I have a girl who is 3 months pregrant and she wants to get married but I don't really feel her. Because of the child that she is carying I feel like I should be married her. However, there is that other girl that I am talking to which I really like and feel compatible with and confortable around. I feel miserable and confused because i will feel bad if I leave the pregnant girl for the other one although i am not happy.
This pregrant girl is borring; she doesn't like to go out. We are always arguing and we think differently, nothing in common. We've been together for only 7 months. The problem is the other girl that i like has a baby of her own but this is not really a problem for me. I just dont want the society to judge and see me as a bad person for taking such decision (be with the other girl)
Any advice or help will be appreciated!
thanks
2006-09-20 16:00:54 · 24 answers · asked by bizi4life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No doubt the other girl will be boring in 7 months as well. You really need to "wrap that rascal" if you are going to have sex with someone that you have nothing in common with!
2006-09-20 16:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by funlady6632@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First i must say why have sex with someone you find boring? Next I will tell you that as long as you take care of the child there is nothing wrong with dating the other girl. Life is too short to worry about other peoples opinions. Besides it is worse for the child if the two of you argue all the time. Hearing parents argue can cause trauma. I think in the long run it is better for the child if you just help the mom out. Also, and this is not to be mean, but i would make sure that it is your child. I have known women to say that just to get married.
2006-09-20 16:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by ly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don marry her just because she is having your child. All you need to do is take care of your baby. You wont be doing her any favors by marrying her. If you are a good father, you wont be doing too much going out and having fun with this other female either. You need to be saving some money and getting prepared for this baby. You need to tell pregnant girl now how you feel and see how she is going to take it. If she is in love with you, she might try to make your life a living hell. So you want to be ready for that. As for the other girl, you need to see how she feels about your baby on the way. What her situation is with her childs father and all of that before you make a decision to be with her. Just be there for your baby in all ways. Good Luck!
2006-09-20 16:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok all in all this will have to be your decision and your decision only but judging from experience (personal and other) just because you have a child with someone is not a reason to stay with him. In the long run everyone just ends up getting hurt more. And believe it or not when children grow up, they can tell whether their parents were together because of them or because of love. It's easier to live in a broken family than a broken home if you get what I mean. Just follow your heart. And if you choose the other girl just be the best father you can be to both her baby and your own.
2006-09-20 16:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by ChRiSsY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have nothing in common with the pregnant girl then you shouldn't have been having sex. Be a father to the child and don't be with any woman until you get your head on straight and start being smart about protected sex. Think of other things that could happen. STD'S and that kind of stuff
2006-09-20 16:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be a man and take care of your child, but if you don't love the person then leave her alone. I have a 2yr old I felt sorry for her father so I stayed with him he broke her arm when she was 5 months old. He is now in prison for this, but right before he broke her arm I told him that I didn't love him and the only reason he was still around was because he was her father and I felt sorry for him. He was mad at me and took it out on my child. We argued all the time. It is not healthy for anyone to be in a relationship that you are not happy in!!!!!!!!!! I hope this helps you out.
2006-09-20 16:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by drpnr22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and think about it ...
I believe as long as U are there for the mom and you baby to come .... you should never get married just because you feel forced into it ...you do have responsibility
But it also means that you were probably cheating on her to know this other girl ..... and if she knows your girlfriend is pregnant ... well that explains you will probably cheat on each other in the future ......
I not trying to be mean and I could be wrong but you need to see if you just want her because you feel tied down with your baby's mom ...... I would take it slow ...... and please use protection it would have saved you this dilemma .....
good luck I hope it works out no mater what you decide
2006-09-20 16:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by I hear ya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get married just because you were to stupid to practice safe sex. you should still be involved in the childs life.
i think you should not be with either of them right now until your child is at least a year or 2 old, so you can be there 100% and be a positive influence.
2006-09-20 16:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in 6 months you and girl #1 are going to a lot in common..a baby. try to wait until the baby is born before you make any decision, it could change everything.
2006-09-20 16:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by clwknapik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm. well you should not marry someone because you will feel bad or be ashamed. marriage is all about spending the rest of your life with that special person. If she does not fit that description, then dont marry her. its not your fault she got pregnant and you should not feel it necessary for you to marry her because of the situation.
hope that helped.
good luck
2006-09-20 16:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋