Here is my question: I have been dating a guy for quite some time now and I love him dearly, but should I move in with him or wait until we are both engaged or married? Please answer honestly and give your reasons!
2006-09-20 16:06:43 · 25 answers · asked by ridingis4life 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well my sister and her fiance live together. I think it's ok. or you can take the route of my parents they lived together a month before they got married. I think it'd be a good idea before u get married to make sure that this is REALLY what you want and then u can possibly avoid a messy divorce.
2006-09-20 16:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Future Mrs. Beuerlein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what you do to have a successful marriage, it's who you choose to marry that makes all the difference. Talk is cheap, do a lot of it. There are ways to find out how he may be in closed doors without moving in with him. I say keep the mystery and because you chose to marry him, work out what ever happens once you move in after the wedding. Love concurs all. He will be the same at home today as he will be when you are married. Might as well do it right and wait. Hope you make the right decision, I can imagine it's hard when it appears normal to move in with anyone to try it out. If he's the one, I say wait.
2006-09-20 16:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're trying to be very traditional ask yourself this: Have I had sex with him?
If the answer is no- Take it as slowly and traditionally as you'd like.
If yes, and the two of you do have sex- move in together- make sure you can co-exist.
The reason I say no if you're not having sex is because- if you wait until your honeymoon to have sex and then move in together- you'll probably stay married longer and hopefully forever.
It's not a big deal if you've already started having sex.
Although my answer changes if you're a virgin and he's not... then you better move in, because half on the traditional scenario has been compromised.
Good luck and congrats on your engagement! :)
2006-09-20 16:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by superdink_dotcalm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things are going to depend on whether you move in or not. I feel that moving in and testing the waters is a good practice.
Both of you should be employed. Solidly. Be over 23 years of age. have a clear set of rules on who pays for what and what gets done by whom, like shopping, cleaning, and the rest. An important question is also are you living on your own now? Is he? First time on there owners can be a real pain in the ***.
2006-09-20 16:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband moved into my house after we got engaged. I would NEVER have let him move in if we weren't at LEAST engaged.
At the time, I owned my home, and he rented his and his lease was up. Since he'd be moving in after we got married anyhow, and we were 30 at the time - we figured it made more sense to save the money and let his lease end and he moved in with me. Besides, I lived 2 miles from his work at the time, and it cut his drive time by 80%!!
We did it because we knew we were getting married anyhow, and it nsaved us time and money.
On top of that, we got all the moving in issues overwith BEFORE the wedding (because combining houses of two very independent people has some bumbs and bruises) so it was nice to get that out of the way!
2006-09-20 16:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i needed a place to stay and moved in with my bf after a month of dating him, and 4 months of knowing him... we didnt know how things would work out, but we are really mature and never yell at each other. we talk about things.. and we having been seeing each other almost 24/7 for the past year now, and the relationship is better.. and what that girl said above is not true.. you should move in with him before you marry, so you will get an idea of how things will be..
2006-09-20 16:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by hey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look it is 2006 not 1955, move in with someone for 6m to a year, and see how it works out. Speaking from experience, many a 'great' person turned sour once I was living with them. If you wait until you are married it will be too late. Move it, roll the dice, and see where it takes you.
2006-09-20 16:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by simmsdanjen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married!
2006-09-20 16:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start slow by staying over the weekend, if that goes okay, extend it a little more. If you like it, I say move in together. I thought it was important to get to know my husband by living with him before we got married. However, if you do, there isn't that much to look forward to after you get married, everything will just seem the same. Go with your heart in the end.
2006-09-20 16:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by kay7382 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live with him before you get married ! But wait till you get engaged so you actually get married. You love eachother but what if you can't stand living with eachother. He could have habbits you dont know about that could drive you crazy. So i would give it a trial run before you get married.
2006-09-20 16:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋