing some public school online where your kid from ages 6-18 could get their education for free, but I can't find the website. Try some of the links below.
Good luck. I have been where your son is and it was an awful time. So please listen to him.
2006-09-20 23:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by Faith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a teacher stand point, many things could be an issue.
First, as the above person said, he maybe having trouble with school work. If that is the case, you want to take him to a specialized educational supplement, such as Sylvan or Kumon.
Second, its possible that he is being picked on by other students. If that is the case, then it will only get better if you help find a solution.
Third, he maybe hanging out with a group of kids who he thinks school is not cool. Nothing you can do here.
Fourth, he may not be getting the challenge he needs. Sometimes, students enjoy school more if they are not bored.
Fifth, he may have a really bad teacher or teachers that put him off of school.
Finally, he just may not like school. There is nothing you can do to get him to like school. Instead, help him realize that school is a stepping stone to a career he wants.
Be sure to talk with him as well as his teachers. As his parent, you are the first person who should stand up for him and protect him if he is having troubles. Also, keep in mind your daughter and son are two different people and should not be compared with each other, since they will have completly different reactions.
2006-09-20 23:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by nom_de_plume30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please no offense intended but---who is the parent? he gives you a hard time, attitude...maybe because instead of being a parent you have tried to be his friend. You can take it for 4 more years and then he is an adult and on his own.
My son is a teenager too and hates school and the work but I tell him tough sh**, right now his job is to go to school. It is his choice if he does the work or not-it comes down to how many years he wants to spend in high school-4 or 5 or 6. However if you really can't take it give him the option of acquiring his GED in 2 years if he successfully completes his freshman and sophomore years. At 16 he is able to get a job and support himself while he files for emancipation. Maybe a dose of reality and experiencing the struggle his parents face to keep a roof over his head and food on the table is just what he needs.
2006-09-20 23:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have learning problems, is he being picked on?
My son was Joe cool, but had learning problems, he was always just a few points away from failing everything all of the time. I wish I could give you an answer, but there isn't one. He has to be motivated himself.
What are his career plans? Is there anything there that can motivate him? Does he like cars, computers, building, ....is there a chance that your school has a program like this that can be used as a motivating factor.
I will bet if you took school out of the equation you got a really great, hardworking, likeable kid.
It is so hard and there really is so little you can do. Mine joined the Navy, and what a change in him. He is now signing up for college courses on his own. He got internally motivated.
I really feel for you, cause I have been there. Just hang in there and do your best. It is all you can do.
2006-09-20 23:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 15yr old son, he has disliked school ever since he was in the 7th grade. He is passing but not doing great. I have tried all the things you mentioned, he has been in private school since the third grade and I don't regret it. At that age, the boys are bombarded by hormones, racing thoughts and peer pressure. Be patient with him, love him, in spite of his shortcomings, keep the grounding, etc, but stop the lectures. I did, there are consequences but I don't let the lectures interfere with my relationship with my son. He finally told me today, he found out what he really likes: government and Philosophy, and I am thinking that he will develop and grow in those areas. He admits and I agree he is weak in algebra, but he tries to pass. Let him float, crawl, walk through freshman year, being in High School is a Psychological re adjustment for most kids, specially boys. Be patient, one day he will wake up and surprise you.
2006-09-20 23:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by twelfntwelf3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he go to school with his hair uncombed, and not care what he wears to school? Does he complain about preps and jocks?? Does he say that he needs no ones help?? Do kids make fun of him cause of all these things? Some kids don't like school, but think it's OK cause they can hangout with their friends. It sounds like this is not the case for your son. I believe that his way of thinking may be "clogged" and distorted. He sees people in a negative way. One possible solution is to make sure he's dressed nicely and his hair is combed, suggest that he joins clubs in school, sports, yearbook staff. Somewhere where his peers could influence him in a positive way. I feel that he may need to get out more and see what the truth is, therefore it would erase some of his negative philosophies on life as a whole.
2006-09-20 23:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by james w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably having trouble learning.
What is the teacher/student ratio?
I would have conferences with all of his teachers and find out what is going on with him.
Good luck
2006-09-20 23:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have "had" a PC (problem child), and now she is the light of my life. Don't let him him quit school!!!
2006-09-20 23:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
military school...it builds character
2006-09-20 23:24:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋