What do you think on this subject? I personally think that having a open marriage makes no sense, why not just stay unmarried if all you are going to do is have sex with people other than your partner.
2006-09-20 15:48:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm with you on that one........I don't care what they say, its bs......you don't know what love is if you can share the person you love with someone else.
2006-09-20 15:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The :official" meaning of marriage is defined -
marriage n. the joining of a male and female in matrimony by a person qualified by law to perform the ceremony (a minister, priest, judge, justice of the peace, or some similar official), after having obtained a valid marriage license (which requires a blood test for venereal disease in about a third of the states and a waiting period from one to five days in several).
The problem with "open" marraige is that both parties have to concent to bring in others. When you add to a two situation and both dont agree completely, and agree on ground rules then someone gets hurt. So why bother with mariage if you want to add others. Just not a great concept to me. Most people dont have that great of communication skills...if your stepping into open marriage you need to be able to talk openly about anything,
and be able to live with what you say yes to.
2006-09-20 16:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Beamer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You assume a couple who are into the swinging lifestyle only have sex with people other than their partner... That is not true.... Most people into the swinging lifestyle have the majority of their sex with their partner one on one... Swinging is a hobby just like any other hobby it is only done occasionally....
If a couple chooses to marry and chooses to be involved with the swinging lifestyle those are thier choices to make for whatever reasons they choose to make them...
Thier choosing to have sex with partners other than thier spouse in no way effects me.. To each their own they can have an orgy with 50 people and as long as everyone involves is a consenting adult I hope they have a great time...
2006-09-20 15:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Swinging brings others in to a marriage which is absurd it's the whole point of marriage to just consist of two people. I think for a woman it would bring on thoughts of inadequacy and jealousy in men. I can't see any good in it. You are right why get married if you still want to get it on with other people. There are plenty of other things to spice it up. For me I would always wonder if he was thinking that whoever's wife was better in the sack than I was or if he was thinking about her while making love to me. For a guy I can't imagine wanting your buddy to screw your wife -- I mean of all things should that not remain sacred?? Definitely a negative to me. I don't want to share what's mine and he better not want to share me either.
2006-09-20 15:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by blondandsmart79 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We have had 2 sexual encounters using other people. It was exciting but I could not imagine watching him go out of the room to have sex with someone else
2006-09-20 16:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone wants to swing, I do not think they are ready for marriage. they should just do that and get serious later ( or maybe never lol).
I would rather have a real loving relationship.!!!!!
oh well to each their own I guess.
2006-09-20 15:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by Ginnykitty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe polygamy is ok between adults, but not swinging. We are still in a relationship, I'm not looking for open sexual encounters.
2006-09-20 15:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
open marriage isn't about love. if some guy in your life wants to marry you and then have sex with others, uhm big mistake. dont' he doesnt love you then if he wants to share you or he wants to be shared.
2006-09-20 15:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by melanie_jokester 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever floats your boat.
Don't forget the condoms.
2006-09-20 15:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother tried that and is now married to his ex-wifes girlfriend
2006-09-20 15:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by lester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋