I have been divorced for 4 years.
2006-09-20 15:47:12 · 19 answers · asked by out4justicenwv 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God, the Originator of marriage, designed it to be a permanent union. But is there any Scriptural reason for a person to divorce his or her mate—and one that would allow for the possibility of remarrying? Jesus addressed this matter by declaring: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) Sexual infidelity by a mate is the only ground for a divorce that will allow the innocent mate to remarry.
In addition, the Bible’s words at 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, while encouraging marriage mates to stay together, allow for separation. Some, after trying very hard to preserve their marriage, feel they have no choice but to separate. What can be acceptable Scriptural grounds for such a step?
One is willful nonsupport. When getting married, a husband assumes the responsibility of providing for his wife and children. The man who willfully fails to provide the material necessities of life “has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith.” (1 Timothy 5:8) So separation is possible.
Another is extreme physical abuse. So then, if a mate physically abuses his wife, the victim may separate. (Galatians 5:19-21; Titus 1:7) “Anyone loving violence [God’s] soul certainly hates.” Psalm 11:5.
Another ground for separation is the absolute endangerment of a believer’s spirituality—one’s relationship with God. When a mate’s opposition, perhaps including physical restraint, has made it impossible to pursue true worship and has imperiled the believer’s spirituality, then some believers have found it necessary to separate. Matthew 22:37; Acts 5:27-32.
However, if divorce is pursued under such circumstances, one would not be free to enter a new marriage. According to the Bible, the only legitimate ground for divorce that permits remarriage is adultery or “fornication.” Matthew 5:32.
The Bible allows only one reason for getting a divorce that frees a person to remarry, and that is fornication (Greek, porneia, gross sexual immorality). If fornication is committed, then the innocent mate may decide whether to get a divorce or not. Matthew 5:32.
After telling the Pharisees that the Mosaic concession of divorcing their wives was not the arrangement that had prevailed “from the beginning,” Jesus said: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Mt 19:8, 9)
Marriage involves two people with differing personalities learning to develop common interests and working together toward common goals. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, not a casual agreement that can be lightly abandoned. In many countries, divorce is not difficult to obtain, but in the eyes of a Christian, the marriage relationship is sacred. It is ended only for a very serious reason. (Matt. 19:9) Christian spouses can avail themselves of wise counsel from the Bible, support from fellow Christians, and a close, prayerful relationship with God. A successful marriage endures, and over the years, it brings happiness and contentment to husband and wife. More important, it brings honor to God, the Originator of marriage
2006-09-20 19:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by BJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with you. Jesus tells us at Matthew 5 that: 31 “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery." So a divorce is permissable IF there is adultry; although both also commit adultry if they remarry, Jesus tells us this sin is impugned to the ex-spouse who caused the marital breakup. Also, a divorced woman is free to remarry without sin if her ex-husband dies (Romans 7:2). I think you are misinterpreting 1 Cor. 7:10-16; if a believer marries an unbeliever, the believer is not to turn around and divorce the unbeliever simply because of his or her unbelief; if the unbeliever leaves the marriage, the bond is broken. We are "called to peace" (in other words, we are to follow the guidance of the Holy Spirit) as to whether or not we should remarry. The sanctification of the unbelieving spouse and children from the marriage doesn't mean they are saved. Peace.
2016-03-26 23:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by Kristina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says at Matthew 19:9 that "whoever divorces except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery".
This means that if you divorced because one or both of you cheated then you are scripturally free to remarry. If however you divorced over something like irreconcilable differences that scripturally you are not free to remarry. Except of course if one of you has slept with someone else since the divorce, and lets be realistic that has probably happened. So basically as far as the scriptures you are free to remarry.
Hope things work out for you
2006-09-20 16:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by SpecialK 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello Out for Justice,
Here are the verses where it talks about re-marriage. To answer your question plainly, the answer is no, you cannot remarry. Otherwise, you will be committing adultery. If your ex-husband marries, he will be the one committing adultery. The only time you are allowed to remarry is if your previous spouse had passed on. That is the only time a marriage is truly dissolved.
Luke 16:18
18"Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Mark 10:11,12
11He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. 12And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery."
In Deuteronomy 24:1-4 it says the following:
1 If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, 2 and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, 3 and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, 4 then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.
2006-09-20 16:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by mx3baby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the religion and how they see that question. Church of Christ, conservative, will tell you that unless your spouse cheated on you then you can't be divorced and then remarried. You have to stay with the a**hole until he cheats on you. But then again they also know exactly what each verse in the Bible means cause they were there to hear it all written.
Just get married again for pity sake if that is what you want to do and don't let a CHURCH or CHURCH MEMBERS tell you what they THINK the Bible says about it. It is your life remember, not theirs.
2006-09-20 15:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Mark 10:5
And Jesus answered and said
unto them, For the hardness of
your heart he wrote you this pre-
cept.
6 But from the beginning of the
creation God made them male
and female.
7 For this cause shall a man
leave his father and mother, and
cleave to his wife;
8 And they twain shall be one
flesh: so then they are no more
twain, but one flesh.
9 What therefore God hath
joined together, let no man put
asunder.
10 And in the house his desci-
ples asked him again of the same
matter.
11 And HE saith unto them,
Whosoever shall put away his
wife, and marry another, commit
teth adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put
away her husband, and be mar-
ried to another, she commiteth
adultery.
I've been divorced for 9 1/2 yrs.
2006-09-20 16:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by creeklops 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope. It is only ok if the first marriage was unlawful. Jesus said that divorce is ok only if the marriage was not lawful (this is mistranslated by many as adultery, but that is not the case)
Did you and your ex get married without any kind of pressure and of your own free will and consent?
Were you and your ex emotionally mature enough to enter into a permanent relationship?
Was there anything in your or your ex's life that was kept secret that would have made you decide not to get married if you knew about it?
If you answered "no" to any of these questions, your marriage may not have been a valid one to begin with.
Contact me if you have any questions.
2006-09-20 15:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The bible say's dont get divorced in the first place.
2006-09-20 15:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by hello 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The Bible says not to marry if you divorce...but remember, we all fallshort from the glory of God. If you marry again, select a man that you can stay married so that you do not repeat the mistake. God loves you dispite of your sins.
2006-09-20 15:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it says it is not okay unless the parties involved in the divorce committed adultery. read mathew Chapter 5-7
2006-09-20 15:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by stick man 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋