While I was in west Virgina My husband got drunk and left the door open. My two year old pug wich I loved very much and cost a whole lot money, got out the door and got ran over. He acts like I shouldn't me mad at.him. he acts like he isn't even upset that shes dead. Am I wrong and over reacting? I feel like someone has jerked out my heart and stomped on it.
2006-09-20 16:03:51 · 16 answers · asked by gigi 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I understand the pain of loosing a dog. Maybe your husband wants to downplay the seriousness rather than aggravate it. One important question I have is"Why at 2 years old was your dog not trained" In my opinion who ever failed to train her is more responsible for her death than the one who opened the door.
2006-09-20 16:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In every long-term relationship there is at least one event where a person commits a really, REALLY bad stupid mistake. Letting your dog out to get run over probably qualifies (along with buying a car that the other person hates, having an affair, etc).
You've got a choice... hang on to that grudge, or let it go as best you can. If you hang on you'll probably kill the relationship. If you let go, hubby probably won't let the dog out again.
Personally, I'd suggest that the real problem here is with getting drunk... drinking is okay, but getting drunk never is okay.
2006-09-20 16:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by geek49203 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are totally justified in feeling the way you do. husband sounds like a huge loser. even if he didnt care about the dog at all, which he clearly doesnt, he should be upset that YOU are upset. Maybe you should get drunk and "accidently" lose or destroy somrthing thats really important (though not alive!) to him. Or just get a divorce. Hope you dont have any children with the jerk, i'd hate to see what he'd let happen to them.
2006-09-20 20:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by EileenNellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry for the loss of your Pug. Accidents do happen ,it's a fact of life.Imho it's better to forgive and go on with your life.Try not to drag it on. Beneath his macho facade he probably feels very bad about what happened. He probably doesn't know how to say i'm sorry.He most likely learned a very hard lesson about dogs and leaving doors open.
2006-09-20 17:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by pitbullmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. I really am.
I am a total dog person. My dog is like a child to me.
When I was younger, I had a dog who was hit by a car... i was crushed.
As for your hubby.. I don't know what to say. ALL men are NOT alike in that department. I have no idea why he is so cold and callous to your mourning right now. Seems to me this is when he should show his concern the most....
May be it's time he quit drinking.... I don't know, i'm not him.
Anyhow... sorry about your loss...
Peace....
2006-09-20 16:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You husband is an irresponsible jerk. He doesn't understand that you loved that doggie. Maybe your husband doesn't understand what it is to love an innocent, vulnerable creature.
I hope that you aren't planning on having any babies with this jerk. The incident with the dog is a forerunner of what life will be like with him when he is a dad.
Leave him. Divorce him. Find yourself a real man.
2006-09-20 16:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by lifeloom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard for people (men and women) to take responsibility for their actions and to say that they're sorry. People don't want to think that they make mistakes. Men are the worst about this I think because so many of them have to try to be right all the time.
2006-09-20 16:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was upset when my dog got ran over also, but since your dog was the one who got outside and ran into the street I agree that he isn't at fault and shouldn't blame himself. The one most to blame is the dog himself. It was an unfortunate accident, but an accident nonetheless.
2006-09-20 16:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by zooba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww, poor puppydog. =[
I think it was your husband's fault for getting drunk in the first place. If we didn't have alcohol, there would be a whole lot less problems in this world.
But don't get a divorce or anything just because of that...
And he definitely should apologize. Fersure.
2006-09-20 16:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably thinks you should feel sorry for him cause he had a hang over. You aren't over reacting - I would feel like I was dying if this happened to one of my fur children. Men just haven't been taught it's okay to be sensitive and they don't know how to express their emotions. He may feel terrible about the whole thing but doesn't know how to tell you.
2006-09-20 16:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by celestialash 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋